Her First

[Guitarist19]

K so i just asked out this girl - Shes never had a boyfriend and she has never kissed before or any of that stuff - im just wondering for her first kiss what should i do? Ive had my first kiss but i know to a girl their firsts are more important then ours in a way - so where would be a good place to take her -

Heres also some facts
- She Can Drive
- Shes pretty shy
- I cant drive

so any suggestions or ideas??

 

[AdrenalynJunkee]

Just have a random, ungeneric 'date' with her. At a sort of climactic moment, where theres lots of kino, flirting, just sort of lean in a little ways (about 75%) and then let her do the rest of the work. About the kiss, it shouldn't be one of those "OMG I'm horny and want you now" type. Leave it at the soft, smooth kiss. Gentle does it. After a good couple seconds, slowly pull back. Chances are, if she liked it, she'll sort of lean into you when you pull back.

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

FIRST... go on an action date. Shes inexperienced so compliments will help relax her. Then, as the night winds down, take her somewhere romantic... maybe lay on a blanket in a park, or sit close to eachother by a fire pit... anything ud think would be a nice memory. Just keep playfully teasing her, send her some indicators of interest (kino, strong eye contact, look at her lips every now and again). She prolly wont know what to do, so SLOWLY wrap your arm around her and lean close, again, eyecontact and looking at lips, then use youre other hand to tilt her chin towards you and she'll definately have the idea.

Kiss her as softly and steadily as you can. Make sure youre lips are wet, but dont slober on her (no tongue). Pull away after a few seconds, smile and make eyecontact, then look @ her lips again... chances are she'll lean in for more.

 

[AdrenalynJunkee]

^^ stated much better than mine

 

[Guitarist19]

lol^^ does a park date sound good for this situation?

 

[AdrenalynJunkee]

well...what does the park have in it? anything fun and original?

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

mini golf then the park. The first part is action, second part laid back.

 

[Bunk 040]

Just f(_)cking kiss her, it aint that hard playa.

 

[Guitarist19]

Originally posted by Bunk 040
Just f(_)cking kiss her, it aint that hard playa.

no **** - didnt you read my post - its her first kiss i dont want it to be something she wishes could have been better/more romanitic/ etc

 

[LongDrinkofWater]

Don't overanalyze what you think she'll be thinking. If you follow TonytheTiger's suggestions, she'll know what's up. I was in a similar situation a long time ago, wondering and waiting for just the right moment. Wondering and waiting for the right moment was bad. I finally just grabbed my balls so to speak, and went for it (my AFCness was still in full swing back then). I was quickly rendered speechless when she said "I was wondering when you were going to do that!"
Turned out to be a much better night than I had anticipated... :-D

Just be smooth and without reservation or hesitation.....

 

[LuvMyArmyMan]

its not sex. my first kiss was nothing special, so f-ing what?

it doesnt matter how its done, just that she gets her frist kiss and that its good. dont be a chump over something so little.

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

I didnt say it was a big deal. I just said he should go on an action date and then when thats thru go somewhere quieter. "Just do it" is ****ty advice, btw. Shes supposed to "wonder when youre gonna do it" thats the whole ****ing point.

Luv - no one gives a **** what you think. Maybe youre first kiss sucked... but girls LOVE the story of my first kiss, and most enjoy telling their own story as well. Dont ruin some lil girls chance at having a nice memory because you chose a bad kisser.

 

[Guitarist19]

i like how you said that^^^ but weather is starting to get really shi*ty here - any other date suggestions?

 

[Guitarist19]

a movie date ok??

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

How about a drive in movie?

 

[earthshyne]

Movies are lousy for first dates. Your attention is on the screen, not each other.

 

[iCY]

take her somewhere with a nice view

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

Movies are great FIRST DATES. As long as preceded and followed with conversation. Also... you should be talking durin the movie. And you should ALWAYS be nonverbally communicating. I would not suggest a movie for someone you dont know too well, though. About 1-2 hrs of sarge time is required prior to the movie.

 

[chill]

the movie would probably work well in your situation. you said she was shy, so she probably watches a decent amout of movies. because of this she probably has the mind set where on the first date there will be a romantic kiss of sorts. and if you go to a movie there will be some action in it (the action part of the date) and at some part the romantic kiss, which is an opporyune time to move in. so, in my opinion, the movie would be good. and dont write me off cause you think im new, ive been here for 9-10 months