FoxHound20
Don Juan
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Ok, my situation is as follows:
2 years ago I meet this girl, I develop an interest for her, and become LJBFd after about 2 months. We actively flirt with eachother and i'm able 2 years later to break free of the friendship zone and turn her into a "Oneitis With Benefits" (not bad for an guy who was an AFC a year ago).. since having fooled around with her, I've found myself in the perdicament of obsessive infatuation...
We both have an agreement to not date, but to maintain the benefits between us. At first I was cool with this, then I realized that I wanted her all to myself. She then realized that she wanted me all to herself, so we made a pact to stay true to eachother, yet not date. Stupid idea!
So now i'm starting to develop some hard feelings for the girl (can't stop thinking about her, wondering who she is with, etc.) These feelings are knocking me off my normal routine of eating properly, working out, and taking an interest in other girls. I desperately need to seek closure on this because I feel that it will ultimately drive me into the ground.
Any advice how to break off the benefits, while being able to maintain a simple friendship with her? I can't handle finding out stories from my friends about her flirting with other guys, etc. She's a very flirtatious girl and this just plays with my emotions. It's a bad situation when you stop working out and constantly have a heavy feeling in the chest. I also don't agree with our agreement because I have a couple other girls that have taken an interest in me, but i've had to LJBF them. I'm sick and tired of these games, but at the same time I feel as though I love this girl.
Help me get out of this AFC mindstate fellow Don Juans!!
2 years ago I meet this girl, I develop an interest for her, and become LJBFd after about 2 months. We actively flirt with eachother and i'm able 2 years later to break free of the friendship zone and turn her into a "Oneitis With Benefits" (not bad for an guy who was an AFC a year ago).. since having fooled around with her, I've found myself in the perdicament of obsessive infatuation...
We both have an agreement to not date, but to maintain the benefits between us. At first I was cool with this, then I realized that I wanted her all to myself. She then realized that she wanted me all to herself, so we made a pact to stay true to eachother, yet not date. Stupid idea!
So now i'm starting to develop some hard feelings for the girl (can't stop thinking about her, wondering who she is with, etc.) These feelings are knocking me off my normal routine of eating properly, working out, and taking an interest in other girls. I desperately need to seek closure on this because I feel that it will ultimately drive me into the ground.
Any advice how to break off the benefits, while being able to maintain a simple friendship with her? I can't handle finding out stories from my friends about her flirting with other guys, etc. She's a very flirtatious girl and this just plays with my emotions. It's a bad situation when you stop working out and constantly have a heavy feeling in the chest. I also don't agree with our agreement because I have a couple other girls that have taken an interest in me, but i've had to LJBF them. I'm sick and tired of these games, but at the same time I feel as though I love this girl.
Help me get out of this AFC mindstate fellow Don Juans!!