MOTU
Master Don Juan
Thought I would post some relationship game field reports and invite others to do the same. These are recent from my GF of 10mos.
Sh!t test: we were talking about something on fb. GF asks me "who is that girl with the porn-star looking lips who likes everything you post?" (the truth is, I don't know how I know her and have never met her) and I said, playfully "an also ran". GF says "what does that mean" and I said "someone who wishes they were you". She said, and I am paraphrasing, that's not cool. I don't have men on my fb that I used to date or who want to date me. Keeping women on your fb means you are keeping options open. Don't play games with me I am totally committed to you.
So I reply, paraphrasing again, honey, everytime we walk into a room together half the women in there wish they were you. I don't need options on facebook. Jealousy doesn't look good on you.
Resolution: she says perhaps she feeling overly sensitive right now, but I mean the world to her, if I am unsure of my feelings for her please tell her. I told her words were cheap and when her mind was quiet she knew how I felt about her. She blew me.
AMOG avoidance: we were at GF's brother's house. He is a pretty good guy we get along well, bust each other's chops. We are on the back porch drinking, GF is sitting in my lap and he says "does it bother you that my sister is taller than you (and she is, by almost 2")?" I reply "nah, it's not like she's gangly or out of proportion or anything. I mean, I admit she's not petite but she wears it pretty well". The look on my Gf's face was priceless. She blew me that night too.
"I love you" metering fail: GF knows I don't say "I love you" back everytime she says it to me. I have told her many times "don't tell me, show me". But she loves to tell me. And if I say it back at the right time it soaks her panties. I have had to work at this; in previous relationships it was tossed around overly casually. We were at some friends of hers house and she was going to bath her kids and I was about to leave. She says across the room "I love you baby" and I absently said "love you too baby" then immediately regretted it because:
a) she hadn't done anything to earn it
b) I said it casually and with no real emotion
c) there were too many people around
Now I know that's not an epic fail, but I don't want to fall back into old habits. Those words have power for me and passion for her now, and I don't want them to become meaningless.
Anyone else got some good moments to share?
Sh!t test: we were talking about something on fb. GF asks me "who is that girl with the porn-star looking lips who likes everything you post?" (the truth is, I don't know how I know her and have never met her) and I said, playfully "an also ran". GF says "what does that mean" and I said "someone who wishes they were you". She said, and I am paraphrasing, that's not cool. I don't have men on my fb that I used to date or who want to date me. Keeping women on your fb means you are keeping options open. Don't play games with me I am totally committed to you.
So I reply, paraphrasing again, honey, everytime we walk into a room together half the women in there wish they were you. I don't need options on facebook. Jealousy doesn't look good on you.
Resolution: she says perhaps she feeling overly sensitive right now, but I mean the world to her, if I am unsure of my feelings for her please tell her. I told her words were cheap and when her mind was quiet she knew how I felt about her. She blew me.
AMOG avoidance: we were at GF's brother's house. He is a pretty good guy we get along well, bust each other's chops. We are on the back porch drinking, GF is sitting in my lap and he says "does it bother you that my sister is taller than you (and she is, by almost 2")?" I reply "nah, it's not like she's gangly or out of proportion or anything. I mean, I admit she's not petite but she wears it pretty well". The look on my Gf's face was priceless. She blew me that night too.
"I love you" metering fail: GF knows I don't say "I love you" back everytime she says it to me. I have told her many times "don't tell me, show me". But she loves to tell me. And if I say it back at the right time it soaks her panties. I have had to work at this; in previous relationships it was tossed around overly casually. We were at some friends of hers house and she was going to bath her kids and I was about to leave. She says across the room "I love you baby" and I absently said "love you too baby" then immediately regretted it because:
a) she hadn't done anything to earn it
b) I said it casually and with no real emotion
c) there were too many people around
Now I know that's not an epic fail, but I don't want to fall back into old habits. Those words have power for me and passion for her now, and I don't want them to become meaningless.
Anyone else got some good moments to share?