Hey. I've been inactive for a little while, and everything was going well. I recently broke up with my gf - it was long overdue, and I've moved on. I had a date on Saturday and somehow, I ****ed it up.
A little background. She's in one of my classes at University. I met her during class, and we began to talk about the class since I knew the subject very well - she didn't understand a certain concept. We hung out at a coffee shop until I had to go to class.
All of a sudden. My "DJ" mentality went out the drain when I was with her then, and on the date. I wasn't how I normally would act. I wasn't myself. I was intimidated - anyone would be. She's incredibly gorgeous, intelligent, and funny. And, she's from Europe... with a hell of a sexy accent.
We had breakfast together one day after class since I was hungry and this is when I asked her out. I literally asked if she would want to go to the movies and have lunch.
I cooked lunch, and we went to the movies. I couldn't read her, and the entire date I was trying to as opposed to merely having a good time. I bet I was probably a little awkward too. I was so ****ing distracted, you know? I'm honestly trying to come up with reasons where I've gone wrong, but I can't come up with anything solid. I only know I was a little too quiet (quieter than normal) and I could have let myself be a little more loose. I was way too nervous. This was my first date that I ever had. The girls I've been with in the past I met them first and I got to know them before going on a date.
With this girl, she was basically unknown.
I dropped her off at the dorms. I went home. No kissing. No holding hands. She didn't seem to want it from what I gathered while being on the date.
I came back a few minutes later and asked her to come downstairs. I tried to go for a kiss to show her i was assertive. I wanted her to know I was into her, and not a pvssy. She cheeked me, and asked what was I doing. I told her I liked her. To which she replied, "How, after the first day?"
In class the next day, she talked to me but she left after that. I was waiting for her to ask me if I wanted to go for coffee. It was her move. She didn't make it.
I have no problem to take it slow and to get to know her, but I don't know if she even likes me. I don't just want to move on, I want to fix this mess. I know if I get another date with her I'd be much better. Who wouldn't be nervous on their first time?
I was thinking of telling her that to explain the potential awkwardness from the first date. Can you guys give me your advice from your experiences?
A little background. She's in one of my classes at University. I met her during class, and we began to talk about the class since I knew the subject very well - she didn't understand a certain concept. We hung out at a coffee shop until I had to go to class.
All of a sudden. My "DJ" mentality went out the drain when I was with her then, and on the date. I wasn't how I normally would act. I wasn't myself. I was intimidated - anyone would be. She's incredibly gorgeous, intelligent, and funny. And, she's from Europe... with a hell of a sexy accent.
We had breakfast together one day after class since I was hungry and this is when I asked her out. I literally asked if she would want to go to the movies and have lunch.
I cooked lunch, and we went to the movies. I couldn't read her, and the entire date I was trying to as opposed to merely having a good time. I bet I was probably a little awkward too. I was so ****ing distracted, you know? I'm honestly trying to come up with reasons where I've gone wrong, but I can't come up with anything solid. I only know I was a little too quiet (quieter than normal) and I could have let myself be a little more loose. I was way too nervous. This was my first date that I ever had. The girls I've been with in the past I met them first and I got to know them before going on a date.
With this girl, she was basically unknown.
I dropped her off at the dorms. I went home. No kissing. No holding hands. She didn't seem to want it from what I gathered while being on the date.
I came back a few minutes later and asked her to come downstairs. I tried to go for a kiss to show her i was assertive. I wanted her to know I was into her, and not a pvssy. She cheeked me, and asked what was I doing. I told her I liked her. To which she replied, "How, after the first day?"
In class the next day, she talked to me but she left after that. I was waiting for her to ask me if I wanted to go for coffee. It was her move. She didn't make it.
I have no problem to take it slow and to get to know her, but I don't know if she even likes me. I don't just want to move on, I want to fix this mess. I know if I get another date with her I'd be much better. Who wouldn't be nervous on their first time?
I was thinking of telling her that to explain the potential awkwardness from the first date. Can you guys give me your advice from your experiences?
