Wench:
You're so laughable, SharinganUser.
First, there are dozens and dozens and dozens of men posting here, claiming (all) women use marriage to harm men, as though women created marriage for some deceptive or detrimental purpose and/or that men are the "victims" of marriage.
When deciphering the origins of marriage, you have three choices: men (you know, the folks in power) invented the concept of marriage, women invented marriage, or it was a mutual construct between both men and women. There is no factual evidence to support the notion that women have EVER had a say in the development or continuation of the institution of marriage throughout most of recorded history. So, that leaves you with men, and men alone, as having created the entire concept of marriage.
Your argument that men aren't the source of marriage because not every single man was there at your proposed meeting of "a select group of men" (no historical evidence for that claim, either) is moot because men, and only men, have had the power to create or abolish social customs and laws, throughout history, right up to today. If only "a select group of men" wanted marriage, the majority of men you defacto insinuate don't want marriage, would have eliminated the practice at any point in the last, say, thousand years.
Everything from slavery to the lack of rights for women has been abolished because the majority of MEN voted for it.
As for your repeatedly abysmal record on psychically guessing my views, you're wrong, yet again. Not only do I blame anyone who marries someone he/she knows is not an upstanding person, I frequently wonder (often aloud) why so many women settle for men who lie, or are inconsiderate, or abusive, or immature, etc.
Can a man who lies to the mother of his children EVER be labelled a "good father"? Not in my book, because a liar can't be a good parent, male or female. If you're a liar, you model lying for your children. That is practically the definition of a bad parent. Anything worse than lying only confirms the person is not credible i.e. not a good candidate as a mate. You enter into a relationship with such a person at your own peril.
Men who marry gold diggers, spoiled brats, "hotties" (with no other redeeming qualities), liars, emotional infants, etc., get precisely what they deserve, and hopefully then some. The same is true for women.
As a grown up with some degree of personal integrity, I choose the path of my life. Life doesn't just happen to me. I chose carefully when entering a relationship with my (now) husband, and all past boyfriends. (I'm still on excellent terms with all of them because the qualities that made me want to date them didn't magically disappear because we weren't a romantic match.) My divorce-free family and friends have done the same. No divorce, just happy relationships. Divorce doesn't just happen.
I'm no fan of marriage, but It is up to each person, male or female, to choose wisely. We only have ourselves to blame for our bad choices. I think it is exceedingly rare for someone to be such a consummate actor, he/she can hide his/wrongdoing for years in a close, intimate relationship, prior to marriage. Too many people choose to ignore or minimize wrongdoing in their partners, then behave as though it's all a surprise when that wrongdoing comes to light.
We only have ourselves to blame for our bad choices. It's not that others can't be jerks, but if you chose to marry a jerk....
