****ydude said:
Thanks for the replies guys. So, i have an update...
I talked earlier to a mutual friend of ours, who spoke to her last night. She was 'obviously stressed' were his words. Anyway, he proceeded to get her talking, and she said first off she was really stressed about work(she works for the govt). And then they got into talking about me.
She proceeded to shower the positives about me to him, (ie. i am really good looking, i make her laugh, i make her happy, we are on the same level intellectually), but then brought up that she 'cant see it being long term' because she doesnt feel i have 'ambition' and can take care of her. Not to brag or anything, but i make $22CDN an hour, and i am only going up from there. He shot back at her with the fact that very few people her age make the kind of money she does (she makes 31), and that maybe she is being a little unrealistic. She apparently agreed...and (as been, i know this) waffling over exactly how much the money thing is important to her. Anyway, given the fact that i dont have the DJ Bible handy, is an ultimatum in order? I mean, i would marry her in a minute, if we can get by our mutual hangups. But i also dont want to have a broken heart develop over the next 6 months, and make the breakup all that much worse. Ideas? Remembering the 'dating site' issue as well?
cd
Ok where to start.
Your women is on an online dating site, speaking and sending men email roses, I expect this site to be plenty of fish? Correct?
Anyway.
This is what a dating site is:
It’s a means to meet the opposite sex, for a meet up, validation and even sex.
It is not a friend site where women go on to meet men to be mates with and why would a women want to be mates with a guy on a dating site who as gone onto a dating site to find women for romance, i.e sex and hook up e.t.c
Now your women is clearly on this site and others and is very active, now she IS in CONTACT with someone and most probably more THEN ONE.
Now get this in your thick head, your women as at least 1 or more people she is in touch with on these sites, this is FACT!
Now another thing.
She is on these sites and YOU know about it and the worst part about all this:
She really does not care that you know about it and is still on these sites.
At least she is honest, this women is bad news 100%.
So she knows you don’t like her on an online dating site, she knows you know about it and still she continues, so what does this spell out to you, now step back from the situation and look at it from an outside view point.
What this says about YOU.
Is your women is treating you with a lack of RESPECT, read it again, a lack of RESPECT, she is on online dating sites communicating with OTHER MEN whilst dating you, she knows you don’t approve and rightly so NO REAL MAN WOULD, but still she persists.
Now this tell me a few things about the women you are with.
This women as pointed out is an ATTENTION *****.
Now to clarify what an AW is!
An attention *****.
Needs constant validation from other men that she is GL or has something about her, she as self esteem issues and they can only be met by other men constantly qualifying her, these type of women are never satisfied since they have deep rooted mental issues. Even if you was brad pitt the attention crave fix still would not be sorted for these type of women.
AW usually come from broken homes or homes where they where neglected by there fathers mainly or there mothers, they normally show signs of depression and sometimes an AW can be a cutter, there is also another term for an AW to the extreme scale.
Now a lot of AW are not the extreme case variety there are ones that just need to feel pretty by all the men around them constantly giving them attention, still they have self esteem issues THAT NO BF could ever sort out.
Now we go onto the meat and veg of the post and the most scariest thing I have read and the REASON I am replying to this thread, this is the REASON.
You state you would marry her.
Let me tell you something, since you really don’t know wtf you are talking about and I hope I can save you from making a massive mistake probably the biggest one of your LIFE, read it its probably the best advice your gonna get in regards to your fuc*ing future chump…….. and you are being a chump.
Marriage:
In the western culture is a feminised system, what that means is marriage favours the women in the western world.
If you marry this women and you later find out she is online dating sites and blowing off joe, bob, fred and john to feel her attention crave and then you decide to divorce her.
You may have an house and you may have kids e.t.c.
In this society it favours the WOMEN, so if you have those things you can kiss goodbye to them and expect a good portion of your wage to go on her and your kids and I mean a good portion.
Now I read she says YOU DON’T EARN ENOUGH TO SUPORT HER, are you fuc*ing kidding me, you have to be fuc*ing kidding me here right, RIGHT?
So what she is saying you have to be her fuc*ing ***** slave and get out and earn more money so you can get her to not be a fuc*ing lame ass who is treating you with disrespect and how do you get her respect, according to her you become more of her ***** SLAVE<.
This women is bad news open your eyes before you get any deeper with this sack of shi*! Sorry I know she is your women, but she is treating you with no respect, wanting you to be her ***** slave and if you marry her and accept her rather cra* way at showing respect then you are just setting a clear message of.
I AM A CHUMP AND I DON’T MIND YOU CHATTING OTHER MEN UP AND I DON’T MIND BUSTING MY AS* TO EARN ENOUGH MONEY TO PLEASE YOU SO YOU WILL STOP CHATTING OTHER MEN UP. Read it and stop being a fuc*ing doormat, single life is heaven compared to this shi*.
Or your women is chatting other men up as your what is refered to a STOP GAP, she is either an attention who*re or your a STOP GAP.
Now if your a top gap, then this women is the type who cant live being single, i.e self esteem issues again.
So regardless of what is going on, either way its a loose loose situation,.
SO NOT TRY PLAY HER OR WONDER HOW TO MAKE HER RESPECT YOU.
SHE AS already shown what she is like, look she AS ALREADY crossed the FINE LINE of respect, now be a FUC*ING MAN and drop her on her ass for not treating with the respect you deserve from your WOMEN, there is that clear enough? no well then marry her you sad chump.
