Okay so basically guys I'm just looking for some advice on making things better with my (ex) girlfriend if possible.
A bit of background:
I work with this girl, she chased me for a few months before I eventually gave her a chance. We'd been seeing each other for about 5 months and then when driving along I saw a text come up from her ex. Turns out in the couple of days prior to that they had been texting each other. She apologised to me in tears, they had just been texting briefly but I didn't like it anyway. She has suffered with mental health issues during her teenage years and young adulthood and she gets extremely lonely when I'm not around. Admittedly I hadn't been there for her during the time immediately prior to her texting him. I spent the following 2 weeks in a cycle of being happy with her and angry at her. Eventually on Sunday night (8 days ago) I told her I wanted to break up.
Now following this I felt immediate regret. I told her on the Monday night via text that I think I'd made a mistake (yes I made a lot of mistakes in this as you'll notice)...
We messaged a couple of times over the next couple of days and when we were in work on Thursday/Friday she was understandably reluctant to have any physical contact with me.
On the Friday night after work I was in a terrible mood, removed our relationship status on Facebook and told her again that I wasn't sure it would work.
She messaged me later that night saying she loved me and she wanted to make it better.
Now I've been away since Saturday and we haven't been speaking until this afternoon when she messaged me asking how my trip was going. There were a couple of texts back and forth and then about an hour ago I called her to tell her I want to give things another go. Her response was that she loves me but she doesn't know at the moment and that she needs some time to recover from what has obviously been a turbulent 8 days for both of us. She would not commit to anything over the call.
Now I understand that I have made some potentially big mistakes in this interaction (that's love for you), but what I'm asking you is a couple of things:
Do you think that this situation is salvageable?
What is she likely to be thinking right now?
Is she likely to want to commit to a relationship after this trauma?
What would my next move be, bearing in mind I work with her?
Thanks for any help
A bit of background:
I work with this girl, she chased me for a few months before I eventually gave her a chance. We'd been seeing each other for about 5 months and then when driving along I saw a text come up from her ex. Turns out in the couple of days prior to that they had been texting each other. She apologised to me in tears, they had just been texting briefly but I didn't like it anyway. She has suffered with mental health issues during her teenage years and young adulthood and she gets extremely lonely when I'm not around. Admittedly I hadn't been there for her during the time immediately prior to her texting him. I spent the following 2 weeks in a cycle of being happy with her and angry at her. Eventually on Sunday night (8 days ago) I told her I wanted to break up.
Now following this I felt immediate regret. I told her on the Monday night via text that I think I'd made a mistake (yes I made a lot of mistakes in this as you'll notice)...
We messaged a couple of times over the next couple of days and when we were in work on Thursday/Friday she was understandably reluctant to have any physical contact with me.
On the Friday night after work I was in a terrible mood, removed our relationship status on Facebook and told her again that I wasn't sure it would work.
She messaged me later that night saying she loved me and she wanted to make it better.
Now I've been away since Saturday and we haven't been speaking until this afternoon when she messaged me asking how my trip was going. There were a couple of texts back and forth and then about an hour ago I called her to tell her I want to give things another go. Her response was that she loves me but she doesn't know at the moment and that she needs some time to recover from what has obviously been a turbulent 8 days for both of us. She would not commit to anything over the call.
Now I understand that I have made some potentially big mistakes in this interaction (that's love for you), but what I'm asking you is a couple of things:
Do you think that this situation is salvageable?
What is she likely to be thinking right now?
Is she likely to want to commit to a relationship after this trauma?
What would my next move be, bearing in mind I work with her?
Thanks for any help