got dumped through email lol

[phillyb]

So I have been seeing this single mom......I know, I know!

Anyhoo.....She's been "busy" this last week, as she is about to go on a trip with her son. So the weekend comes, and she has something going on with family Friday night....."shouldn't last too long, so I'll call you and maybe we can hang out".....I say cool.....she calls me late, and we decide to just see each other saturday.

Saturday comes she calls me and says that she has alot of homework to do, and that she will call me later when she gets to a stopping point.....later turns out to be too late.....so I say, "well we can just do something tommorow(SUN)........"

she says "cool, but its fathers day, and I have some family obligations to attend.....just plan on coming over that night(SUN) I say cool....

dont hear from her until 8:45...and I missed her call......when I listen to the voicemail....she sounds like she is pissed that i didn't answer....and she's like " I know, I know, I know....you dont even have to say anything, ill call you later"....like it was some burden......whatever, i was hangin out with my bud, and didnt really pay it any mind.........

So monday rolls around, and she is leaving on Tuesday......I text her at work, and say," hey....do you want to kick it tonight, or are you busy?"

She texts back "I just have to Pack".......ARRRRRR no one is this dam busy that they cant make a little time knowing they're about to leave.........

I just responded..."i See"


So I'm busy all day, and I get this email today right at 5:00 PM


"I just want to make this as painless and stress free as possible. I cannot continue to date you. I'm sorry!!! I have been extremely busy and I wasn't blowing you off this weekend. However, I noticed that if I can't make time for you, well that is a problem. I think it all just comes down to bad timing. I'm sorry I don't have the balls to go into a long conversation about it...I figured this should do. I told you I'm broken, but you're darling! Good luck with everything!"



And this is a girl mind you, who was just *****in at me about a month ago, because I wasn't showing enough "desire" for her.

I rode right over to her house because I left a book that has sentimental value for her to borrow. I said....So what happened, while smiling and acting like I could care less......she said I'm just Busy........I laughed, and said" an email?....are you serious?" ---"you can do better than that!"....and then I said " thats a little cowardly, in my opinion" "I know" she says....and then I walked out.

You know what....this is a blessing in disguise.....it hurt for a few minutes, but all in all, I was just having fun banging her....and I guess I miss the fact of being with someone......I dont know.....I just thought that was pretty low ....

And the funny thing is looking back on our relationship....I always went over there....she never came to hang at my place, even when she didn't have her kid those few times.......And one thing sticks out in my mind that she said a while back



" i don't want to date anyone with kids"......hows that for hypocritical!

I'm sure she will find some other boy toy to please her and then dump him when the newness wears off....because she is pretty hot....


I dont know........I'm not that torn up, so thats a good thing!

 

[drmeathead]

women with HI know no boundaries to see their man...also remember when a woman is falling in love with a man he can say no wrong...when she falls out of love with a man he can do no right

 

[CGE333]

No doubt about it as Doc Love would say here interest level in you went down to about zero. could you have made yourself anymore available (what was it like 5 days in a row you were at here beck and call)?

If she was going out with Brad Pitt or George Clooney do you think she could have found time in her "busy" schedule?

Lesson learned- next

 

[guru1000]

Next time you get dumped say "Sounds good. Have a nice day. "

 

[Mr. Me]

Sounds to me like you mismanaged this. And you lowered her IL too.

Making dates at the last minute for a few hours later is bad practice, even worse if you're dealing with people who actually have obligations and responsibilities to tend to, like kids, homes and jobs. Of course she can't make time for you when her plate is full and here you're asking for some time to be squeezed in for you. You're going against the odds and making it more difficult for yourself.

Though she seems amiable and complicit to the arrangement, trust me when I tell you women change their minds because stuff like this wears on them.

All this "shouldn't last too long, so I'll call you and maybe we can hang out" and "well we can just do something tomorrow" and its resulting "later turns out to be too late" could easily be avoided by SETTING a date several days in advance. How difficult is THAT? Hint: It's actually EASIER then what you're doing.

You'd call her on Thursday and say: "Hey, let's get together next Wednesday". Chances are, that far ahead, the woman has a clear schedule. If not, she'll say "That's my spinning class night. But I'm good for next Thursday!"

Ah, how frickin' simple life can be. But no, you'd rather call her for when she already has things to do and expect to have time made for you? Work smarter, not harder.

Certainly trying to arrange a date the night she's packing before she leaves strongly sends this message to her: "I'm completely self-absorbed, self-centered, thoughtless and insensitive to your needs and couldn't be any less concerned about what you have to get done tonight." Your statement, "they cant make a little time knowing they're about to leave?" drives that home.

Considering just a few hours later is when she shot that Dear John email out to you, I wouldn't be surprised if that's what played on her the most.

If you had instead called to say, "Hey babe, I know things are hectic right now - anything you need?" how much farther do you think that would've gone? Not that I'm saying that was needed, but do you see the difference? Even if you decided to stay out of her hair that night so that she'd be able to get her stuff done, that would've been an improvement.

And this is a girl mind you, who was just *****in at me about a month ago, because I wasn't showing enough "desire" for her.

Despite what you may reason, this doesn't have anything to do with the other.

And one thing sticks out in my mind that she said a while back
" I don't want to date anyone with kids"......hows that for hypocritical!

It's not hypocritical - understand that she has her own children, that's enough for her, and she probably doesn't want to become a step-mom caretaker for yet more kids from some guy she dates. That, or, knowing how it can tie you down, she wants a guy who's free from that, so she can see him when she has the time and he won't be tied up with his kids.

I don't know how long you've been seeing this woman, but, yeah, breaking up in an email is not the way to go, you probably deserved more of a face-to-face. Yet I'll say that telling her your opinion that it was cowardly, I'm not so sure about. I mean, she's already gone, already made the decision to break and acted on it, it's not like she really cares about your opinion now. So, expressing it to her makes you feel better, but only temporarily, by getting it off your chest. Yet all it shows to her is that you were more into her then she was into you, and that you're still more concerned with how things affect you and not any regard with how you affect her.

If you just kept smiling and walked out with your book without castigating her, then she'd be thinking, "he's HAPPY to be rid of me?? WTF???" instead of "there goes another loser". You'd still be out, but not without making her think.

Sorry that you're torn up, but hey, it's called "live and learn".

 

[( . )( . )]

you fokin loser you deserve it for being a fokin AFC you make me sick

:crackup: Thats even harsh for me, but he's right you did deserve it.

I can see loads of mistakes in your post. So If I can see them, you bet your ass she could.

And for goodness sakes please dont ever call a chick "cowardly" for breaking up in an email again. It's pretty gay to presume chicks possess courage, your quite lucky you even got her to cut the bullsh!t and just next you.

 

[CGE333]

Do yourself a favor and do a search for and read all of anti-dump's posts to this site. That guy was very insightful and i think he had some advice that pertains to your situation.

 

[STR8UP]

Women are total cowards when it comes to stuff like this. A chick I was seeing did this to me last year. We spent quite a bit of time together for a few months, although we weren't "official" or "exclusive", I was really ticked that she didn't have the balls to tell me face to face, or AT LEAST on the phone. After telling me she was involved with someone else at the end of her email said "I'm still planning on coming to your party on Saturday, if that's ok. Call me if you want to talk about this." To which I responded "Congrats hope it works out for you. See you Saturday"

At least I didn't get dumped via text message, haha