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First date fck. LTR material? Or rather an LTR with your hand?

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If you sleep with someone the first date, would you consider them LTR material? Or would it depend on many other factors?

Or would you rather an LTR with your hand than an LTR with a woman?
 

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all that matters to me is if the girl is loyal and faithful. I don't care if she's banged 100 guys or if all it takes to get into her pants is 2 drinks and an empty bathroom stall, what matters is if she is going to not cheat on her boyfriend or run around looking for his replacement

if i bang her on the first date and she has been single for a while, I won't hold that against her. if I bang her on the first date and she hasn't dumped her boyfriend yet, then hell no I wouldn't date her.
 

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Same. Every ltr I've been in, I smashed on the first date, other than one. I don't hold something against someone else, when I'm doing the same thing. A woman that holds out though, earns a few brownie points in my eyes. It's just really uncommon to come across.
 

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A woman that holds out though, earns a few brownie points in my eyes. It's just really uncommon to come across.
see, I disagree here. the quality of not wanting to have sex with me all that much isn't something I want to screen for or reward.

I feel like if a girl holds out on you there's a 1/10 chance that it's because she's truly not that kind of girl,

and a 9/10 chance that it's because she's gold digging, keeping you as a backup, just bored and looking for free meals, trying to manipulate you with sex, trying to unload her baggage about how all her exes just used her for sex onto you, turning over a new leaf where the first 20 guys she banged got it on the first date but you need to put a ring on it first, etc.

if I'm turning down the opportunity to have sex with a girl, i don't like her very much, why would it work any differently for women?
 

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What is with this idiotic troll threads popping up like mushrooms lately?
 

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see, I disagree here. the quality of not wanting to have sex with me all that much isn't something I want to screen for or reward.
I didn't say I reward. Just makes me think a little that she might be a worthy hunt and the fangs come out. I like a challenge.
I feel like if a girl holds out on you there's a 1/10 chance that it's because she's truly not that kind of girl,
I'm from a somewhat small place, so it's not too hard to find somebody, that knows somebody that, knows something about a woman I might have an interest in. I don't really care that much either way.
and a 9/10 chance that it's because she's gold digging, keeping you as a backup, just bored and looking for free meals, trying to manipulate you with sex, trying to unload her baggage about how all her exes just used her for sex onto you, turning over a new leaf where the first 20 guys she bang
Not the one X5.
if I'm turning down the opportunity to have sex with a girl, i don't like her very much, why would it work any differently for women?
More so a novelty, than anything. Picking up women for sex these days is alot like those guaranteed bag hunting reserves. A challenge just gives me an opportunity to sharpen my teeth. I don't particularly care what her rationality is behind wanting to hold out, although I can respect it. If she wants to use her pvssy to get a free meal or a wedding ring, I can't hate. I'm just not the one. Guys mack to come up everyday.
 

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I do sympathize with women in the perplexing paradigm that if they have sex too soon with a guy she could be sl*t shamed.
But if not soon enough labeled a prude.

How do they win in that battle?
 

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I do sympathize with women in the perplexing paradigm that if they have sex too soon with a guy she could be sl*t shamed.
But if not soon enough labeled a prude.

How do they win in that battle?
Such a double standard. Weak minded individuals putting someone else down to make themselves feel superior, when 9/10 they're out there doing the same chit.
 

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I do sympathize with women in the perplexing paradigm that if they have sex too soon with a guy she could be sl*t shamed.
But if not soon enough labeled a prude.

How do they win in that battle?
they pick the one they'd prefer to be and find guys who like those. there are guys out there who date strippers and porn stars so it's not like every dude in the world hates slvts, and there are guys out there who wait until their wedding night to take their bride's virginity (and there are guys who wait until their wedding night to have sex with a girl who isn't even a virgin but refuses to put out til she's married again)

alternatively they simply find the middle ground between being a sex hating prude and a no self control slvt
 

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they pick the one they'd prefer to be and find guys who like those. there are guys out there who date strippers and porn stars so it's not like every dude in the world hates slvts, and there are guys out there who wait until their wedding night to take their bride's virginity (and there are guys who wait until their wedding night to have sex with a girl who isn't even a virgin but refuses to put out til she's married again)

alternatively they simply find the middle ground between being a sex hating prude and a no self control slvt
Where do these labels come from though?.?. Other people! Are these ppl labeling you paying your bills, going to be by your side on your death bed, care about you, etc? I take into consideration the people close to me and myself. There are things that others do, that I don't agree with and I might even be outspoken about it, but in the end, it's not really my business in the first place. Other than ppl who gain by deception. Ppl shouldn't be so naive either. If I'm doing something that genuinely makes me happy, I could give 2 chits about a label put on me. Ppl are going to talk regardless.
 

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Imagine this scenario

Girl goes on a date.. Does not screen the guy.. She has sex on the first date, next day he ghosts her (He got what he wanted)

Girl goes on another date.. Does not screen the guy.. she has sex on the first date, he jizzes all over her face, few days later he dumps her (He got what he wanted)

Girl goes on another date.. Does not screen the guy.. Things get steamy, he fingers her in the cinema, jizzes all over her titties, next day he ghosts her (He got what he wanted)

Girl meets YOU 2 months later... SHE IS NOW YOUR GIRLFRIEND
 

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Imagine this scenario

Girl goes on a date.. Does not screen the guy.. She has sex on the first date, next day he ghosts her (He got what he wanted)

Girl goes on another date.. Does not screen the guy.. she has sex on the first date, he jizzes all over her face, few days later he dumps her (He got what he wanted)

Girl goes on another date.. Does not screen the guy.. Things get steamy, he fingers her in the cinema, jizzes all over her titties, next day he ghosts her (He got what he wanted)

Girl meets YOU 2 months later... SHE IS NOW YOUR GIRLFRIEND
...so what? unless you only date 15 year olds she's going to have a history of doing stuff before you. as long as she doesn't then proceed to make you wait til date 5 when those other guys ****ed her in the club bathroom an hour after meeting her, then it's perfectly fine.
 

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Let's assume she has the three most basic qualities any guy would want... she's good looking enough for you to want to fvck her, she likes having sex and she is basically submissive. Guess what? she'll have had a lot of sex - probably more than you've had, since sex is easier to get for women, and some of those men may or may not have been better looking/richer/had more status than you. If you let that get to you, you're putting yourself in a zero-sum rat race that benefits no one - least of all yourself.

The real question is this... does she respect and want to fvck you at least as much as her past men? Yes/no.

Ok, so you said yes to that, but you still don't want her because she's had sex with other men. So, ask yourself why you need a virgin woman? and you'll realize it's actually just a weakness. You need a virgin woman to boost your ego since you feel incomplete yourself, you need the external ego validation to feel like a man despite having a woman who likes you, respects you and wants to be with you. I would guess most men don't want to confront this and of those who do, only a minority would be able to accept it. Most men just won't think about it or are too stupid to do so even if they tried and just condemn those women who do sleep with them as slvts and those who don't as prudes.
 
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