I got this girl's number after class by opening with why I noticed her, showing intent directly. Exchange a few lines to get to know her a little and then ask if she wants to grab coffee sometime. She looks back at the lecture hall, which I take as we can get to know each other from class. This does actually seem like the better choice since; if things do go well then we can escalate further outside the classroom. I say I have class to go to, then I close with her number. Hug goodbye kiss of cheeks (she said that's what they do in her country so I say let's do that). Next day I go clubbing with my friends and HOLY SH1T I see her making out with some dude there. Initially I was not sure, since I had only actually seen this girl for less than five minutes tops. But it looked so much like her. I ask my friend to go listen to the convo she is having with the dude to see if she has an accent, but my friend can't hear anything. After pondering and not knowing what to do bc we looked at each other a few times (idk if she realized it was me either bc I had gotten a haircut), I decide to just fvckn approach in spite of her making out with this dude.
I go up grab her shoulder and she turns around, while stop kissing the dude. The dude actually ends up just standing there and lets me talk to her while he does nothing for a few seconds. I ask her if her name is X from class, it's me AlphaNoob. She says her name is Y. I ask her if she is from A country, she says she is from B country (which is also in Europe). It turns out she did have an accent, just like the girl from class. Then I say nvm and walk away, not sure why I did this. Maybe bc she put enough doubt in my mind to make me comfortable not dealing with the situation bc I didn't WANT to deal with the situation for lack of knowing how to properly handle it.
Maybe I could have stuck around longer and tried to pull her from that dude also, but I just did not know how to play it because I knew that if this was indeed the girl, then I would see her in class. And I wanted to stick to the original plan, which was to get to know her through talking in class, which I have experience with another girl.
Next day, I text her, no response (maybe bc it is an international number.) I msg her on FB, no response. Can't find her on the class roster...
This leads me to think she may have dropped the class and wants to avoid me bc of what happened and does not want to be perceived in anyway for making out with the guy at the club
I don't feel like I was Don Juan enough in this situation. What should I have done?
I go up grab her shoulder and she turns around, while stop kissing the dude. The dude actually ends up just standing there and lets me talk to her while he does nothing for a few seconds. I ask her if her name is X from class, it's me AlphaNoob. She says her name is Y. I ask her if she is from A country, she says she is from B country (which is also in Europe). It turns out she did have an accent, just like the girl from class. Then I say nvm and walk away, not sure why I did this. Maybe bc she put enough doubt in my mind to make me comfortable not dealing with the situation bc I didn't WANT to deal with the situation for lack of knowing how to properly handle it.
Maybe I could have stuck around longer and tried to pull her from that dude also, but I just did not know how to play it because I knew that if this was indeed the girl, then I would see her in class. And I wanted to stick to the original plan, which was to get to know her through talking in class, which I have experience with another girl.
Next day, I text her, no response (maybe bc it is an international number.) I msg her on FB, no response. Can't find her on the class roster...
This leads me to think she may have dropped the class and wants to avoid me bc of what happened and does not want to be perceived in anyway for making out with the guy at the club
I don't feel like I was Don Juan enough in this situation. What should I have done?
