Help!!! I think I'm falling for an escort...

[seek&destroy]

I've been away for a while, and quite a lot has happened since my last post..

I got a full time job, and am very stable financially. I have had bad luck with women in the past, most of the time being lead on, and after my last such experience, I decided to give up and just concentrate on my career.

Recently, I was feeling extremely lonely (having no sex in 2 years can do that to a guy!), and decided to hire an escort. I called up a girl, and went to see her at a hotel, and had the most mind blowing experience of my life. This girl is very affectionate, and made me feel like a ****ing king! While I was with her, she kept telling me how I'm a great lover, and how she loves the feeling of having my big **** inside her. Since that first time, I have seen her 8 additional times, spend about $2000 on just seeing her for one hour "dates" within the past 2 months, having never gone out and just banging her from start to finish each time.

Recently, she went away for a few weeks, and when she came back (I saw her 2 days ago again) she admitted to me that she wasn't "independent", meaning she had a "pimp", and was forced to stay in another city for weeks on end. Finally, she had enough of his bull****, so she hitchhiked back to our town. She told me the whole story, and told me she's only telling me this because she trusts me. While she was away, I stayed away from other escorts, and practically patiently waited until she came back, knowing full well this might never happen, but it did. Last time I saw her, I paid for an hour, but stayed with her for nearly 3 hours. Time just seemed to fly by, and I had a great time with her, and on top of this, she admitted she had a great time with me too. I think I am falling for her, but I'm still weary of the whole situation. I have gotten to know her on a personal level, we both know a lot about each other, but something inside me still screams "don't do it man!". Still, I can't help but feel like I am actually falling for this girl, just don't know what to do about it. I am seeing her later tonight, as I have made another reservation with her, and plan to cautiously bring this up to her without admitting that I may have feelings for her.

Guys, am I ****ed up for feeling this way?? It's really starting to weigh down on me, and I would really appreciate some help. I've been with about 20 different women in the past 2 years, and this girl, to me, is the sexiest of them all.

Thanks!

 

[Mike32ct]

She's a PROFESSIONAL. She's going to butter you up, tell you what a "great lover" you are, and moan like a porn video. That's her job.

I had two phone sex girls tell me I was the hottest guy they ever talked to LOL. But I didn't marry them because of our great "connection" together. Maybe I should have? LOL

Take the ego boost (even the fake one) and meet some real women you don't have to pay.

Even in the slim chance she does like you, a chick with a pimp is dangerous.

 

[evan12]

These women know what men are missing and they know how to give it to them , I had a friend who were swearing every time this and that escort really love him . it seem you are same , try to invite her to a "free" date and see how really she love you .
the best thing just take it as a good time , but dont think she is your future wife

 

[sageproduct]

I had two phone sex girls tell me I was the hottest guy they ever talked to LOL.

Think we need a field report Mike...

 

[FairShake]

If you see working girls see them rarely or vary your trips by changing up girls.

Otherwise you will fall in love.

A girl who gives you the pvssy and tells you that you're the best. Guaranteed to fall in love with her, even if it's all about the money.

Stay away from this one for good. She's already selling you two lines of bullsh!t and will probably sell you some more.

 

[Mike32ct]

Think we need a field report Mike...

Hahaha.

 

[Sik]

seek&destroy,

I'm not sure if your post is trolling, but I'll assume your story is real.

Alright, here's the deal. She sells sex and affection for money. If she gives you sex and affection and doesn't require money - great! You've got a hot new slam piece. If she still wants you to pay, then you're still just a John. A particular John she likes, but still a John.

Most of these girls have sex for money with rather unsavory types. The obese, crazy and weird among society. You're probably not obese, crazy or weird, so she really doesn't mind spending time with you. The real question is, does she want to spend time off the clock?

Also, she's a girl you pump and dump. Don't even think of marrying this broad. You will regret the day you met her.

One last thing, her pimp is no fool. If she's a money-maker for him, he's going to try to find her. Are you ready to answer the door at 2am and deal with her pimp?

(Just so you know, if she "serviced" you at your place, he knows your address. He'll bring or follow her and sit outside in the car, watching the windows for a distress signal. I.e., she opens the blinds or flips the light on and off a few times. Once she's out, he gets paid and on to the next John.)

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Recently, I was feeling extremely lonely (having no sex in 2 years can do that to a guy!),

......................... I've been with about 20 different women in the past 2 years, and this girl, to me, is the sexiest of them all.

Thanks!

I think a little clarification is required.

I doubt that she is consciously playing you. It takes a lot of skill to be able to do that, and people with that level of skill usually find a much more lucrative career than what she's doing.

That being said, she's a sex worker for a reason. And whatever those reasons are, they'll be a problem later on.

Now her life is in turmoil, and YOU are the only port in a storm. If she were to detach from her pimp and her lifestyle, your value as a "port" would decrease significantly.

The best course of action for you to do would be to STOP seeing this girl immediately.

If you can afford it, continue to see escorts, but ONLY a few times per girl. And use your "success" with DIFFERENT escorts (providing you don't go broke) to get out there and meet some REAL PEOPLE that don't have such horrible drama.

There's no saving this girl, and no joy to be found. No matter how real it seems, it's all fake. She'll suck you dry, spit you out, and leave you much worse off than you can imagine.

Get out.

Get out now.

 

[seek&destroy]

I have never seen an escort at my own place. I make it a point to always go to her's. We both know he is going to track her down, she even said so herself. The next time I go see her, I will tell her I want to see her off the clock sometime and gauge her reaction. If she says no, I will tell her that she can expect not to see me again. I've been doing some reading over the past few days, and one thing has become obvious to me: I am reverting back to my beta ways. For the past 2 years I had no trouble picking up girls wherever I went. Ever since I got a job, I haven't had much time for this, and resorted to seeing escorts on the weekends. Since I met this girl, I haven't seen many others even while she was away. I paid for her stay at the hotel one night because she didn't have her ID, and in return got to spend a few hours with her. That was some of the most mind-blowing sex I have had in my life. That same week, she left for another city, and was forced to stay there for well over a month, until she escaped and hitchhiked her way back here.

Why am I falling for her...? Probably because sex with her was great, even if I was paying for it. You brought up one good point...if she liked me for real, she would at least have offered me a discount, but that didn't happen. Not that I care about spending more money than I should, but this would have been a clear indication on how she may feel about me. There's probably nothing there at all on her part.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Women with borderline personality disorder make perfect escorts and sex workers. They are attracted to the idea of relationships that can never work - like hooker and john. Hooker and pimp is a good one, too. You could be the world's greatest Captain Saveaho, sweep her away from it all, and be the perfect guy...and then she would just lose interest in you. She can't help it. That's why she's an escort.

 

[Warrior74]

I have never seen an escort at my own place. I make it a point to always go to her's. We both know he is going to track her down, she even said so herself. The next time I go see her, I will tell her I want to see her off the clock sometime and gauge her reaction. If she says no, I will tell her that she can expect not to see me again. I've been doing some reading over the past few days, and one thing has become obvious to me: I am reverting back to my beta ways. For the past 2 years I had no trouble picking up girls wherever I went. Ever since I got a job, I haven't had much time for this, and resorted to seeing escorts on the weekends. Since I met this girl, I haven't seen many others even while she was away. I paid for her stay at the hotel one night because she didn't have her ID, and in return got to spend a few hours with her. That was some of the most mind-blowing sex I have had in my life. That same week, she left for another city, and was forced to stay there for well over a month, until she escaped and hitchhiked her way back here.

Why am I falling for her...? Probably because sex with her was great, even if I was paying for it. You brought up one good point...if she liked me for real, she would at least have offered me a discount, but that didn't happen. Not that I care about spending more money than I should, but this would have been a clear indication on how she may feel about me. There's probably nothing there at all on her part.

Dude. Go no contact bro.

 

[LMFAO]

Here's a simple solution: stop seeing escorts. If you are unable to do so then get a psychologist to figure out why you're seeing them in the first place whether it be escapism or otherwise and put a stop to it. Stop giving money away to women that you've worked hard for.

 

[backbreaker]

this has to be the first time this has ever been said on this site ever lol but this is what you need to do. you need to spin more escorts bro.

 

[my1ken]

I will give it two to five months before it goes in the sh1tter.

 

[plate's_empty]

I just joined this site but would have expected a thousand comments on this one. Ummm....where to start.....

I would run. Run like the wind. I'd break Usain Bolt's world record time.

But if your trying to pull a Richard Gere then ,as some previous posters already said, stop paying her. She's a hooker, she's not going to turn away money if you keep offering it up. That's the easiest way to see if the feeling's mutual. And if you do somehow end up having a "regular" relationship with this woman then get ready for some baggage.....

 

[BlackEricNorthman]

I'm gonna un-romanticize this woman and all prostitutes for you. You have to know that this woman doesn't know how to function in a balanced relationship. Many of these women are pulled into "The Life" during their formative years. Some of these women are runaways or kidnapped into it at 9 to 10 years and up. Does she have any tattoos on her body, because more than likely the ink is her pimp's brand so that she knows that she is stuck with him forever, and to scare off any pimp or unfortunate soul who thinks they can free her from the life they live.

They have no formal education or work experience outside of having sex with strangers for money, so she couldn't do anything financially to help out in an honest relationship. She also probably doesn't know how to be in a committed relationship as she never learned willing commitment. Her longest relationship is with her pimp where she lives in fear and servitude, but he's also her measuring stick of a man. The pimp taught her everything about sex (probably by forcing her to practice on him and his muscle, and homeboys), he rules her and makes her work by using fear and violence, and he controls her psychologically by letting her know she couldn't survive without him and showing affection to balance the dominance he holds over her life.

She is basically chasing after the acceptance/love of a abusive, perverted father-figure who she feels indebted too but can never win over and knows everything about her. You aren't ready for that kind of baggage son. Plus most of these women have some major drug addictions partly because the drugs are a reward to the girls along with pocket change and clothing, and the drug addiction keeps them dependent on the pimp who is her supplier. It's a vicious cycle.

Also you do realize she'll fyuck, suck, eat the a$$ of, get choked/slapped by, go @ss to mouth, jerk off, get spit on by ANYONE WHO HAS THE MONEY! Maybe you two are "making the love" but she will go see some coked out businessman who has a piss and shyt fetish that only she will indulge him in. Then leave him and bang some dude who has herpes or hiv and just went "fyuck it! I'll just bang prostitutes until I die! YOLO!11!", did she ask you to provide updated medical records? Be honest.

To wrap this up seek&destroy I believe your problem is that you want really want to be in a relationship. You actually are one of the few men who truly enjoy it, but you've given yourself to women who not only didn't share your feelings but took advantage of you. It's made it hard to meet women again because it's made you deeply unsure of yourself and you are mentally torn between what you really want mentally, physically, and your fear of being hurt again. I bet you still think of your last girl before you started going to prostitutes.

The dealing with prostitutes will always lead to ruin. You can have the wildest sex with thousands of them and even make a solid connection with one or two of them, but it's all business on their end with you. There is one thing these women never get taught how to do and it's how to let themselves be emotionally connected to another. You'll only get that in a honest relationship, prostitutes are a wasteland wrapped in a fantasy.

P.S. That pimp she is "running from" has your number and unless you have a secondary phone you only recently started using for your sex life all it takes is a quick google search to find a way to track you. Her and the pimp are setting you up for a major pay day ie THEY ARE GOING ROB YOU.

 

[Fruitbat]

From a totally seasoned hobbyist, get the fvck out of there.

I can't personally understand how you could ever fall for one. I get turned on by the fact that escorts are slvts. They are women who give you everything you want. there is no chase, no games. Absolutely nothing about that makes me want a LTR. I use them to basically be my servant for however long I have paid them for. I am not sure how it works in the US, but in the UK, girls with Pimps are ONLY the ones on drugs. it's semi legal here so most girls work for a brothel of for themselves, and will pay security. Not pimped.

Also, WTF dude, yes she is sexy but how many ****s has she sucked? How many ugly fat dudes has she slept with? Where is the prize?

I love ho's, don't get me wrong. I love spending time with them, actually being nice to them. I love the fact that rarely do they get to spend time with a young, clean dude like me and therefore enjoy it (and often I get them cumming!). I love doing loads of coke with them. I love the fact many of them get off on the nature of the relationship. They are in some ways the best woman in the world, they are your best buddy, who happens to by fit and horny as hell, and will do what you tell them! god how I love them, it's like something which shouldn't be, but is. The good ones have given me as good a night as the girls who did it for free. They are rare. Most don't like it, some are lacking confidence at it. Some of them are unbelievably good at it (and they are not always the best lookers, IMO the better lookers are usually the more robotic ones). The best I ever had was a late 30's busty woman who just made you feel like she was your GF, but also you sexual servant, and also like she took every session as a challenge to turn you on as much as possible, follow your orders and make you last as long as she could. My climaxes with her felt like the earth was moving and the walls shook! She also made you *** a 2nd time for a ridiculously low amount of money - like a token amount (£10), total opposite of most girls who seem to think them cumming = end of story, regardless of what's left on the meter. I can't get in touch with her anymore, but will never forget the times we had! But I never loved her, I love her in many ways, but she is still a slvt. But I would buy her a meal, I would give her money if she needed it, I would let her sleep on my couch! But I just never felt like getting together with her.

They are not, however, for love. neither are strippers, nor any woman who has worked in any sort of modelling or visual job. They have their ego tied way too much with their sexuality, and they know exactly how to exploit it.

Like others have said, ho's belong to everyone and no-one. I have no idea how they do their job. I could never sleep with ugly fat old women for the money they do it for. They are like christmass for men.

Love, never.

 

[MatureDJ]

One last thing, her pimp is no fool. If she's a money-maker for him, he's going to try to find her. Are you ready to answer the door at 2am and deal with her pimp?

(Just so you know, if she "serviced" you at your place, he knows your address. He'll bring or follow her and sit outside in the car, watching the windows for a distress signal. I.e., she opens the blinds or flips the light on and off a few times. Once she's out, he gets paid and on to the next John.)

This sounds like that Tom Cruise movie 3 decades ago!

 

[MatureDJ]

Here's a simple solution: stop seeing escorts. If you are unable to do so then get a psychologist to figure out why you're seeing them in the first place whether it be escapism or otherwise and put a stop to it. Stop giving money away to women that you've worked hard for.

But the OP seems incapable of going out and securing a decent looking marriageable woman - i.e., a woman who the OP could see getting married to because she doesn't have kids, etc. - so to satisfy his lust, he has decided to take Van Halen's advice from the end of "Everybody Wants Some" and pay a woman for it. The OP has no problem spending some of his hard earned money for this instead of some toy, or savings - IOW, his feelings of satisfaction of having sex is worth more to him than any toy or any future spending.

One of the reasons I live abroad is to similarly avail myself (at much lower prices ), but that doesn't stop me from attempting to secure a "relationship" as well (except for the few hours I spent in the exchange.)