Here is my dilema. I made a post about this girl about a week ago but I'm going to start from scratch with more updated info. I am the type of guy who is completely oblivious to women and their feelings. I cannot help it, I just cannot decifer them unless they throw themselves on me so I REALLY need your help.
Here's the story. We're both 22, she went to college out of state and I had not seen her since freshman year of highschool (1 time after highschool). I hadnt talked to her in 2 years when I IM'd her out of the blue about 2 months ago while she was at school. Talked for a bit and did a little catch-up, I laid down a lot of C&F online (I'm great at C&F online because I get more time to think of something great to say). We hadnt mentioned meeting up when she came home from college when I sent her a recent picture of me (I look totally different than the last time she saw me, in a good way). She complimented me on how much different I looked and almost immediately afterwards she said that we should get together when she comes home.
I agree that we should meet and we exchange numbers and she tells me what day she will be moving back home (june 1st). Since she was the one that wanted to meet I thought I would give it a while before calling her. So I said to myself I would call her 2 weeks after she comes home but she ended up calling me after about 1 week. I wasnt home, we played a little phone tag and I get ahold of her a day or 2 later.
I tell her I am going to the mall that night to get a few things and that she should come along (I figure we are just hangin out as friends). When she first sees me she says "wow" in a surprised way and we greet with a hug. Once we get to the mall there are a few akward silence moments walking around so I suggest we hit the bar at one of the restaurants inside. After a few drinks we get some good conversations going, mostly talking about people we knew from highschool (2 of which were actually working in this restaurant at the time). I lay down some C&F and after about 2 hours at the bar we head home. We alread make plans for our next outing (another bar and a movie) and she takes down my email address. Emails me the next day saying she had fun, gives me her new MSN messenger name that she uses at work.
I call her a few days later and we make plans to go out the next day. When I pick her up WOW she looks amazing, she's wearing a 1 piece summer-type dress with a matching purse and flip flops. She is smoking. Wearing perfume this time also.
We hit a restaurant and sit at the bar and have a few drinks and an appetizer. Talked about all sorts of random things. She asks me if tatoos are ok on women and if so where can they be on her body (she doesnt have any but thinking of getting one). We spend about 90 minutes at the bar and I have no clue of course, as to whether we are out as friends or not. I completely forget to do any KINO but I am C&F as much as I can most of the night. We walk next door to the movie theatre and nothing good is playing within the next hour so we decide to go put-putting down the street instead. I let her drive my car because she convinces me she knows how to drive a 6-speed and she does it flawlessly.
We go put-putting, nothing spectacular happens, just more chit-chat. I start thinking to myself what the hell am I doing, maybe this WAS supposed to be a date and I havent done **** yet, I have barely touched her. At least the conversation was always well and we had basically no akward silence moments, I tried to stay C&F as much as possible.
We're driving home and she gets a call on her phone from a guy friend of hers (he's a friend from highschool and he's engaged, not a threat) and he invites her to a party he's at. So instead of driving her home she asks if I want to go with her and I say yes. We get there and there's like 6 guys and 1 girl playing beer pong. Not exactly a party, we look at each other like "oooooook...." we play a round of pong on the same team and leave because she has work in the morning. We are really really buzzed by the way, almost unable to drive only almost, another couple beers and I would not have driven. So anways I drop her off, and we are still having good conversation. I tell her I'll call her and she's like "alright!" and highfives me as she's shutting the door (lol?). She's pretty buzzed if I havent mentioned already.
So when I get home those past few beers really hit me and I'm slighting drunk. I realize what a god damn fool I was for not doing KINO or trying to kiss her. I email her and tell her I had fun, told her that she looked great and that I'll call her. That was tuesday and now it's friday, I didnt get a reply on my email but then again she doesnt go online at home and might not have gotten a change to see it at work. I didnt call her yet either.
We had talked about getting together again and watching a movie together (her house or mine) and having some drinks, but never made official plans, just mentioned it when we were talking about DVDs that we had bought recently.
The more I think about her the more I want to pursue a relationship with her but I have absolutely no idea what to say to her if I call her. I do not know how to KINO as I've never done it knowingly, only read about it. I have very little dating experience. At this point I am not worried about ruining a friendship with her because I think the risk of going for her outways it.
So I just need to know what the best way to go about calling her would be, how long I should wait, what I should say to her when I call her or what sort of message I would leave on her voice mail. Or should I wait and talk to her online monday when she's at work, granted she actually logs in? I need some serious help. Even a walk-through on what to say and do would be great!
Thanks alot!
Here's the story. We're both 22, she went to college out of state and I had not seen her since freshman year of highschool (1 time after highschool). I hadnt talked to her in 2 years when I IM'd her out of the blue about 2 months ago while she was at school. Talked for a bit and did a little catch-up, I laid down a lot of C&F online (I'm great at C&F online because I get more time to think of something great to say). We hadnt mentioned meeting up when she came home from college when I sent her a recent picture of me (I look totally different than the last time she saw me, in a good way). She complimented me on how much different I looked and almost immediately afterwards she said that we should get together when she comes home.
I agree that we should meet and we exchange numbers and she tells me what day she will be moving back home (june 1st). Since she was the one that wanted to meet I thought I would give it a while before calling her. So I said to myself I would call her 2 weeks after she comes home but she ended up calling me after about 1 week. I wasnt home, we played a little phone tag and I get ahold of her a day or 2 later.
I tell her I am going to the mall that night to get a few things and that she should come along (I figure we are just hangin out as friends). When she first sees me she says "wow" in a surprised way and we greet with a hug. Once we get to the mall there are a few akward silence moments walking around so I suggest we hit the bar at one of the restaurants inside. After a few drinks we get some good conversations going, mostly talking about people we knew from highschool (2 of which were actually working in this restaurant at the time). I lay down some C&F and after about 2 hours at the bar we head home. We alread make plans for our next outing (another bar and a movie) and she takes down my email address. Emails me the next day saying she had fun, gives me her new MSN messenger name that she uses at work.
I call her a few days later and we make plans to go out the next day. When I pick her up WOW she looks amazing, she's wearing a 1 piece summer-type dress with a matching purse and flip flops. She is smoking. Wearing perfume this time also.
We hit a restaurant and sit at the bar and have a few drinks and an appetizer. Talked about all sorts of random things. She asks me if tatoos are ok on women and if so where can they be on her body (she doesnt have any but thinking of getting one). We spend about 90 minutes at the bar and I have no clue of course, as to whether we are out as friends or not. I completely forget to do any KINO but I am C&F as much as I can most of the night. We walk next door to the movie theatre and nothing good is playing within the next hour so we decide to go put-putting down the street instead. I let her drive my car because she convinces me she knows how to drive a 6-speed and she does it flawlessly.
We go put-putting, nothing spectacular happens, just more chit-chat. I start thinking to myself what the hell am I doing, maybe this WAS supposed to be a date and I havent done **** yet, I have barely touched her. At least the conversation was always well and we had basically no akward silence moments, I tried to stay C&F as much as possible.
We're driving home and she gets a call on her phone from a guy friend of hers (he's a friend from highschool and he's engaged, not a threat) and he invites her to a party he's at. So instead of driving her home she asks if I want to go with her and I say yes. We get there and there's like 6 guys and 1 girl playing beer pong. Not exactly a party, we look at each other like "oooooook...." we play a round of pong on the same team and leave because she has work in the morning. We are really really buzzed by the way, almost unable to drive only almost, another couple beers and I would not have driven. So anways I drop her off, and we are still having good conversation. I tell her I'll call her and she's like "alright!" and highfives me as she's shutting the door (lol?). She's pretty buzzed if I havent mentioned already.
So when I get home those past few beers really hit me and I'm slighting drunk. I realize what a god damn fool I was for not doing KINO or trying to kiss her. I email her and tell her I had fun, told her that she looked great and that I'll call her. That was tuesday and now it's friday, I didnt get a reply on my email but then again she doesnt go online at home and might not have gotten a change to see it at work. I didnt call her yet either.
We had talked about getting together again and watching a movie together (her house or mine) and having some drinks, but never made official plans, just mentioned it when we were talking about DVDs that we had bought recently.
The more I think about her the more I want to pursue a relationship with her but I have absolutely no idea what to say to her if I call her. I do not know how to KINO as I've never done it knowingly, only read about it. I have very little dating experience. At this point I am not worried about ruining a friendship with her because I think the risk of going for her outways it.
So I just need to know what the best way to go about calling her would be, how long I should wait, what I should say to her when I call her or what sort of message I would leave on her voice mail. Or should I wait and talk to her online monday when she's at work, granted she actually logs in? I need some serious help. Even a walk-through on what to say and do would be great!
Thanks alot!
