Feeling of dissapointment

[DJ_in_making]

Here goes,
I am without a girlfriend and I heard that having a girl won't make you happy, but I'm a senior and I just feel that I NEED to have one. This is really bothering me because winter break is coming up, and I won't even HAVE the opportunity to meet chicks, I feel as though I'm wasting my time. This is my last year of high school I know you guys think why not just get a girlfriend Well, for one I don't drive and how can one get a girl that they can't really go out with? HELP ME FELLOW DJs.

 

[Pfeile]

Originally posted by DJ_in_making
I heard that having a girl won't make you happy, but I'm a senior and I just feel that I NEED to have one.

She won't. You make yourself happy, you DON'T need one.
Ask yourself this: Imagine you were a girl. Would you want to be a part of your life? If you don't like your life (which you obviously don't) why do you think some girl would want to join that life?

Concentrate on improving yourself and the girl will eventually come.

 

[Bussey]

Why can't you still meet chicks? You don't stay inside all winter break do you? Go to a coffee shop, a bookstore, a popular teen hangout place. I didn't have a gf in my last year of highschool and I had sooo much fun, because I didn't need to worry about anyone or anything.

Live it up man!

 

[DJ_in_making]

I didn't say I didn't like my life, i just feel bad that I've been able to do well in other aspects except for girls.

 

[Ladiesssman]

The only thing girls give you is sex, sometimes, and the body bond. You won't be happier. If you're with the wrong girl, you'll be more miserable. Emotional creatures always give headache.

 

[SomethingCreative]

LOL.... so if someone wants a GF they must automatically hate their life and be miserable. That is the most rediculous thing I have ever heard. I am a pretty happy person in general but I am in the situation and also feel like I want a GF. It isn't necessarilly because I think it will make me happy, but more like something I would like to have experienced my senior year of highschool and look back on and smile. Of course its POSSIBLE to be stuck with someone who isn't right for you and makes you miserable, but I'm sure DJ, like me, aren't talking about being in that kind of relationship. The answer I have told myself constantly is that college is around the corner and while you don't have a gf, make the best of your senior year and make it memorable either way. You never know where or how you may meet someone and if you just go with the flow, everything will eventually fall into place.

 

[Bussey]

I never implied that wanting a GF makes your life ****...

Don't pretend I said something I didn't.

 

[Pfeile]

Originally posted by DJ_in_making
I didn't say I didn't like my life, i just feel bad that I've been able to do well in other aspects except for girls.

OK, sorry if I interpreted that the wrong way. I just finished my senior year, and I didn't have a gf. At the start of the year, I felt like I should've had one too. But more than half my grade wasn't in a gf/bf relationship.

Really, you don't need one. I felt like you at the start of this year, but now, I reliase, it didn't matter if I had a gf. It is not some kind of requirement that you have to of had a gf in high school. Don't worry about it.

You got a whole year ahead of you, things will change.

 

[SomethingCreative]

That was meant towards ladiessman bussey, not you... you have the right idea and i agree =)

 

[Chilli_pimp]

dude, i felt the same way when i was in my senior year... which was a couple years back... i didn't have a REAL gf, just a few girls i would fool around with, and i thot i would be miserable without one... the day of my grad, i hooked up with a chick ive known for a while.. we just broke out on grad night and made out like animals... i thot i was the happiest dude in the world... we'd see each other once to twice a week.. first 3 weeks was awesome... altho we didn't get to home base, we had amazing makeout sessions and ****.. but besides that, sh!t got sloppy... we started arguing about lil sh!t... my point is, u'll eventually find some1 when u keep trying, but its not eternal bliss when u get into a relationship... love urself first, and everything will come into play...

 

[DJ_in_making]

Thanks for all your advice guys.

"The only thing girls give you is sex, sometimes, and the body bond."
Isn't that enough?

 

[Rogerman]

Who the **** said being in a relationship with girls feels good anyway? I personally have more worries than before. I feel free every brake out.

 

[XSilverStarboyX]

well lately i flt like i had to have a gf and ten i relized how pointless that was. well i would like a gf but i ont do it just sitting here at the computer. i think i will take the advice above and try to go out other places that might have girls my age, and try to meet someone that way

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by Ladiesssman
The only thing girls give you is sex, sometimes, and the body bond. You won't be happier. If you're with the wrong girl, you'll be more miserable. Emotional creatures always give headache.

mmm body bond. sounds hott just thinking about it.

 

[Wacky-1]

Dude, I feel you man...I used to be exactly like this. I used to think having a gf would "complete" my life. Now the advice, you dont need a gf to be happy is spot on, but it doesn't address the problem man! So, this is what I did, when I went through this phase. First, you are confused. This doesn't come from not having GIRLS. It comes from the INSECURITY of NOT HAVING GIRLS as a PART OF YOUR LIFE handled. So just sit back, relax, don't think about it, and just go meet some girls. Simple. Sooner or later, if an LTR's what you're looking for, it's bound to happen. Just go out there and meet new people, particularly girls.
All the best.

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by Rogerman
Who the **** said being in a relationship with girls feels good anyway? I personally have more worries than before. I feel free every brake out.

Maybe that's just because don't pick the right girls?

Originally posted by Ladiesssman
The only thing girls give you is sex, sometimes, and the body bond. You won't be happier. If you're with the wrong girl, you'll be more miserable. Emotional creatures always give headache.

Oh, PUH-LEEZE.

 

[MetalFortress]

DJ_in_Making

Don't worry about it. I never had a girlfriend all throughout high school. Once you're out of high school, you have a whole wide world ahead of you. If you get into it for the wrong reasons, it's not likely to last or even be fun.

 

[hacx]

mmm...


decide what you really want
What sort of girl do you want to be with?

Think about your current situation before deciding what sort of girl and relationship you want..

clear away your mental blocks What's stopped you getting a girl in the past? Were you too nervous to make the first move? Or perhaps you were still so in love with your ex that you simply weren't open to other offers.

Choose a trusted friend and ask her (or him) to give you clear feedback. Make sure they give you some achievable things to change - get a new hairstyle, smile more etc. With more in-depth problems, you need to examine how you behave and be honest about where you're going wrong.

The most import thing "meet, meet, meet, and meet!"
The equation's quite simple - the more girl you meet, the better chance you have of finding the right one. So especially if you're past dating-age of 16-22, where almost every girl you meet is single, you absolutely have to get out there.

Just from now until Christmas, accept every invitation. Ask everyone you know to introduce you to their friends. Go to partys. Quite simply, break the mould of your existing social life and meet as many new people as possible.