GF Blow Job Issues

[ebracer05]

First, I've gotten head from a number of girls but I don't know that any of them have ever been good. Most of them were inexperienced, and those who weren't sucked (pun intended).

My GF right now is like... honestly probably the worst. Like, at least every other girl has been able to bring me to orgasm, and she's only been able to ONCE. It's also not for lack of trying... she'll make like 30+ minutes attempts until she has sweat dripping down her back. This is really bothering her and making her feel insecure. She was borderline paranoid last night that I was going to leave her and has made some wild assumptions about my sexual history because I took the time to read up on how to get a girl off. I can please her extremely well and am excellent in the sack so therefore, I must be pushing women off of me at every turn and have a million ex's (the million ex's is true, but unfortunately, I didn't sleep with them all). I have read on some PUA forums that guys will fake this kind of stuff to evoke this same reaction out of the girl and I'll have to admit, she's always good to me but it's on overdrive right now.

I honestly don't know what to do about this. She kept asking me last night what she could do to get me to orgasm and I honestly didn't know what to tell her. Like, I don't give myself head and wouldn't know the first thing about how to give it. I'm also skeptical that I've ever even had good head... I've had good sex, but not oral sex.

So I'm over a barrel on this one. I really don't want my GF feeling like crap because she isn't doing a good job... I mean, this is something I want her to learn how to do a good job with! But at the same time, I don't know what to tell her. It's something that seems simple, but just sticking it in her mouth and bobbing up and down hasn't been doing the job.

Any advice?

 

[Bible_Belt]

This is what you get for not dating fat chicks. :nono:

Every woman is good at different things. You need to reassure her that you enjoy her in a lot of other ways besides that one specific act, and stop making it about whether or not you get off that one way or not.

Then go to one of the free porno tube sites and watch bl0wjob videos until you find one that demonstrates to her what you want her to do. I recommend amateur fat girls

 

[ebracer05]

Lol, BB, that sounds like some conciliatory BS a girl would say to a schmuck she's trying to placate! But that is pretty close to what I've been telling her.

And fat chicks? Seriously?

Let me clarify, I have not been making this about whether or not I get off or not, she has. I mean, I'd like it if I did, but I could tell from the beginning that her skills were going to need some honing, and so aside from giving her a few commands during the act(s), I haven't discussed it unless she's brought it up. And she does. This is something that really bothers her and I really believe it's not just all about her measuring up to my past experiences - I really believe she does want to please me, and that's another reason I've been especially sensitive to her feelings. It would be another story if she sucked and didn't care.

And PairPlus, I like to orgasm because it brings a feeling of resolution to the experience. I am a very horny guy, and while it doesn't take much of anything it seems to get me aroused, there are times where my stamina gets in the way of completing the act. I don't have ED or anything like that, there are just times it takes a while unless we're having penetrative sex. I still can have some good stamina there, but it's 10x easier for me to orgasm if I want to. The psychological stuff has never done anything for me besides give me an erection. When I don't orgasm, I think it actually feels worse than skipping the sexual act all together because then I leave even hornier than I was with a very strong sense of dissonance. I don't know if that makes any sense to you, but I don't feel resolution until I orgasm.

And then there are guys who blow their load the second the girl breaths on their unit... and that sucks.

I think the reason it takes me so long to orgasm in all things but penetrative sex and t*tty f*cking (actually) is because those two are mutual acts. I have never gotten off to a girl's handjob before and a girl has to patient or talented to get me off with head. I can last a long time with the mutual sex acts if I want to, but it's so much easier for me to get off. Who knows why... it's probably psychological.

 

[gpshields3]

When my dad didnt like how my mom cooked pancakes, he taught her by example. So maybe you could teach your girlfriend by example. Maybe start with a frozen banana. Demonstrate what she's doing wrong. Then demonstrate how you would LIKE the BJ to be. Or if that's awkward, you don't have to freeze the banana.

 

[DoubleAG]

Didn't you say you took the time to read up on how to get a girl off? Tell her to do the same. I'm sure you could find a billion resources on how to give BJ's if you took the time to look.

 

[PDubb75]

If she's determined to get better, you are sitting on gold. Tell her she needs nightly practice...

I have only gotten one BJ that I thought was bad. I don't know if I have just gotten lucky, but nearly every one since my LTR ended was incredible. She's gotta fix this because a good BJ can blow your mind. As well as... well you know.

Key points:
- Get messy. She can't be worrying about keeping your d!ck all neat and clean. Spit on that sh!t. Get that thing soaking wet from saliva.

- She needs to use her hands (but only after getting it wet. I hate when a girl jerks me off with a dry d!ck. They just don't know what they are doing). Her hands should be rubbing any area of your d!ck that isn't currently in her mouth.

- Deepthroat. Tell her to take it in as deep as she can. Just don't make her puke all over you. That's somewhat of a turn-off...

- No teeth. Obviously.

- Take it to the head. Deep throating has gotta be exhausting. Whens he needs a break from it, she should swirl her tongue around the head of your penis, suck on it, kiss it, whatever. But all while jerking your (still wet) shaft.

- Balls? Most guys seem to like their balls being played with. Personally, I don't. Maybe I'm the only one, but I really do not like it.

 

[Scars]

If she's determined to get better, you are sitting on gold. Tell her she needs nightly practice...

I have only gotten one BJ that I thought was bad. I don't know if I have just gotten lucky, but nearly every one since my LTR ended was incredible. She's gotta fix this because a good BJ can blow your mind. As well as... well you know.

Key points:
- Get messy. She can't be worrying about keeping your d!ck all neat and clean. Spit on that sh!t. Get that thing soaking wet from saliva.

- She needs to use her hands (but only after getting it wet. I hate when a girl jerks me off with a dry d!ck. They just don't know what they are doing). Her hands should be rubbing any area of your d!ck that isn't currently in her mouth.

- Deepthroat. Tell her to take it in as deep as she can. Just don't make her puke all over you. That's somewhat of a turn-off...

- No teeth. Obviously.

- Take it to the head. Deep throating has gotta be exhausting. Whens he needs a break from it, she should swirl her tongue around the head of your penis, suck on it, kiss it, whatever. But all while jerking your (still wet) shaft.

- Balls? Most guys seem to like their balls being played with. Personally, I don't. Maybe I'm the only one, but I really do not like it.

PDub illustrated this pretty well. You got a girl willing to learn too. I can't imagine she'll be horrible at it forever, she just needs practice.

I've gotten more bad head than good head. I'd say the number one thing is teeth. There's nothing worse than teeth grinding on your c0ck. So if she is still doing this, have her fix it immediately. Second, remind her that she also has a tongue. The in-out motion of a girls lips surrounding your d!ck feels great, but if she uses her tongue to lick your head too then it feels that much better.

Some girls don't like to go too deep, which is understandable. The size of your junk plays a role too. If she can't, or doesn't want to fit it all the way in, then have her use her hands. Most of the stimulation will be on the head of your penis anyway, so make sure she's using that tongue.

And above all, if/when you do finally bust, make sure she swallows. It makes you feel like a winner.

-Scars

 

[pdx1138]

This is what you get for not dating fat chicks. :nono:

Ha ha.

This is true.

I've had plenty of good ones from 7 & 8's but the "mind blowing best"
was from a fatty.


Surprisingly, the worst one I had ever was with a 53 year old cougar.
I was expecting something amazing and it was so horribly bad she shouldn't have bothered.


Ebracer, if you've had good ones in the past, don't you remember what they did?

If I'm getting it not so good I'll instruct them what to do and grab their available
hand and put it where it should go to help them out.