Blue Phoenix said:
Girls who flirt a lot even when involved with someone else are AWs (HPD) or NPD.
No no no no no.
Girls with even DJ boyfriends flirt (unless the girl is hideous or extremely shy) and for various reasons depending on the situation. Women don't do anything in particular for one reason, one outcome, like guys generally do. Men in general flirt trying to get some (future possibility of) ass.
A girl with a boyfriend flirts with different mixes of the below (mainly):
To feel more (still) attractive than other girls
To gain power when she's around other men
To gain material goods/discounts/lower prices/opportunities
To test her man (other men also) to see if he's weak
To attract another mate if hers
is weak
and a few others as well
A low level of flirting is great. The first three are fine when you aren't present, they should not bother you
at all. It's completely normal and natural.
In fact, if you ever accidentally catch her doing any of the first three you need to completely not be bothered by it. Blow it off. After all, if you are a confident man who knows you've got options and you wouldn't hesitate to dump the girl and go for one of those options...she'll feel that and not be flirting for the last two reasons anyway. You ignoring it or even "my girl can charm anyone!" with a confident smile sends an extremely clear signal that you're the Alpha male. Other girls around this situation WILL be impressed and attracted to your rare behavior. Your woman will notice this as well so you have no worries at all. Also, if you really are the Alpha male, she'll immediately direct attention to you because you make her feel very secure as well as attractive.
I don't mind my women flirting for those first 3 reasons. In fact, I subtly make it clear that I'm knowledgeable enough about women to know it happens and it's not unusual. I get benefits from low-level flirting like that as well. She's much more safe around guys who think they've got a slight chance, they turn on their AFC behavior quickly like not trying to intimidate her plus they'll offer to buy drinks or whatnot. The more occasions she sees that she can control men the more attractive YOU are to her. She's one of the few girls who has a REAL man.
NOTE: I see guys blow out relationships
all the friggin time because they get completely and stupidly insecure/jealous over their girlfriends making large amounts of tips....duh, bartender & waitress girls make their main money BECAUSE they flirt.
The third reason for flirting is fine even in front of me. Example: Say I go to buy a used car from some guy. He wants as much money from he as he can get and I want to part with as little as I can. I WILL bring my HB8+ and while I'm haggling if he's staring at her breasts and she thrusts them out a little bit and I get $$$ off, woo hoo! Not only did I save money but she's also reminded that almost all men are AFC's and she's got one of those very rare guys who isn't an insecure AFC.
Pass the flirting #4 test (only if it's blatant "I'll act slutty and see if he's insecure" flirting, playful behavior is fine, that's not #4) by busting her on it calmly and casually (take frame back) and the
overwhelming majority of women will stop. If she does it on multiple occasions and ignores you busting on it, NEXT, you do have a girl with serious problems. If she pulls that "slutty" flirting crap again on you really soon she's obviously not good enough for you.
If it's #5, it's over.