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latinnova

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Ya ya, I know, it's every guys dream to get a girl who is straight up like a porn star who starts moaning and screaming from the get go and wants to be hammered hard the whole time, and you all are probably gonna tell me to man up, but I seriously am finding that I am not liking it. This girl I have been dating, who is awesome in all other aspects, is extremely noisy in bed, moaning and groaning loudly from the time I insert to till I am done, that is if I can finish. And she wants you to pound it like a jack hammer the whole time, which is ok in moderation during the sex session, but not the whole time.

All the moaning and groaning distracts the hell out of me, and the outcome is I seriously just can't cvm. I like it when they start to moan right before they cvm, when getting close to their climax, but not the whole time, is anyone else like this? I don't mind heavy breathing and what not during sex, but all the extreme moaning and groaning from the very beginning to the end just doesn't let me focus. I'm talking about 2 + hour sessions because I can't cvm, and eventually just lose all focus and pull out. It's just way over the top. This is not your normal moaning, let me just make that clear, its like she is cumming the whole time and it almost seems like it is fake, its hard to read what she actually likes.

This is the first girl I have been with like this, the others have been normal. It kinda sucks because we get along really well in all other aspects, but I'm beginning to think sexually we are not compatible. Guess I am going to have to discuss it with her, but she likes what she likes. I'm guessing this is most men's dream, and thought it would be mine too, but in reality I find it too distracting and lose focus. Am I the only one like this? Probably , lol.
 

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Not my dream bro.

I cant STAND that. I like a few moans here and there, or when I'm really pounding her, but when she is howling like a coyote the whole time I find it distracting and frankly a boner-killer.

Sometimes I will put my hand over her mouth or stuff her face into the bed, lol. They actually like it if you own it.
 

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Hahah... I might have to stuff her face into the bed, sure as hell would make me feel better. I usually just kiss her to shut her the hell up. However she ends up pulling away after a minute, right when I start getting in my groove again because I can foucus on what I'm doing, and starts the noise once again, and in my head I'm like "Jesus christ, just shut the fvck up.."
 

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She needs to spend more time with your d!ck in her mouth lol.

I think I would find that annoying too. And as for jackhammering, that's only fun for me for a little while too. If I pound too long it kills my boner, I usually do it when I think she is close and finish her that way. I like to vary the tempo, but the long slow strokes feel best.
 

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latinnova said:
I'm guessing this is most men's dream, and thought it would be mine too, but in reality I find it too distracting and lose focus. Am I the only one like this? Probably , lol.
I've had this problem. It turns out, women think that "this is most men's dream", too. Did you know that women watch porn? They see those obnoxiously fake chicks and imitate that...

...until someone like me shuts that sh¡t down.

V: "Look, I'm all for you enjoying sex. But, please ease up off the vocals. You can breathe heavy and moan without adding voice into it. Sure, porn b¡tches do it, but that's porn, and those b¡tches are on porn sets. It gets irritating, believe it or not, and distracts from the feeling. Rather than focus on dirty talk and putting on a show, focus on the feeling. I'll still get a good show."

OR...

V: "Hey, I'm sure you heard that guys like loud chicks, but, don't force it. Guys love chicks that enjoy sex. But, you don't have to tell the neighbors down the street."

Tell her to quit "playing it up". I did with my current gal, and now when we happen to be watching porn, we laugh and make fun of Tabitha Stevens whenever she shows up...

*Monotone, loud, porn-bot voice*
"YEAH. OH YEAH. YOU LIKE THAT? YEAH? OH YEAH? YOU LIKE IT WHEN SHE'S SUCKING YOUR BIG, NASTY, CØCK? YEAH? OH YEAH. YEAH. YEAH. OH YEAH. YEAH. THAT'S IT. YEAH."

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Big horsey-toothed blow-hard gets those scenes skipped after a couple minutes of laughing... it gets abrasive on the ear holes.
 

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latinnova said:
...This is not your normal moaning, let me just make that clear, its like she is cumming the whole time and it almost seems like it is fake...
She is obviously faking it, or it might be better described as role playing. My money says that she dated some guy in the past that really liked her being loud the whole time. You can either talk to her about it ("I love that you get so into it, but I find it distracting..."), try to make her shut up (put a pillow over her face, carefully so you don't suffocate her, haha), or just next her.

Personally, I like it when a woman gets into it, but too much is even worse than total silence.
 

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Start choking her. Some women are into that. Find out.
 

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Sounds like she's hamming it up to put on a ponroesque performance thinking you'll love it. Her prior boyfriends probably trained her that way. Definitely tell her to tone down the opera in the sac. Trust me, if you did something she didn't like, she'd tell you without any remorse, as all girls do.
 

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If you can't get the volume down, kick her out. "Every man's fantasy" may ultimately just be that ... a fantasy.
 

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LOL! I was having some really good sex with a beautiful brunette one night I stayed at a luxury hotel. I know for a fact, that whole fvcking floor heard her. It was crazy how loud she was and i didnt want to kill the mood by telling her to shut up! lol but a good moan here and there is great. When it gets way too loud then it can get a little awkward.
 

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Why the hell aren't you talking to her about this.

Seriously, there's so much misunderstanding in bed because men AND women have false ideas of what the other one supposedly likes.

I met a woman once who was actually experienced but couldn't even make a handjob feel good. That is, until I showed her how it's done. She improved, I praised her, it totally turned her on.
 

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I LIKE it when they moan a BIT, but yeah, I'd be distracted by a flock of geese honking the whole time....
I like it when they grab me and hold on for dear life when they orgasm too, but I DON'T like scratches that hurt for 3 days.... Maybe give her THAT idea....
 

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I really like loud girls this would help me *** harder not distract me. What I suggest you do is tell her you need to concentrate on cumming so you need her quiet then shove her head into the bed like others have suggested ass up face down style. Also you could put bondage tape over her mouth or ball gag her if asking her to shut up and putting her face in the bed doesn't work. I was with this one chick who screamed so loud it probably woke the neighbors up and I loved every second of it.
 

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Dear Latin,
You are an ingrate...I have fvucked lots of Women,never had one like that...As a Man your age I would dream of having such a Girl...And you are peeved...Come on!
 

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I've dealt with this before. I was honestly straight up with her. Told her I didn't like it. Told her exactly how I felt and she changed it. I'd be $100 she'll do the same.
 

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Scaramouche said:
Dear Latin,
You are an ingrate...I have fvucked lots of Women,never had one like that...As a Man your age I would dream of having such a Girl...And you are peeved...Come on!
haha, I knew I would get that, the first few times was fun because it was new and all, but man it gets annoying really quick. To each their own I guess, but its seriously over the top.

Next time I'm just gonna do the same. As soon as my d!ck touches her vaj I am gonna yell loudly "Oh hell, ya.." and with every thrust I'm gonna moan and yell and on and on, and we will see what she thinks. She will probably love it, lol.

Like I said, I do love when a women actually starts to moan, scream, etc... when she is actually on her way to coming, I start to jack hammer it until she is done. But when a woman is doing it the whole time it just gets old quick. If I'm with a girl and know she only starts to groan loudly when she is about to come, and then scream while coming, that is freaking awesome and I love it. But when the tip just makes it in and they groan like that from that point forward... uhh.... no thanks.
 

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Dear Latin,
Interesting...In the fullness of time,perhaps I will find out LOL.
 

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I used to screw this one chick who would scream so much you'd think there was a bloody murder being committed.

Depending on my mood I actually liked it (sometimes) but would also get tired of it if it was too over the top.

I was actually able to fix the issue without ever having to talk about it.

She was the same as you describe. From the moment you stick it in she started going crazy. What I did was started ****ing her extremely slowly. She started moaning really loud and I would pull out a bit. Wait for her to shut up and start VERY slowly again and repeat. It became pretty obvious to her to tone down a bit. It just seemed ridiculous/fake for her to be moaning that much at that early stage.

Anyway whenever I started speeding up she would start in again too loud and over doing it. So I again slowed things down and actually put my finger on her lips in the "shhhhh" position. I pretty much made it clear by slowing down and/or pulling my d!ck out that I wanted her to be more quiet in the early going. Otherwise I wasn't going to fvck her. Once we got right into it I would just go for it and indicate with my own vocals that it was OK for her to be loud too.

It was actually an amazing way to take charge of the situation and it made for some very passionate sessions as things had to build up to that state of craziness instead of loud right from the get go.

I only had to do that 2 or 3 times and she figured out that's how I wanted it.

That girl was super eager to please and it sounds like yours is too. Just needs some guidance.
 

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I've been with a few screamers.

I've also had quickies with said screamers when the kids (or friends, or parents) are in the other room.

They didn't scream that time.

I'm convinced screamers scream, in part, because they think we want them to. Women watch porn too and think that's what sex is supposed to look like. If you ask her to tone it down she can and she will.
 

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I've had those too. Honestly it makes me insecure, like she's faking it. I mean how could it feel that good? On the other hand I'd rather her be loud than dead silence.
 
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