Bit of a read, but worth it.
We've been dating for several months now and I've rarely met her father, she's always kind of pushed him away. I'm good with her mother's side of the family and close to them. She told me her father was a little crazy but she underplayed it a bit as I would find out today.
Anyway, we were packing up to go on a road trip for the week when there's fierce knocking at the door and in busts her dad, a 5'11 guy looks me dead in the eye and starts accusing me of all of this stuff that I didn't do (i.e. that I'm the reason why my girlfriend hasn't called her mom back, etc.) and asks me if I was taking her for a road trip this week. I told him yes and he looks at me with this crazed look in his eye and tells me to stay the **** away from his daughter or he'll kill me. He repeated it again. My girlfriend was freaking out the whole time demanding him to stop and that he's acting crazy, which added fuel to the fire.
Needless to say, I'm 6'5 and 245 pounds compared to him, but there was something just about that look in his eye that scared the shyt out of me. I cannot think of a more dangerous combination than a bipolar crazy overprotective father who thinks some guy is "stealing his little girl" away, especially one that threatens to kill me.
Apparently she's been leaving some details out about her dad. Her father is out of his ****ing mind and apparently her mother is in an on-again-off-again relationship with him and he cheats on her all the time and threatens to kill other people her mother starts to see. I guess there was a reason I only briefly saw him at family outings and events while we were dating, but this is probably one of the biggest deal-breakers for me, especially since he's about a 5 minute drive away. Dude is legit ****ing crazy.
The ironic thing is that she's the most stable, normal, and overly responsible girl I've ever dated. Very mature for her age, doesn't drink, doesn't go to bars and doesn't really like to party. Shes' into classical music, Frank Sinatra, and she's an actress from LA. She's extremely mature and on top of her shyt (even moreso than I am), I'm assuming its probably because she's had to take care of this crazy ass family.
Fvcking infuriated me though and I'm wondering if I should I file a police report against him? How serious are death threats made in person?
I've been in my fair share of fights, and if there's one thing I've learned is that to never, ever underestimate adrenaline and pure desperation. And like I said, I cannot think of a more dangerous or desperate human being than a crazy overprotective father who's about to fight his daughter's boyfriend who he thinks is causing all of these unrelated problems in his family. No way in hell would I be eager to jump into a fight with him at that moment.
My girlfriend hates him, her mom hates him, and my girlfriend even encouraged me to file a police report.
I just don't know how to handle things from here. He lives like a 5 minute drive away and he was blaming random family problems on me and going off on me like I had ran over his dog. He's super, creepily protective of his daughter or just plain old fvcking crazy.
She's an amazing catch and ideally the perfect girl for me, but I don't really see any other way around this situation than to just end this relationship. I'm thinking its not ****ing worth it. If she moves out to LA again and I'm there maybe we could start up again but as it is now, no way. No way in hell. I've dealt with crazy before, I've dated crazy before, I have never encountered this kind of crazy before and I can only imagine what horrible ****ing things lie waiting for me if I continue this with her. Like, fearing for my life kind of crazy at how one day he'll just snap and bust into her apartment again, this time with a gun, and shoot me. I've never had a man look me in the eye before and literally threaten to kill me, and reiterate that fact twice.
No girl in this entire world, short of my wife and daughter, is worth putting up with the possibility of having that lurk around the corner.
I don't know, what do you guys think? This all just happened today, but gawd damn.
Cliffs:
- girlfriends dad is legit crazy
- met him a few times before
- suddenly bursts into apartment door as we're leaving for road trip
- blames a ton of random stuff about their family on her dating me thats totally unrelated
- threatens to kill me if I don't stay away from his daughter, absolutely bat**** crazy father
- contemplating filing a police report/wondering if i should break off the relationship
- read the post you lazy ass
We've been dating for several months now and I've rarely met her father, she's always kind of pushed him away. I'm good with her mother's side of the family and close to them. She told me her father was a little crazy but she underplayed it a bit as I would find out today.
Anyway, we were packing up to go on a road trip for the week when there's fierce knocking at the door and in busts her dad, a 5'11 guy looks me dead in the eye and starts accusing me of all of this stuff that I didn't do (i.e. that I'm the reason why my girlfriend hasn't called her mom back, etc.) and asks me if I was taking her for a road trip this week. I told him yes and he looks at me with this crazed look in his eye and tells me to stay the **** away from his daughter or he'll kill me. He repeated it again. My girlfriend was freaking out the whole time demanding him to stop and that he's acting crazy, which added fuel to the fire.
Needless to say, I'm 6'5 and 245 pounds compared to him, but there was something just about that look in his eye that scared the shyt out of me. I cannot think of a more dangerous combination than a bipolar crazy overprotective father who thinks some guy is "stealing his little girl" away, especially one that threatens to kill me.
Apparently she's been leaving some details out about her dad. Her father is out of his ****ing mind and apparently her mother is in an on-again-off-again relationship with him and he cheats on her all the time and threatens to kill other people her mother starts to see. I guess there was a reason I only briefly saw him at family outings and events while we were dating, but this is probably one of the biggest deal-breakers for me, especially since he's about a 5 minute drive away. Dude is legit ****ing crazy.
The ironic thing is that she's the most stable, normal, and overly responsible girl I've ever dated. Very mature for her age, doesn't drink, doesn't go to bars and doesn't really like to party. Shes' into classical music, Frank Sinatra, and she's an actress from LA. She's extremely mature and on top of her shyt (even moreso than I am), I'm assuming its probably because she's had to take care of this crazy ass family.
Fvcking infuriated me though and I'm wondering if I should I file a police report against him? How serious are death threats made in person?
I've been in my fair share of fights, and if there's one thing I've learned is that to never, ever underestimate adrenaline and pure desperation. And like I said, I cannot think of a more dangerous or desperate human being than a crazy overprotective father who's about to fight his daughter's boyfriend who he thinks is causing all of these unrelated problems in his family. No way in hell would I be eager to jump into a fight with him at that moment.
My girlfriend hates him, her mom hates him, and my girlfriend even encouraged me to file a police report.
I just don't know how to handle things from here. He lives like a 5 minute drive away and he was blaming random family problems on me and going off on me like I had ran over his dog. He's super, creepily protective of his daughter or just plain old fvcking crazy.
She's an amazing catch and ideally the perfect girl for me, but I don't really see any other way around this situation than to just end this relationship. I'm thinking its not ****ing worth it. If she moves out to LA again and I'm there maybe we could start up again but as it is now, no way. No way in hell. I've dealt with crazy before, I've dated crazy before, I have never encountered this kind of crazy before and I can only imagine what horrible ****ing things lie waiting for me if I continue this with her. Like, fearing for my life kind of crazy at how one day he'll just snap and bust into her apartment again, this time with a gun, and shoot me. I've never had a man look me in the eye before and literally threaten to kill me, and reiterate that fact twice.
No girl in this entire world, short of my wife and daughter, is worth putting up with the possibility of having that lurk around the corner.
I don't know, what do you guys think? This all just happened today, but gawd damn.
Cliffs:
- girlfriends dad is legit crazy
- met him a few times before
- suddenly bursts into apartment door as we're leaving for road trip
- blames a ton of random stuff about their family on her dating me thats totally unrelated
- threatens to kill me if I don't stay away from his daughter, absolutely bat**** crazy father
- contemplating filing a police report/wondering if i should break off the relationship
- read the post you lazy ass