cannibustacap
Don Juan
I have been hanging out a couple of girls (separately) and they have this sort of insecure, nervous attitude.
Both, on separate occasions, have started blurting out their family problems and how they are feeling down. This was just out of the blue too. In fact, it feels awkward when the start talking about this stuff. It really does... But I guess I do a good job of hiding awkwardness somehow. I don't show a lot of emotion. I think it adds to my mystery factor (I hope it does at least... I'm not sure if it helps or not... I'm not exactly a DJ... I am just a rAFC)
The other girl started telling me how scared she is of STDs and won't **** a random guy even with a condom. She said she used to be slutty but now she respects herself. (hehe I was about to say "moo" to her to remind her of her getting f~cked like a farm animal days. For those of you who read Pook's ******** know what I mean) This was out of the blue also.
I think I am too good of a listener. I don't ask them about their past at all. I try to keep all topics positive, but I mostly listen and fluff talk about the stuff they start bringing up.
It is ALWAYS them who start talking about negative sh~t like past relationships, family problems, and STDs...
Maybe I have just been dating/hanging out with too many of those quiet, nervous type girls. They are all insecure. I kind of hate it but the loud girls are a pain. Its hard to find a "great" girl.
Or maybe it is my bad luck with finding chicks... anywayz..
By the way, the girl who told me she is scared of STDs.... she not only told me this, but when we're at the dinner (A club dinner that we went together to) she mentioned it a another guy who was AFC and talked to her about her life.
Both girls seem to act like this to everyone! (I am not kidding. If you don't believe me, that is fine. Who knows really. But when I am around them they seem to act like that to everyone)
Is there something about the quiet type girls that make them want to tell you their stories or what-not. I seem to find A LOT of them.
I'd say they are just sexually nervous around guys and feel the need to tell me about their sh~t because they are feel they need an excuse for acting nervous. I don't know though, maybe I just reframe everything to the positive side of things from my point of view. It helps me cope
I am pretty sure I am just their friends at this point (oh well, great learning experience). Espesically the "I don't like sex" girl. For example we were going to drive somewhere in someone else's car, but he only had a 2 seater. So I didn't really give a f~ck and I said "I'll just walk, whatever. I like to walk anyway after I eat"
The girl said "nono, we squeeze in and sit together". So I go ahead and do it, but then as we are getting in the car she just blurts out "We are ONLY friends, I just want you to know that"
I say "What are you talking about? I don't see what you are getting at" Trying to make it seem like she is tripping. That was my first natural response. I probably could have said something more C/F but it wouldn't have been natural. This came out fairly well. ..... its how you say it.. and I think I said it in a "why are you bringing up sex?" tone.
Anyway, we ended up not driving in the car because the driver wussed out and said "its illegal and we'll get caught"
Anyway what I'm trying to say is what is the deal with these nervous girls. Are they acting like wussies to me (harr I call them wussies!) because they are anagolous to insecure guys. Or by being a really good listener do I assume the "psychologist" role.
Either way, anyone have any advice on how to get sexual with these types of chicks for future reference. By the way, I hate acting like "the jerk" I prefer the "great guy" approach pook writes about. I know lots of players and frankly, they make me sick. I'm more for hooking up with chicks I know I could pursue a relationship with, not really party chicks... not right now.
Both, on separate occasions, have started blurting out their family problems and how they are feeling down. This was just out of the blue too. In fact, it feels awkward when the start talking about this stuff. It really does... But I guess I do a good job of hiding awkwardness somehow. I don't show a lot of emotion. I think it adds to my mystery factor (I hope it does at least... I'm not sure if it helps or not... I'm not exactly a DJ... I am just a rAFC)
The other girl started telling me how scared she is of STDs and won't **** a random guy even with a condom. She said she used to be slutty but now she respects herself. (hehe I was about to say "moo" to her to remind her of her getting f~cked like a farm animal days. For those of you who read Pook's ******** know what I mean) This was out of the blue also.
I think I am too good of a listener. I don't ask them about their past at all. I try to keep all topics positive, but I mostly listen and fluff talk about the stuff they start bringing up.
It is ALWAYS them who start talking about negative sh~t like past relationships, family problems, and STDs...
Maybe I have just been dating/hanging out with too many of those quiet, nervous type girls. They are all insecure. I kind of hate it but the loud girls are a pain. Its hard to find a "great" girl.
Or maybe it is my bad luck with finding chicks... anywayz..
By the way, the girl who told me she is scared of STDs.... she not only told me this, but when we're at the dinner (A club dinner that we went together to) she mentioned it a another guy who was AFC and talked to her about her life.
Both girls seem to act like this to everyone! (I am not kidding. If you don't believe me, that is fine. Who knows really. But when I am around them they seem to act like that to everyone)
Is there something about the quiet type girls that make them want to tell you their stories or what-not. I seem to find A LOT of them.
I'd say they are just sexually nervous around guys and feel the need to tell me about their sh~t because they are feel they need an excuse for acting nervous. I don't know though, maybe I just reframe everything to the positive side of things from my point of view. It helps me cope
I am pretty sure I am just their friends at this point (oh well, great learning experience). Espesically the "I don't like sex" girl. For example we were going to drive somewhere in someone else's car, but he only had a 2 seater. So I didn't really give a f~ck and I said "I'll just walk, whatever. I like to walk anyway after I eat"
The girl said "nono, we squeeze in and sit together". So I go ahead and do it, but then as we are getting in the car she just blurts out "We are ONLY friends, I just want you to know that"
I say "What are you talking about? I don't see what you are getting at" Trying to make it seem like she is tripping. That was my first natural response. I probably could have said something more C/F but it wouldn't have been natural. This came out fairly well. ..... its how you say it.. and I think I said it in a "why are you bringing up sex?" tone.
Anyway, we ended up not driving in the car because the driver wussed out and said "its illegal and we'll get caught"
Anyway what I'm trying to say is what is the deal with these nervous girls. Are they acting like wussies to me (harr I call them wussies!) because they are anagolous to insecure guys. Or by being a really good listener do I assume the "psychologist" role.
Either way, anyone have any advice on how to get sexual with these types of chicks for future reference. By the way, I hate acting like "the jerk" I prefer the "great guy" approach pook writes about. I know lots of players and frankly, they make me sick. I'm more for hooking up with chicks I know I could pursue a relationship with, not really party chicks... not right now.
