bluebirdseven
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people always say don't **** where you eat blah x3 but i MUST do this.
Lots of people i know met their SO at work and it turned out well.
Anyway, there's this girl which i really want to know.
We work in different departments and our jobs are not-related.
However, in our office, everybody keep to themselves, which is why it's so difficult to know her through others (which is the usual method).
(this is actually a double-edge sword; the good part is that because everybody keeps to themselves, I don't have to deal with ****blockers or her female friends)
We've made a bit of small talk only once when the company went to lunch together (a once-in-a-blue-moon thing).
See the diagram below:
When i walk past her cubicle every morning, i would say hi and she would smile and greet back etc, but that's it (she's the very reserved type).
She's more relaxed and open to talking outside of the office, based on my observations.
Warm positive good vibes, but then, she's like this with most people. In any case....
How do you guys suggest I make the next move?
My idea is to "grease her wheels" daily by saying hi and making small talk now and then to make her feel more comfortable with me first, but I need some sort of breakthrough.
In the past, in previous companies, people would contact each other on skype during work and relationships are built from there, but in this company, no such culture.
I feel asking for her number at this time is too fast as we barely know each other and it's too obvious I'm hitting on her (in a non-work environment, it's ok, but not in this situation)
What I should do now is continue to sit it out and wait for a chance to come (the once-in-a-blue-moon company lunch), then give it my all on that opportunity?
Usually my method for getting to know girls in social circles (not total strangers pickup) is:
1) A bit of small talk
2) Generic questions to "feel out" her interests / hobbies etc to look for something in common
3) Connect, build rapport, get number (which always succeeds cos' the girl already know me by then)
All I need is some way to get isolate her and get her out of the office environment otherwise it's hard to navigate in a situation like this.
advice?
Lots of people i know met their SO at work and it turned out well.
Anyway, there's this girl which i really want to know.
We work in different departments and our jobs are not-related.
However, in our office, everybody keep to themselves, which is why it's so difficult to know her through others (which is the usual method).
(this is actually a double-edge sword; the good part is that because everybody keeps to themselves, I don't have to deal with ****blockers or her female friends)
We've made a bit of small talk only once when the company went to lunch together (a once-in-a-blue-moon thing).
See the diagram below:
When i walk past her cubicle every morning, i would say hi and she would smile and greet back etc, but that's it (she's the very reserved type).
She's more relaxed and open to talking outside of the office, based on my observations.
Warm positive good vibes, but then, she's like this with most people. In any case....
How do you guys suggest I make the next move?
My idea is to "grease her wheels" daily by saying hi and making small talk now and then to make her feel more comfortable with me first, but I need some sort of breakthrough.
In the past, in previous companies, people would contact each other on skype during work and relationships are built from there, but in this company, no such culture.
I feel asking for her number at this time is too fast as we barely know each other and it's too obvious I'm hitting on her (in a non-work environment, it's ok, but not in this situation)
What I should do now is continue to sit it out and wait for a chance to come (the once-in-a-blue-moon company lunch), then give it my all on that opportunity?
Usually my method for getting to know girls in social circles (not total strangers pickup) is:
1) A bit of small talk
2) Generic questions to "feel out" her interests / hobbies etc to look for something in common
3) Connect, build rapport, get number (which always succeeds cos' the girl already know me by then)
All I need is some way to get isolate her and get her out of the office environment otherwise it's hard to navigate in a situation like this.
advice?
