In the past the whole looks/wealth/confidence thing has been debated to death, and undoubtedly all of these things play a role in attracting women, but one thing that I have noticed that doesn't seem to get enough credit is plain ole' being SOCIAL.
I've talked about this in the past, but one thing that I have noticed is that the first impression you give a woman as to how social of a person you are is CRITICAL to how attractive you are to her.
A couple of things brought this back to my attention.
The first was watching The Pickup Artist. Yea, I know, it's a t.v. show and all, but it's amazing the difference in how receptive women are to a mans advances if he goes in without hesitation (demonstrating that he isn't afraid of interaction) and with "presence" (taking control of the perimeter, engaging the group, etc.)
The other thing was a phone convo I had today with a friend. We are meeting up this weekend, and he was telling me that his girl might be meeting us out, and that she has a friend in that is coming into town for the weekend that "likes guys like me", whatever that means.
I think back to the numerous times that women I know have tried to set me up with their friends, and there is a definite correlation between the way I portray myself within the first minute and the level of attraction I receive from said female. I realized that if I go in gun blazing, taking control of the group, my chances of hooking up increase exponentially.
And this goes even more so for situations where you have built in social proof, where a WOMAN is building up your value to another female even before you meet.
There is a window of time where this chick will be evaluating you, and I would say that it ranges from 30 seconds to about 3 minutes. Make a grand entrance, display your social value, and EXCEED expectations, and chances are YOU ARE IN. If you are in a down mood and fail to live up to the expectation that was built up around you, it works exactly the opposite. you're dead in the water.
That is why I like to have friends bring new women to my place. I am the King of my Castle. I am at home in my environment. I play the role of host. I control the room.
In situations where you are being introduced to a woman by another female SPECIFICALLY with the intent of "hooking you up", the game is already halfway won. No doubt she has showed her friend your Myspace page (I have been told this by the matchmaker before) and talked you up as being THE MAN. It is then up to you to LIVE UP TO YOUR REPUTATION within the first couple of minutes, preferably within the first 30-60 seconds, or even the first 10. My best results have been when I have greeted the men I know in the group with a strong handshake and the women I know with a hug. the "friend" is in tow, and I don't leave her out....she gets a hug too, and it's the combination of that and the warm, open welcome that allows me to live up ti the hype that has already been created. it's now just a matter of following through.
I realize this isn't ground breaking information, but I don't think it gets enough press around here so i thought i would bring it up.
I've talked about this in the past, but one thing that I have noticed is that the first impression you give a woman as to how social of a person you are is CRITICAL to how attractive you are to her.
A couple of things brought this back to my attention.
The first was watching The Pickup Artist. Yea, I know, it's a t.v. show and all, but it's amazing the difference in how receptive women are to a mans advances if he goes in without hesitation (demonstrating that he isn't afraid of interaction) and with "presence" (taking control of the perimeter, engaging the group, etc.)
The other thing was a phone convo I had today with a friend. We are meeting up this weekend, and he was telling me that his girl might be meeting us out, and that she has a friend in that is coming into town for the weekend that "likes guys like me", whatever that means.
I think back to the numerous times that women I know have tried to set me up with their friends, and there is a definite correlation between the way I portray myself within the first minute and the level of attraction I receive from said female. I realized that if I go in gun blazing, taking control of the group, my chances of hooking up increase exponentially.
And this goes even more so for situations where you have built in social proof, where a WOMAN is building up your value to another female even before you meet.
There is a window of time where this chick will be evaluating you, and I would say that it ranges from 30 seconds to about 3 minutes. Make a grand entrance, display your social value, and EXCEED expectations, and chances are YOU ARE IN. If you are in a down mood and fail to live up to the expectation that was built up around you, it works exactly the opposite. you're dead in the water.
That is why I like to have friends bring new women to my place. I am the King of my Castle. I am at home in my environment. I play the role of host. I control the room.
In situations where you are being introduced to a woman by another female SPECIFICALLY with the intent of "hooking you up", the game is already halfway won. No doubt she has showed her friend your Myspace page (I have been told this by the matchmaker before) and talked you up as being THE MAN. It is then up to you to LIVE UP TO YOUR REPUTATION within the first couple of minutes, preferably within the first 30-60 seconds, or even the first 10. My best results have been when I have greeted the men I know in the group with a strong handshake and the women I know with a hug. the "friend" is in tow, and I don't leave her out....she gets a hug too, and it's the combination of that and the warm, open welcome that allows me to live up ti the hype that has already been created. it's now just a matter of following through.
I realize this isn't ground breaking information, but I don't think it gets enough press around here so i thought i would bring it up.
