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Don Juan
The All Important First Impression
I have come to realize that aside from having a solid foundation of confidence and charm. One has to make very sure that he makes an outstanding first Impression. The first impression you make on a girl can have a major impact on the way she sees you from that point foward.
It seems that the first Impression is like a "sample" of who you are. If your first impression(approach) is dull , predictable and boring. She will view you as such. if your approach is common, she will see you as just another guy wanting to get laid. If you approach is light hearted, confident and funny. She will see you that way as well.
I know friends of mine who are very good looking guys and are actually quite confident and fun to be around over all. But when they approach girls and establish that first impression, they often come accross as being nervous and predictable. Something like:
"oh hi. umm. I couldn't help but notice you from accross the room. do you think that I could have you number"
They seem to think that once the girl gets to know them, and once they can get the girl on a date. That they can show these girls how confident and fun-loving they are. The sad part is, they never make it to the first date. Since the girls initial impression of them was "Dull, nervous, boring, predictable"
Obvioiusly we all know that first impressions are lasting ones, and are very , VERY important in the dating game. So it would make sense to actually reherse and practice, and fabricate a Great, no make that an Iron-clad approach(first - impression). It's said, that in business, making a killing doesn't have anything to do with the product you are selling, but how well you present(advertise) the product. You can have a great product (personality, body, etc), but if you can't advertise it properly, you dead whereever you go.
After a first impression has been made, the imagination immediately begins to fabricate and build apon this initial impression. If it's a good first impression, a good image of you will be created in her mind.
Now, to the most important part. What consitutes the ideal approach? Well, first off, we want a clear vision of what kind of man we want our Mr.Perfect to see us as. Ideally, we would want her to know we were confident, smart, funny and abitious. Right. And since we can't rely on the first date to show her how confidnet and fun we are if we don't get that first date. Therefore we have to take all these great qualities and package them into a neat "sample package" , called the first impression, which will start a chain reaction of great thoughts and feelings of attraction towards us.
I have spent an appreciable amount of time pondering this very thing. I have asked myself over and over how and what type of approach I was going to make when I see an attractive girl. I'll show you what I have come up with so far, and I also encourage you to add to this. My goal in this message is to get as much people from this board involved in fabricating the ideal approach. in this way, we can all use it to maximizs and to optimize our success rate with women.
Here is what I have so far:
When I see a girl I am interested in I will do the following. Lets say I'm at the gym for example:
Step One::
I will ensure that my posture is intact. Head high, shoulders slightly back and in proper alignment. I will walk with grace and confidence. It's a fact that there are over 750,000 non-verbal signs we give off, which tell other people about who we are! Therefore, it becomes very, very important that she sees this. Don't over do it and walk around like a mach-man or anything, but make sure you movements and gestures are very calm, coordinated and sound.
Step Two: Mild Eye contact. I will make some eye contact with "relaxed" eyes, not nervous (please look in my direction eye contact), but calm, casual, brief eye contact. (as I walk in her direction)
Step Three: In a calm and light-hearted voice. I will say the following "hi, I'm _ _ _ _". "I haven't seen you around here before. You must be new to this gym(school, store, whatever)". <When done in a calm and casual manner, this shows confidence>
Let her Answer: ----------
"I guess this means I'm going to have to invite you out for coffee. And if you don't drink coffee, too bad you can watch me drink coffee, while I get to know you better." Deal? " <This would show even more confidence and a sence of humour"
So far up to this point, she now sees us as being a funny, light-hearted, non-despirate and confident guy. lets see, what else could we add to this.
After she says "sure, why not" (which is very probably, since we havn't come on too strong and we have displayed some very attractive qualities) We could then proceed to ask for her phone number.
"Cool, whats you number. I've gotta run, but I'll drop you a line when I some free time k" <This is very effective since your not saying "I wonder if I could have you number" which seems insecure and despirate. Your putting her in a position where she would have a hard time telling you no. it also makes you look "busy and not-so-available". It shows her that you have a life and that she IS NOT the priority, shes going to have to work her a$$ off for that! Furthermore, your ending the convo which shows her whos in control. Plus theres another hidden gem, your also being Unpredictable and mysterious since you havn't yet given her a time when your going to call, or if you going to call. This makes her wonder about you and you degree of interest in her.
So whats the sum total of this brief dialog. In a nutshell, it has portrayed you as being :
Mysterious
Fun and exiting
Unpredictable
In control
Confident
Charming
Easy-going
Calm and collected
Assertive, initiative and in demand
I'll lay out the approach again for easy reading. Essentially the goal is to come up with the perfect appraoch and make a great first impression. And to do this by saying as little as possible, but making what you Say COUNT.
"hi, I'm Jason. I haven't seen you around here before. You must be new to this gym(school, store, whatever)".
Let her Answer: ----------
"I guess this means I'm going to have to invite you out for coffee. And if you don't drink coffee, too bad you can watch me drink coffee, while I get to know you better." Deal? "(smile) <This would show even more confidence and a sence of humour"
Her: "sure, why not"
You: "Cool, whats you number. I've gotta run, but I'll drop you a line when I some free time k"
Once again, I want this to be a group effort. I want us to create an iron clad approach and set an impression that will revolutionize our success rate with the opposite sex!!
When we have gather sufficient info, we can then create a template that can be used over and over again to create streams of dating opportunities and set the foundation essential to creating a great relationship.
007
I have come to realize that aside from having a solid foundation of confidence and charm. One has to make very sure that he makes an outstanding first Impression. The first impression you make on a girl can have a major impact on the way she sees you from that point foward.
It seems that the first Impression is like a "sample" of who you are. If your first impression(approach) is dull , predictable and boring. She will view you as such. if your approach is common, she will see you as just another guy wanting to get laid. If you approach is light hearted, confident and funny. She will see you that way as well.
I know friends of mine who are very good looking guys and are actually quite confident and fun to be around over all. But when they approach girls and establish that first impression, they often come accross as being nervous and predictable. Something like:
"oh hi. umm. I couldn't help but notice you from accross the room. do you think that I could have you number"
They seem to think that once the girl gets to know them, and once they can get the girl on a date. That they can show these girls how confident and fun-loving they are. The sad part is, they never make it to the first date. Since the girls initial impression of them was "Dull, nervous, boring, predictable"
Obvioiusly we all know that first impressions are lasting ones, and are very , VERY important in the dating game. So it would make sense to actually reherse and practice, and fabricate a Great, no make that an Iron-clad approach(first - impression). It's said, that in business, making a killing doesn't have anything to do with the product you are selling, but how well you present(advertise) the product. You can have a great product (personality, body, etc), but if you can't advertise it properly, you dead whereever you go.
After a first impression has been made, the imagination immediately begins to fabricate and build apon this initial impression. If it's a good first impression, a good image of you will be created in her mind.
Now, to the most important part. What consitutes the ideal approach? Well, first off, we want a clear vision of what kind of man we want our Mr.Perfect to see us as. Ideally, we would want her to know we were confident, smart, funny and abitious. Right. And since we can't rely on the first date to show her how confidnet and fun we are if we don't get that first date. Therefore we have to take all these great qualities and package them into a neat "sample package" , called the first impression, which will start a chain reaction of great thoughts and feelings of attraction towards us.
I have spent an appreciable amount of time pondering this very thing. I have asked myself over and over how and what type of approach I was going to make when I see an attractive girl. I'll show you what I have come up with so far, and I also encourage you to add to this. My goal in this message is to get as much people from this board involved in fabricating the ideal approach. in this way, we can all use it to maximizs and to optimize our success rate with women.
Here is what I have so far:
When I see a girl I am interested in I will do the following. Lets say I'm at the gym for example:
Step One::
I will ensure that my posture is intact. Head high, shoulders slightly back and in proper alignment. I will walk with grace and confidence. It's a fact that there are over 750,000 non-verbal signs we give off, which tell other people about who we are! Therefore, it becomes very, very important that she sees this. Don't over do it and walk around like a mach-man or anything, but make sure you movements and gestures are very calm, coordinated and sound.
Step Two: Mild Eye contact. I will make some eye contact with "relaxed" eyes, not nervous (please look in my direction eye contact), but calm, casual, brief eye contact. (as I walk in her direction)
Step Three: In a calm and light-hearted voice. I will say the following "hi, I'm _ _ _ _". "I haven't seen you around here before. You must be new to this gym(school, store, whatever)". <When done in a calm and casual manner, this shows confidence>
Let her Answer: ----------
"I guess this means I'm going to have to invite you out for coffee. And if you don't drink coffee, too bad you can watch me drink coffee, while I get to know you better." Deal? " <This would show even more confidence and a sence of humour"
So far up to this point, she now sees us as being a funny, light-hearted, non-despirate and confident guy. lets see, what else could we add to this.
After she says "sure, why not" (which is very probably, since we havn't come on too strong and we have displayed some very attractive qualities) We could then proceed to ask for her phone number.
"Cool, whats you number. I've gotta run, but I'll drop you a line when I some free time k" <This is very effective since your not saying "I wonder if I could have you number" which seems insecure and despirate. Your putting her in a position where she would have a hard time telling you no. it also makes you look "busy and not-so-available". It shows her that you have a life and that she IS NOT the priority, shes going to have to work her a$$ off for that! Furthermore, your ending the convo which shows her whos in control. Plus theres another hidden gem, your also being Unpredictable and mysterious since you havn't yet given her a time when your going to call, or if you going to call. This makes her wonder about you and you degree of interest in her.
So whats the sum total of this brief dialog. In a nutshell, it has portrayed you as being :
Mysterious
Fun and exiting
Unpredictable
In control
Confident
Charming
Easy-going
Calm and collected
Assertive, initiative and in demand
I'll lay out the approach again for easy reading. Essentially the goal is to come up with the perfect appraoch and make a great first impression. And to do this by saying as little as possible, but making what you Say COUNT.
"hi, I'm Jason. I haven't seen you around here before. You must be new to this gym(school, store, whatever)".
Let her Answer: ----------
"I guess this means I'm going to have to invite you out for coffee. And if you don't drink coffee, too bad you can watch me drink coffee, while I get to know you better." Deal? "(smile) <This would show even more confidence and a sence of humour"
Her: "sure, why not"
You: "Cool, whats you number. I've gotta run, but I'll drop you a line when I some free time k"
Once again, I want this to be a group effort. I want us to create an iron clad approach and set an impression that will revolutionize our success rate with the opposite sex!!
When we have gather sufficient info, we can then create a template that can be used over and over again to create streams of dating opportunities and set the foundation essential to creating a great relationship.
007
