Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Wow, last night was an odd one. I'm interested in some of your thoughts.
I went to see a cool play, with no expectations of meeting any women I don't already know. I was dressed uniquely sharp, in a vintage suit and tie, definitely different than anybody else.
As soon as I entered the theatre, I encountered a very interesting, eccentric gal who spent a lot of the evening around me, and was paying a lot of attention to me. But even though I flirted with her, and was a bit physical, we both had very few words to say, most of which were little wisecracks: (her: "can I sit next to you?"; me: "I think you can"). All in all, a good vibe, but we couldn't get a proper conversation going. She's in an upcoming play, and gave me a flyer, so I'll see her again. But I didn't get her number. For some strange reason it didn't feel right at all.
Then I went to a club I go to a lot of the time. Again, had little to say , but hung out with a lot of my many acqaintances and friends in the scene, mostly listening during the conversations, and doing a bit of physical flirting (light touching, flirting looks, etc.) with some of the gals. One gal in particular, who I see around, but never paid all that much attention to me before, was clearly giving me some signals. But again, it didn't feel right to break the flow, pull her aside, and get her number. I'll meet her again soon enough.
And there's another gal who until very recently had been cold as shyte to me, but I had a "so what?" sort of attitude, and had later been chatting with her bandmates about music, ignoring her, and then she started "bumping into" me a lot (chuckling).
At one show some weeks ago she seemed to be trying toget my attention by standing very close to me, occasionally making "incidental" contact without any overt flirting gestures. But I had so few earlier indications of anything but hostility, so I didn't know what to make of it, nor did I have anything at all to say. That night I was very non-converational, just enjoying the show, acknowledging my frineds, and looking cool.
Last night she again was bumping into me a bit, but I did not go out of my way or rudely cut off anyone else I was listening to in order to acknowledge her in any way, shape or form. She's cute, and an interesting dresser, but I'm still not sure of her, and I'm pretty sure she's unclear as to where I stand.
This is all rather interesting. Usually I can tell when it's right to get a phone #. In these instances, my sense was that I needed to keep 'em guessing a bit more, increase the sexual tension, and let 'em see there's competition.
In the past, I've had situations when I killed the attraction by going for the number too soon, and other times I've missed the window of opportunity. My gut feeling was that it wasn't time yet.
My game now is very much a "tortoise," as opposed to "hare" approach, developing an image, patiently cultivating contacts, and playing it very cool (and sometime physically hot, when the opportunity presents itself), until the "green light" goes on. When a gal is truly interested, I've found it always does, but I didn't see it yet last night with any of these gals. Though I could sense the sexual tension building. I think it's better to be mysterious and hard to get than over eager, so time is on my side, as long as I make the move when the light turns green.
I'll report how it goes.
Any thoughts from your experiences, fellow DJ people?
I went to see a cool play, with no expectations of meeting any women I don't already know. I was dressed uniquely sharp, in a vintage suit and tie, definitely different than anybody else.
As soon as I entered the theatre, I encountered a very interesting, eccentric gal who spent a lot of the evening around me, and was paying a lot of attention to me. But even though I flirted with her, and was a bit physical, we both had very few words to say, most of which were little wisecracks: (her: "can I sit next to you?"; me: "I think you can"). All in all, a good vibe, but we couldn't get a proper conversation going. She's in an upcoming play, and gave me a flyer, so I'll see her again. But I didn't get her number. For some strange reason it didn't feel right at all.
Then I went to a club I go to a lot of the time. Again, had little to say , but hung out with a lot of my many acqaintances and friends in the scene, mostly listening during the conversations, and doing a bit of physical flirting (light touching, flirting looks, etc.) with some of the gals. One gal in particular, who I see around, but never paid all that much attention to me before, was clearly giving me some signals. But again, it didn't feel right to break the flow, pull her aside, and get her number. I'll meet her again soon enough.
And there's another gal who until very recently had been cold as shyte to me, but I had a "so what?" sort of attitude, and had later been chatting with her bandmates about music, ignoring her, and then she started "bumping into" me a lot (chuckling).
At one show some weeks ago she seemed to be trying toget my attention by standing very close to me, occasionally making "incidental" contact without any overt flirting gestures. But I had so few earlier indications of anything but hostility, so I didn't know what to make of it, nor did I have anything at all to say. That night I was very non-converational, just enjoying the show, acknowledging my frineds, and looking cool.
Last night she again was bumping into me a bit, but I did not go out of my way or rudely cut off anyone else I was listening to in order to acknowledge her in any way, shape or form. She's cute, and an interesting dresser, but I'm still not sure of her, and I'm pretty sure she's unclear as to where I stand.
This is all rather interesting. Usually I can tell when it's right to get a phone #. In these instances, my sense was that I needed to keep 'em guessing a bit more, increase the sexual tension, and let 'em see there's competition.
In the past, I've had situations when I killed the attraction by going for the number too soon, and other times I've missed the window of opportunity. My gut feeling was that it wasn't time yet.
My game now is very much a "tortoise," as opposed to "hare" approach, developing an image, patiently cultivating contacts, and playing it very cool (and sometime physically hot, when the opportunity presents itself), until the "green light" goes on. When a gal is truly interested, I've found it always does, but I didn't see it yet last night with any of these gals. Though I could sense the sexual tension building. I think it's better to be mysterious and hard to get than over eager, so time is on my side, as long as I make the move when the light turns green.
I'll report how it goes.
Any thoughts from your experiences, fellow DJ people?
