Is it weird to go to bars alone? If not, how do I go out alone without looking/feeling creepy/hovery/sketchy?
I’ve read conflicting opinions on here, Reddit- seduction, and elsewhere on the topic of going out alone. I don’t know if going out alone is considered creepy in some cultures or permissible in others? I live in a medium size mid-Atlantic city with a big college and a couple smaller ones. I’ve read online Americans are supposed to be more outgoing and less weirded out by talking to strangers. I’m in my late 20s and I once had around a dozen friends I’d go out with, but gradually over time many have moved away or are in serious relationships. I think the future of looking for women for me will be going out alone or using internet dating.
If you go out alone, and you’re just sitting at the bar sipping and staring off into space, what do you if you don’t immediately find someone to talk to? I feel like approaching women is tough enough with friends around, but alone I feel like I’d have no social value. Since there’s a whole section of this forum for wingmen, I’m guessing most people would feel strange about going out alone too.
Making matters a little worse for me is the fact that I don’t live within walking distance of any bars for younger people. I feel like a young “lady’s” perception of risk would be slightly higher getting into a cab with a stranger than walking across a street. If I lived within stumbling distance of the bars I think it’d be much easier to get them to come home with me. If there was a bar right across the street from me then going to it alone wouldn’t feel as weird for some reason. I know this sounds awful, one of my last friends and roommates is good at drinking and driving, but I don’t trust my luck with doing it myself. I always watch his speedometer and have never felt in danger <knocks wood>. Buying cab fare would double my expenses of going out but I think it could be the only way. I usually go out once a week and have some sort of successful number close or kiss once every 6 weeks. Many times I go out there aren’t obviously single girls or I’m mentally not in “the zone” enough to attempt it. Sometimes I feel awesome going out and there are girls and I can be entertaining. Of my friends I’m the most likely to approach girls, but if I could get over my fear of going out alone, I’d have even more success.
I’ve read conflicting opinions on here, Reddit- seduction, and elsewhere on the topic of going out alone. I don’t know if going out alone is considered creepy in some cultures or permissible in others? I live in a medium size mid-Atlantic city with a big college and a couple smaller ones. I’ve read online Americans are supposed to be more outgoing and less weirded out by talking to strangers. I’m in my late 20s and I once had around a dozen friends I’d go out with, but gradually over time many have moved away or are in serious relationships. I think the future of looking for women for me will be going out alone or using internet dating.
If you go out alone, and you’re just sitting at the bar sipping and staring off into space, what do you if you don’t immediately find someone to talk to? I feel like approaching women is tough enough with friends around, but alone I feel like I’d have no social value. Since there’s a whole section of this forum for wingmen, I’m guessing most people would feel strange about going out alone too.
Making matters a little worse for me is the fact that I don’t live within walking distance of any bars for younger people. I feel like a young “lady’s” perception of risk would be slightly higher getting into a cab with a stranger than walking across a street. If I lived within stumbling distance of the bars I think it’d be much easier to get them to come home with me. If there was a bar right across the street from me then going to it alone wouldn’t feel as weird for some reason. I know this sounds awful, one of my last friends and roommates is good at drinking and driving, but I don’t trust my luck with doing it myself. I always watch his speedometer and have never felt in danger <knocks wood>. Buying cab fare would double my expenses of going out but I think it could be the only way. I usually go out once a week and have some sort of successful number close or kiss once every 6 weeks. Many times I go out there aren’t obviously single girls or I’m mentally not in “the zone” enough to attempt it. Sometimes I feel awesome going out and there are girls and I can be entertaining. Of my friends I’m the most likely to approach girls, but if I could get over my fear of going out alone, I’d have even more success.
