bluenorther
Senior Don Juan
There are other threads here about what kinds of women's occupations are red flags, but the threads keep getting hijacked.
I got into my current line of work figuring it would put me in a target-rich environment... shoeing horses for the ladies at the riding stables.
It can pay very well, mind you, and not many people can do the work well. It is dirty, difficult, and dangerous.
I've been doing this for 18 years.
I noticed right away, most of the women are married, middle-age, overweight, with adolescent daughters, and not much in between. By the time the girls hit college, they've discovered boys and cars and their horses become orphans. We don't see them again until they're pushing 50, the kids are grown and hubby has been thrown out on his azz.
I keep hearing about other guys and their horselady romances, but I've had exactly ONE, in all this time. It lasted just a few months (the sex was cosmic!).
One of my first big breaks was a 35-y.o. pretty riding instructor with a growing list of students, and she'd tell them to have me take care of their horses' feet, which I faithfully did for many years. The dollars rolled in.
From Day One, people were telling me to ask her out, but I balked. I discovered David D and the PUA community and got the nerve to ask, and she agreed.
It got me nowhere, though.
Broads and horses... what's the deal? It dawned on me, it's all about their control issues. Dames relate to horses just like they try to relate to men: big, hairy dangerous animals that can be useful, if properly trained. Horses that get the best attention are ones that only show some of what they're good at, and make her work extra to get the rest. A little azz-holiness goes a long way, too. Let the b!tch think she's in control, but keep her a little uncertain.
It's too bad, horses get so messed up in their heads-- just like their trainers.
The pretty riding instructor once asked me about a man I did some work for, because she'd had the hots for him. He wouldn't take her bait, though, and she almost had a nervous breakdown. She asked me if he's gotten any more manageable! SHE's the one who needs to learn how to work with people. One of her paying students had to remind her in no uncertain terms who her boss is. She wants to be treated like Royalty. "Royal" is not loyal; SUBJECTS are loyal. This woman doesn't have friends, she has subjects.
What finally broke up our working connection was when I tried to bring her to me as a friend, and she insisted on a control-based relationship. I was so furious, I nearly walked out on a huge chunk of business. That was over-reacting, and I could have done it better.
I see lots of women teaching horseback riding, and they're really messed in their heads.
I got into my current line of work figuring it would put me in a target-rich environment... shoeing horses for the ladies at the riding stables.
It can pay very well, mind you, and not many people can do the work well. It is dirty, difficult, and dangerous.
I've been doing this for 18 years.
I noticed right away, most of the women are married, middle-age, overweight, with adolescent daughters, and not much in between. By the time the girls hit college, they've discovered boys and cars and their horses become orphans. We don't see them again until they're pushing 50, the kids are grown and hubby has been thrown out on his azz.
I keep hearing about other guys and their horselady romances, but I've had exactly ONE, in all this time. It lasted just a few months (the sex was cosmic!).
One of my first big breaks was a 35-y.o. pretty riding instructor with a growing list of students, and she'd tell them to have me take care of their horses' feet, which I faithfully did for many years. The dollars rolled in.
From Day One, people were telling me to ask her out, but I balked. I discovered David D and the PUA community and got the nerve to ask, and she agreed.
It got me nowhere, though.
Broads and horses... what's the deal? It dawned on me, it's all about their control issues. Dames relate to horses just like they try to relate to men: big, hairy dangerous animals that can be useful, if properly trained. Horses that get the best attention are ones that only show some of what they're good at, and make her work extra to get the rest. A little azz-holiness goes a long way, too. Let the b!tch think she's in control, but keep her a little uncertain.
It's too bad, horses get so messed up in their heads-- just like their trainers.
The pretty riding instructor once asked me about a man I did some work for, because she'd had the hots for him. He wouldn't take her bait, though, and she almost had a nervous breakdown. She asked me if he's gotten any more manageable! SHE's the one who needs to learn how to work with people. One of her paying students had to remind her in no uncertain terms who her boss is. She wants to be treated like Royalty. "Royal" is not loyal; SUBJECTS are loyal. This woman doesn't have friends, she has subjects.
What finally broke up our working connection was when I tried to bring her to me as a friend, and she insisted on a control-based relationship. I was so furious, I nearly walked out on a huge chunk of business. That was over-reacting, and I could have done it better.
I see lots of women teaching horseback riding, and they're really messed in their heads.
