Hey king & rom, as you know from my Girlfriend of 8 Months has Diminishing Sex Drive thread, we recently broke up (last friday). I cut all communications with her, completely deleted her from facebook including removing all tagged photos of us together and basically any bit of evidence on there that we were ever in the same room. Then I blocked her so she can't even find me. It was kind of therapuetic to delete all that stuff. I was the one that ended the relationship on facebook too. She was the one whe had come over to break up with me though last friday, because the guilt of her branch-swinging had become too much for her to bear and she was no longer able to maintain herself... she was puking every day do to an eating disorder she has and drinking a lot...
I didn't post here to condemn her though or whine.. I'm actually sharing with you guys about how i'm coping... I am a recovering alcoholic, i've been sober for over 18 months now. The last time I was in a long term relationship and a girl ended it I drank fro 5 months straight into oblivion... this time is much different... I've surrounded myself with friends, family, supportive people i've met in AA meetings and lots of positive influences. I'm working out every day still, playing soccer, talking to tons of my close positive influence type friends and keeping my eye on the prize (improving the quality of my life through health, business, social life).
I haven't touched alcohol and i'm not a saint by any stretch so i'm not saying that to boast or brag. I'm grateful because for a guy like me, if I were to drink to numb the pain of this type of thing I might never came up for air. Anyway, i've found strength in the support of my friends and family, aa and in exercise, eating well and deciding that I'm going to move on and focus on moving forward.
A few quotes that have helped me:
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within.
Life is a rip-off when you expect to get what you want. Life works when you choose what you got. Actually what you got is what you chose. To move on, choose it.
Werner Erhard
We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.
Sir Winston Churchill
Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.
Cherie Carter-Scott
The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance,the wise grows it under his feet.
James Oppenheim
You do not meditate to heal yourself. You meditate to discover that you are well.
C.B. Shibuki
Life is too important to be taken seriously.
