originaldj
Don Juan
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Against my better discretion I have fallen for a girl with a boyfriend. I have never really talked to him but we have a LOT of mutual friends. Thus, I don't necessarily feel any loyalty to him but would rather not make a move if I will be shot down and then have to hear about it from my buddies.
But, I have reason to believe that she is interested in me as well. Yesterday we went out "as friends" and although I was nervous in the beginning and was shying away from kino by the end of it I was lightly kinoing her pretty regularly. She didn't move away and initiated some herself. I know if I asked her to grab some drinks afterwards with me yesterday she would have said yes.
Anyways, I know I have oneitis but I am not going to next her just yet. The biggest mistake I made with my last and only other oneitis is that I let in drag on for way too long before making a move. For this oneitis, I just want to make my feelings known and either make it work or get shot down. The problem is she is a good girl and although it would be optimal that she comes on to me, I can't picture that happenning when she has a boyfriend. At the same time, I don't want to come off as needy or put a lot of pressure on her.
So here is the plan I came up with to see if she thinks of me as just a friend or something else: I will take her out to drinks I will just ask something along the lines of "Where do you see us, just friends?"
I am expecting that she will answer "yes, why?"
I will then respond with something along the lines of "Well, I think of us as friends first, but me and you have a lot in common and sometimes I think about what would happen if we became more"
What I want to know is that given my situation is there something better I can do to tell her I am interested in her without being to obvious about it.
I can't describe how ridiculous it is that I am planning a conversation in my head, so if the first few replies are too make fun of that, then please save yourself the trouble, I understand that it is retarded.
Also, I know some people will say "spin more plates". I am trying to, starting this Friday when I have plans to see another girl. Its just that I really want this one.
If you need to ask me anymore questions to better understand the situation feel free. Also, I feel that is important to note that she NEVER talks about her boyfriend when I see her.
But, I have reason to believe that she is interested in me as well. Yesterday we went out "as friends" and although I was nervous in the beginning and was shying away from kino by the end of it I was lightly kinoing her pretty regularly. She didn't move away and initiated some herself. I know if I asked her to grab some drinks afterwards with me yesterday she would have said yes.
Anyways, I know I have oneitis but I am not going to next her just yet. The biggest mistake I made with my last and only other oneitis is that I let in drag on for way too long before making a move. For this oneitis, I just want to make my feelings known and either make it work or get shot down. The problem is she is a good girl and although it would be optimal that she comes on to me, I can't picture that happenning when she has a boyfriend. At the same time, I don't want to come off as needy or put a lot of pressure on her.
So here is the plan I came up with to see if she thinks of me as just a friend or something else: I will take her out to drinks I will just ask something along the lines of "Where do you see us, just friends?"
I am expecting that she will answer "yes, why?"
I will then respond with something along the lines of "Well, I think of us as friends first, but me and you have a lot in common and sometimes I think about what would happen if we became more"
What I want to know is that given my situation is there something better I can do to tell her I am interested in her without being to obvious about it.
I can't describe how ridiculous it is that I am planning a conversation in my head, so if the first few replies are too make fun of that, then please save yourself the trouble, I understand that it is retarded.
Also, I know some people will say "spin more plates". I am trying to, starting this Friday when I have plans to see another girl. Its just that I really want this one.
If you need to ask me anymore questions to better understand the situation feel free. Also, I feel that is important to note that she NEVER talks about her boyfriend when I see her.