There's a HB7.5 I met, an old college friend of mine. Had some drinks, nothing physical happened. I'm pretty much the only guy she knows so far here. She has a bf of 3 years in another state.
I don't usually deal with girls with boyfriends because it's just not worth it with all the single women out there. But this girl is pretty chill and hot, definitely one of the better girls I've talked to.
I had drinks with her again a few months later, nothing physical, and decided it was a lost cause.
Anyway, I ejected after that, told her to hit me up when things go south with her bf, and was content with my decision. I was telling my other female friend about this story and she told me I should have stuck around.
Her logic is that this HB will only monkey branch when she has something "stable" in this city. That I should've stuck around and saw what happened.
While there is truth in what she said, there is also the truth in that I am pressed for time as it is with all my endeavors and school. I only have room basically to spend my Friday/Saturday nights on single women/women who are available. And there is also the truth that if I stuck around, any hundreds of possibilities can happen after that.
I've also been burned by a similar situation in the past in my AFC days, where I stuck around a taken chick for too long to the point where I was friend zoned even though she showed signs she "liked me" and when she dumped her bf, it was for a random, new guy, not for me. Since then, I've avoided this trap.
However, this female friend's statement is allowing those AFC thoughts to creep in again. What if? What if I stick around? What if I was too harsh in telling her to call me up later?
In my philosophy, it's better to know when it's a lost cause and eject. But her statement is causing those AFC what ifs creeping up again.
I don't usually deal with girls with boyfriends because it's just not worth it with all the single women out there. But this girl is pretty chill and hot, definitely one of the better girls I've talked to.
I had drinks with her again a few months later, nothing physical, and decided it was a lost cause.
Anyway, I ejected after that, told her to hit me up when things go south with her bf, and was content with my decision. I was telling my other female friend about this story and she told me I should have stuck around.
Her logic is that this HB will only monkey branch when she has something "stable" in this city. That I should've stuck around and saw what happened.
While there is truth in what she said, there is also the truth in that I am pressed for time as it is with all my endeavors and school. I only have room basically to spend my Friday/Saturday nights on single women/women who are available. And there is also the truth that if I stuck around, any hundreds of possibilities can happen after that.
I've also been burned by a similar situation in the past in my AFC days, where I stuck around a taken chick for too long to the point where I was friend zoned even though she showed signs she "liked me" and when she dumped her bf, it was for a random, new guy, not for me. Since then, I've avoided this trap.
However, this female friend's statement is allowing those AFC thoughts to creep in again. What if? What if I stick around? What if I was too harsh in telling her to call me up later?
In my philosophy, it's better to know when it's a lost cause and eject. But her statement is causing those AFC what ifs creeping up again.