Hey, doubt anyone remembers me but I was here years ago with a really dumb problem that I am long over. (fell for an engaged guy...whatever...) I still read here all the time trying to see why guys act the way they do...as I haven't had much luck with the male species. *sigh* (I hope I'm not going to get slammed or judged for posting here, but hear me out..I'm here for the same reasons you guys are...)
I've always been "one of the guys"... I've been told that I am smart, beautiful, funny...I love sports and video games...and sex. Guys tells me that any guy would be lucky to have me. I'm not going to say "yes! And it's all true!" Because my confidence level has been shot after the experiences I have had. Just telling you a bit about me. I wonder why guys tell me this but then don't date me themselves. It's a wonder.
My current problem...is my FWB of 6 months. We are just casual because for 1) he is four years younger than me, 2) We work together, 3) In the beginning he wasn't over his ex. Yes I like him, but not sure I'd date him him anyway as he has cheated on every gf he's ever had and I'm starting to sense that he is a player.
Ok, so the problem is this...I'll just get right to it and hope for some honest answers here: We went from having sex twice a week to barely once a month. Only one reason for that right? He's getting it somewhere else?? So why everytime I ask him does he not just admit it? I tell him I won't be mad but I just want to know, and he still says "haha no, there isn't anyone else..you and me have just been on different skeds..." Partially true, but before it didn't matter if we worked in the morning and I was there at 3am. I'm sure it's gotten to the point where I'm totally annoying him with "why haven't we hooked up? Is there someone else??" And yet he still says everything is fine. Everything else is the same, talking all the time, flirting, whatever. Except the sex. When we were hooking up frequently, he was the type to want me to stay the night, cuddle, arms around me, lots of kissing. Affectionate, not just going over to bang, you know?
So what's this guys deal? Is he interested or not and why suddenly no sex??? I have never asked him for anything more, no relationship or anything. I'm pretty cool about him going out with his friends, never bug him.
If someone here could tell me what's going on here, that'd be great. I'd be glad to give you a girl's perspective on any of your situations too.
Thanks!
I've always been "one of the guys"... I've been told that I am smart, beautiful, funny...I love sports and video games...and sex. Guys tells me that any guy would be lucky to have me. I'm not going to say "yes! And it's all true!" Because my confidence level has been shot after the experiences I have had. Just telling you a bit about me. I wonder why guys tell me this but then don't date me themselves. It's a wonder.
My current problem...is my FWB of 6 months. We are just casual because for 1) he is four years younger than me, 2) We work together, 3) In the beginning he wasn't over his ex. Yes I like him, but not sure I'd date him him anyway as he has cheated on every gf he's ever had and I'm starting to sense that he is a player.
Ok, so the problem is this...I'll just get right to it and hope for some honest answers here: We went from having sex twice a week to barely once a month. Only one reason for that right? He's getting it somewhere else?? So why everytime I ask him does he not just admit it? I tell him I won't be mad but I just want to know, and he still says "haha no, there isn't anyone else..you and me have just been on different skeds..." Partially true, but before it didn't matter if we worked in the morning and I was there at 3am. I'm sure it's gotten to the point where I'm totally annoying him with "why haven't we hooked up? Is there someone else??" And yet he still says everything is fine. Everything else is the same, talking all the time, flirting, whatever. Except the sex. When we were hooking up frequently, he was the type to want me to stay the night, cuddle, arms around me, lots of kissing. Affectionate, not just going over to bang, you know?
So what's this guys deal? Is he interested or not and why suddenly no sex??? I have never asked him for anything more, no relationship or anything. I'm pretty cool about him going out with his friends, never bug him.
If someone here could tell me what's going on here, that'd be great. I'd be glad to give you a girl's perspective on any of your situations too.
Thanks!
