Correct me if I'm wrong, but recently reading through boot camp this dawned on me. The art of the cold approach is nothing more than making happen the "Hit it off" portion of the old saying: "We met doing (insert action) and just sorta, hit it off".
It's just a matter of having the balls to approach and make that connection. It's our interpersonal skills and a successful approach that make up the "hit it off".
So my question.. I get the concept of hitting it off.. but I'm having problems with the approach. I have no problem creating rapport with people. I have many stores and restaurants that I go to and get "special" service because I create that rapport with strangers. And as I'm writing this my roommate has family over and I'm having no problems carrying on conversations with these new people. I really don't feel like I have a problem so much with the convo, it's the initiation. I went for a walk through my town .. took me a solid 45 minutes.. but every time I came across someone to spark a convo with, the approach would have been super awkward (ie ppl across the street so i'd have to beeline thru traffic, or a couple in the alley arguing.) I could have started talking with a lady about her dog, but when my dog and I walked past, her dog flipped out. haha Anyway.. I just feel like if I were to approach most of the people around here I'd be interrupting at a very awkward time for them, or stopping them in the middle of a mission. Am i missing something? I think about if i saw a girl at the bar when i'm out with friends and i can think of 100s of ways to approach her, and i know i'd do it.. wtf do i care if i get rejected, didn't know her before wont know her later to be embarassed. Might as well take the risk, right!? But trying to meet ppl on the street is proving stupid difficult.
It's just a matter of having the balls to approach and make that connection. It's our interpersonal skills and a successful approach that make up the "hit it off".
So my question.. I get the concept of hitting it off.. but I'm having problems with the approach. I have no problem creating rapport with people. I have many stores and restaurants that I go to and get "special" service because I create that rapport with strangers. And as I'm writing this my roommate has family over and I'm having no problems carrying on conversations with these new people. I really don't feel like I have a problem so much with the convo, it's the initiation. I went for a walk through my town .. took me a solid 45 minutes.. but every time I came across someone to spark a convo with, the approach would have been super awkward (ie ppl across the street so i'd have to beeline thru traffic, or a couple in the alley arguing.) I could have started talking with a lady about her dog, but when my dog and I walked past, her dog flipped out. haha Anyway.. I just feel like if I were to approach most of the people around here I'd be interrupting at a very awkward time for them, or stopping them in the middle of a mission. Am i missing something? I think about if i saw a girl at the bar when i'm out with friends and i can think of 100s of ways to approach her, and i know i'd do it.. wtf do i care if i get rejected, didn't know her before wont know her later to be embarassed. Might as well take the risk, right!? But trying to meet ppl on the street is proving stupid difficult.