This thread is kind of a spin off of this --> http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=158452
I think there's some confusion amongst a few of us. Women are more intelligent then we give them credit for when it comes to interactions with the opposite sex. As a matter of fact, they may be even smarter and more adept then us since they're approached daily by hordes of men.
Maybe I'm in the minority, but I believe there's a huge difference between being labeled in the FriendZone or being in Reserve
Example
Tom's at a party. He spots this sensational woman that he'd like to make speak in tongues and never forget his name.
So - Tom goes in guns blazing. Since she's so fine, he decides to take things smooth. He gets her name, has a stimulating conversation, dances with her and even gets a little kino in. He's really digging this chick and believes he made a great impression so he gets her number and exits.
Tom waits a few days and decides to call this fine thing up to go out for drinks. She picks up, excited to hear from him. However, she's busy all week and doesn't know when she'll be available. So Tom says fine and aborts from the call. However he wonders why she's acting indifferent and decides to text her a few days later. She sends a few nonchalant responses back at him but nothing groundbreaking.
After a few days Tom calls again, but this time she's not as excited to hear him. When Tom asks her out she says, "I have a boyfriend, but I'd really like to be your friend!"
FriendZone
That's it. Tom's done with this broad. She's put him in the friendzone and escape is futile. He's better off moving onto new pvssy.
When a chick you've opened says those words it's definitely not the end all be all, but it may as well be. She didn't counteroffer his proposal nor did she ever initiate contact with him. Saying "LJBF" is the nail in the coffin. Now don't get me wrong there's always a slim chance she may eventually come around, but how long is Tom willing to wait? He's better off finding other women with higher interest.
When a woman straight up tells you "Let's Be Friends" the best thing to do is move on. Don't embarrass yourself and keep trying to turn her to the darkside. It's over.
However...
Reserve
Imagine the same scenario except this time, the woman Tom is after counteroffers with another day and time. So they go out and have a great time. At the end of the date, Tom gets a kiss and they tell each other how much they look forward to the next meeting.
So Tom's so excited, he calls her the following week to set something up. This time the woman tells him she's busy without counteroffering.
Tom isn't too concerned about this because he was smart enough to have backups. This woman whom he had such a great time with suddenly becomes aloof. He doesn't initiate contact because he's too busy.
The following week, the HB texts Tom
HB: Hey babe. How are you?
They text a few times back and forth and eventually set up a time to meet again. This process goes on for quite some time, but it doesn't matter because they're having fun with each other and ultimately see each other whenever it's convenient.
I think of this as being in her Reserves. More than likely, she has someone else with higher interest she's going out with but she still has a backup plan. Tom doesn't seem to mind either because he's a smart guy and also has other plates. Notice how neither of them even mentioned being friends? Because they're not friends ..they're acquaintances that may or may not end up fvcking in the back of Tom's lac.
There is a difference...
Also, keep in mind if you game women at all they aren't your friends. If they don't hit you with the "LJBF", "I have a bf" etc lines and do exchange numbers you're going into their reserve bank instantaneously. After a few interactions she'll decide whether or not you'll remain in her reserve bank, become the next big thing or become a friend.
These are just my observations from experience. There's always going to be exceptions. I know "friends" that fvcked each other and may be in the process of getting ready to "fvck". But if a woman is attracted to you in any way, shape or form always know there's a possibility you two could end up banging. True friends don't fvck each other so you never really were just "friends", simply waiting in reserves for the opportunity.
I think there's some confusion amongst a few of us. Women are more intelligent then we give them credit for when it comes to interactions with the opposite sex. As a matter of fact, they may be even smarter and more adept then us since they're approached daily by hordes of men.
Maybe I'm in the minority, but I believe there's a huge difference between being labeled in the FriendZone or being in Reserve
Example
Tom's at a party. He spots this sensational woman that he'd like to make speak in tongues and never forget his name.
So - Tom goes in guns blazing. Since she's so fine, he decides to take things smooth. He gets her name, has a stimulating conversation, dances with her and even gets a little kino in. He's really digging this chick and believes he made a great impression so he gets her number and exits.
Tom waits a few days and decides to call this fine thing up to go out for drinks. She picks up, excited to hear from him. However, she's busy all week and doesn't know when she'll be available. So Tom says fine and aborts from the call. However he wonders why she's acting indifferent and decides to text her a few days later. She sends a few nonchalant responses back at him but nothing groundbreaking.
After a few days Tom calls again, but this time she's not as excited to hear him. When Tom asks her out she says, "I have a boyfriend, but I'd really like to be your friend!"
FriendZone
That's it. Tom's done with this broad. She's put him in the friendzone and escape is futile. He's better off moving onto new pvssy.
When a chick you've opened says those words it's definitely not the end all be all, but it may as well be. She didn't counteroffer his proposal nor did she ever initiate contact with him. Saying "LJBF" is the nail in the coffin. Now don't get me wrong there's always a slim chance she may eventually come around, but how long is Tom willing to wait? He's better off finding other women with higher interest.
When a woman straight up tells you "Let's Be Friends" the best thing to do is move on. Don't embarrass yourself and keep trying to turn her to the darkside. It's over.
However...
Reserve
Imagine the same scenario except this time, the woman Tom is after counteroffers with another day and time. So they go out and have a great time. At the end of the date, Tom gets a kiss and they tell each other how much they look forward to the next meeting.
So Tom's so excited, he calls her the following week to set something up. This time the woman tells him she's busy without counteroffering.
Tom isn't too concerned about this because he was smart enough to have backups. This woman whom he had such a great time with suddenly becomes aloof. He doesn't initiate contact because he's too busy.
The following week, the HB texts Tom
HB: Hey babe. How are you?
They text a few times back and forth and eventually set up a time to meet again. This process goes on for quite some time, but it doesn't matter because they're having fun with each other and ultimately see each other whenever it's convenient.
I think of this as being in her Reserves. More than likely, she has someone else with higher interest she's going out with but she still has a backup plan. Tom doesn't seem to mind either because he's a smart guy and also has other plates. Notice how neither of them even mentioned being friends? Because they're not friends ..they're acquaintances that may or may not end up fvcking in the back of Tom's lac.
There is a difference...
Also, keep in mind if you game women at all they aren't your friends. If they don't hit you with the "LJBF", "I have a bf" etc lines and do exchange numbers you're going into their reserve bank instantaneously. After a few interactions she'll decide whether or not you'll remain in her reserve bank, become the next big thing or become a friend.
These are just my observations from experience. There's always going to be exceptions. I know "friends" that fvcked each other and may be in the process of getting ready to "fvck". But if a woman is attracted to you in any way, shape or form always know there's a possibility you two could end up banging. True friends don't fvck each other so you never really were just "friends", simply waiting in reserves for the opportunity.
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