Most girls I have talked to about men have named these reasons and more. Pretty much what you find on her about being confident and what not
where is all this girls want AFC's stuff coming from? what girls are telling men these things? Even my own Momma hasn't lied to me like that
Fair question. You do see some girls saying they want a guy to romance them though, like buy them flowers and cards, open the door for them, give them compliments, etc. That's the kind of "girls want AFCs" advice you're taking about, I think.
Well, some guys on this site are certain women judge men on looks as much as men judge women on looks.
They are so tuned in to how their own minds work, they can't wrap their mind around the concept that attraction might work differently for the opposite sex. Of course it works differently, that's why it's opposite. But I really think some guys will never be able to accept it. It's a completely foreign idea to them.
A much better question to ask the women is ask what made them stick with a "longer term" BF (what did the BF do/behave/have that other guys didnt)
Since the original poster got a pretty decent sized sampling on his first question, maybe he could ask this as a follow up. I'd be interested in reading it also, even if you do have to take a grain of salt with anything a woman says on the subject.