ositosucio said:
so today I find out some girl had been posting suggestive pics of going out with her ex ( it could even be a fake girl or a friend coached by him)
She posted some flowers on a table where you can see clearly that it was taken at HIS PLACE ( where my ex dumped him and left him alone )
This happened around the same day we had the "talk"
I see this a lot in girls, they jump back to their ex as soon as they smell another girl circling, not really because they care or love the guy they dumped in the first place.
Yeah, I think she better remains out of my life.
Anybody has any experience with this crap?
Relatively similar but not really. The thing that happened is while you were providing the alpha badass sh*t, she was getting the security and comfort from her ex ultimately making you and her ex one person and she had the best of both worlds. She has more rapport with him and was together in the attachment phase with him when you stole her away. Unfortunately when the honeymoon was over with you, there was no attachment as you didn't open up at all and she ran back to him to fill that gap. She'll be back if you played it cool.
Relatively similar happened to me, I never built enough rapport and had my walls up. Game focused around attraction and her chasing me. I didn't give a f*ck and Had her eating out the palm of my hand. Her sister came into town with her bf and he proposed to her one weekend (we've been together the same amount of time - 8 months lmao). I told her that I thought they were way too soon and she didn't like my answer. A day later she gave me the boot saying she doesn't think I want the same things as her out of the relationship. And she cant continue wasting time with a guy who doesn't want to move forward. That was her final card and she played it about a month too soon before I got the chance to let my guard down as im not quick to jump into things.
I said ok and played it cool. Been NC/LC for 3 months and she till has interest in me. Hasn't moved on to anyone else and im not even sure if she's gotten dinked. However, cat got out the bag about me f*ckin her friend and shes pissed. We'll see what happends.
Point is - gotta give in a bit because any woman who has any self esteem is not going to stick around f*cking a guy that doesn't care about her or isn't returning some affection/validation/security no matter how attracted she may be. And if this doesn't work for you - you'll be spinning plates forever.
Ultimately, a lot of the things that attract women to begin with are what kills the relationship if you don't balance it out. If she thinks you are an impossible fix, she will next ya.
