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Ok, men I need some feedback on what's going on in my mind.

I have been in a content married life most of my adult life. I was thrown into the singles world a few years back. Found this site which was a godsend on my socializing and dating in my new world.

I don't have problems finding women to date. This site has helped me tremendously to find what I lost while married in the way of dating. I'm presently dating a few women but none exclusivley.

Now the problem, about a week ago I was approached by a women in a club, 35 years old with a very nice body (hb7) possibly would have been a 9 back in her day. She asked if I would be interested in a 3-some with her husband. This set me back a few steps not expecting anything like that to come from her mouth. I was feeling pretty good after a few drinks. After looking her up and down a few times I agreed but with some reservations in my mind. This is the first time in my life anything like this has come up.

She brought the Chump husband over and introduced him. I didn't feel like I would be in any danger. I laid out some strict ground rules, like no seconds and if the chump husband touched me in anyway there would be problems. Her only ground rule was no anal. I asked why she approached me. Her answer was I looked to be sicialable and was having a good time with the women. I look like a lot of fun. Ok, thats good.......... tells me I'm doing something right.

He paid for the room and it happened with no hitches. I basically blocked the husband out of my mind and vision and had my way with a smoking hot female body.
This woman got the hell blanked out of her by 2 men.

On my way out she handed me a $100 bill with a phone number. I took it but whispered in her ear that she will not hear from me again because your married.

Now I have this weird **s feeling about what happened. Its really working on me. Its hard to explain but almost a feeling of guilt or feeling sorry for the husband. Frick I dont know what it is. I wanted to say something to the husband about why are you allowing this to happen? Is there something in nature about a man sharing a women. Is it in his make-up that it doesn't happen? Its not natural? What is this feeling I'm having? Could it be the other male that was present. Its got me mind blanked!!

And yes there was plenty of protection used for the disease part plus I'm fixed.
 

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Dude not all men get jealous of their wives being fvcked by other men.

For a select few it turns them on like no other high in life.

I'm not that kind of guy, you're not that kind of guy, but those guys are out there.

He was one of those guys so try to start not feeling so guilty about things.

Both of them gave the go ahead for this after all.

The husband didn't look sad to you like he was being forced into the situation to keep his wife did he?

Get your rocks off and have fun.

She's that kind of girl.
Oh and you should definitely go back on your word and meet up with her again for some more threesomes or whatever.
 

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some people simply get bored with regular sex. so they start getting in to fetishes.

personally i think a lot of 'fetishes' - such as watching another guy bone your woman - are wierd. but thats just me.

it basically just comes down to an adrenalin rush. this man and woman enjoy getting the rush of awkward / dirty sexual situations. what would piss you off gets them excited.

as for the wierd feelings you are having - they are the result of participating in a kinky fetish scenario. whether theres anything wrong with that or not is going to depend on your own personal preferences - your feeling wierd because you know what you did was 'kinky' in a wierd way.

personally i have no desire to bone a woman in front of another man - its just way to close to homosexual behavior. even if not touching the guy, he's still looking at my kawk and getting off watching me bang his wife.

odds are if you kept this up with this couple it would only be a matter of time until they got you drunk and then he's move in saying "hey man, have you ever wondered what it would be like to get screwed by another guy?'

personally these people give me the creeps - but this kind of behavior is becoming more common as people's threshold for 'kink' drastically increases as a result of endless amounts of internet porn.
 

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i gotta agree with joekerr and i think you are probably glad you only did this with this couple once.
 

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Never fukked another guys wife in front of him, but I have to admit that the time I was fingering this dudes girlfriend in my jacuzzi while he was right there was a little strange.

And she gave you $100???? Man not a bad nights work....hehe

joekerr31 said:
odds are if you kept this up with this couple it would only be a matter of time until they got you drunk and then he's move in saying "hey man, have you ever wondered what it would be like to get screwed by another guy?'
I don't necessarily think that would happen. Definitely possible though.

personally these people give me the creeps - but this kind of behavior is becoming more common as people's threshold for 'kink' drastically increases as a result of endless amounts of internet porn.
Ahhhh....the internet. Reminds me of that Dave Chappelle skit. I'm sure it's awakened quite a few fetishes people never knew they had.
 

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Kontroller

No he did not look sad about it, but my opinion is he was talked into it by his wife to keep her happy. I think she was controlling him. But your right he did not come across that way. The whole time he kept a close eye on her. She wanted him to go to the lobby and get some sodas but he wouldn't. I got the feeling he was not willing to leave her alone with me.

Joker and Penkitten

I think you are right. This might be what I'm feeling. Maybe being manipulated into something more. I have made up my mind no more. It does creep me out the more I think about it. But what an experience with human nature!!


Str8
Maybe thats whats bothering me, I was paid for it!! a *****............chit
 

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logic, figuring out what we are comfortable with sexual is not always easy.

theres a HUGE difference between what might be exciting to watch in a porno and actually engaging in those activities in real life. anal sex might be appealing in a porno, but in real life you gotta be ok with potentially getting sh*t on your d*ck - you never see a guy pull out of a womans *ss to find some sh*t on the tip of his d*ck in a porno do you? but in real life it happens.

people see these pornos and think 'oh man they look like they are totally in to it!" - but thats because the actors are getting paid. in real life 99% of women will NOT suck you off after you've just been in their butt!

anyway, just chalk this experience up to the fact that your sexuality leans more towards traditional scenarios than fringe fetish scenarios.
 

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Well man then I guess you gotta go with your gut which says this was a one time thing.

Seems to proceed with this you could end up like Nina Hartley's character and her lover in Boogie Nights lol.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Well man then I guess you gotta go with your gut which says this was a one time thing.

Seems to proceed with this you could end up like Nina Hartley's character and her lover in Boogie Nights lol.
I will have to watch the movie. I think I have seen it before but a good while back and dont remember much about the plot.

I think if I could have put a blindfold on the husband along with some earplugs I would feel a little different. It has to do with another man watching or I just think to much...........
 

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joekerr31 said:
logic, figuring out what we are comfortable with sexual is not always easy.

theres a HUGE difference between what might be exciting to watch in a porno and actually engaging in those activities in real life. anal sex might be appealing in a porno, but in real life you gotta be ok with potentially getting sh*t on your d*ck - you never see a guy pull out of a womans *ss to find some sh*t on the tip of his d*ck in a porno do you? but in real life it happens.

people see these pornos and think 'oh man they look like they are totally in to it!" - but thats because the actors are getting paid. in real life 99% of women will NOT suck you off after you've just been in their butt!

anyway, just chalk this experience up to the fact that your sexuality leans more towards traditional scenarios than fringe fetish scenarios.
Yeah, and I think women in pornos get enemas before their shoot, otherwise the results could be really messy.
 

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I've had a couple of experiences with 3-somes with 2 men and 1 women. Of course being with 2 women is more enjoyable but tag teaming a broad with a buddy can be just as fun. I don't think I would ever share a serious LTR with someone else but thats a whole different story. But back to 2 guys.

My first time was with 2 strippers that me and my 2 buddies picked up. We obviously outnumbered the girls so we split up onto 2 beds. Buddy was lyin on his back, stripper was on top of him, I stood up on the bed and she gave me head while she was fvckin him. I was watchin my other buddy nail the other girl on the bed while getting head. Now I'm not a guy who's big on head, I'm all about finishing in the pvssy but this time was diferent. I was all for it. However I felt back for my buddy on the bed, here he was gettin ridden by this hot stripper but all he could probably see was the crack of my ass & balls less than 2 feet from him. Not my cup of tea but I would have traded positions for the experience at the time.

Other times, its been me & my buddy tag teaming broads. Or lining up takin turns gettin head. All in all a great time, but I probably wouldn't enjoy it with a strange guy as much but it was always about me & buddy having the time of our lives, having our way with these women. We could literally get them to eat out of our hands, it was awesome.

But it all depends on your perspective. Other times, I've watched my buddy nail a broad right in front of me, amazingly I found myself hugely turned on and was ready to beat it since I wasn't allowed to join in that time. It was like live porn in front of me.
 

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STR8UP said:
Never fukked another guys wife in front of him
I have. It was fun. She was old, but still pretty hot for an old chick. And talk about good sex... My whole body was sore the next day. We fvcked for hours. Doing a married chick is very purely sexual; there's no realtionship bs between you. It's 100% sex. "Cuckold" is the term for the husband. Usually it is the guy's idea at first, and then the wife gets more into herself.

I am the opposite of the OP; I'm kind of drawn to the swingers and the sex freaks, but have been trying to stay away.
 

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"To Thine Own Self Be True"

I think you're right when you say you felt a little manipulated. I know it was a new experience for you, but sometimes if it doesn't feel right you probably shouldn't do it. Aaaand she paid you. Maybe she knew you didn't have a much fun as she thought you would? *shrugs*

She also wanted her husband to go down stairs and get some sodas?! Yeah she definitely wanted a piece of you to herself while he was gone. :crackup:
 

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MacAvoy said:
But it all depends on your perspective. Other times, I've watched my buddy nail a broad right in front of me, amazingly I found myself hugely turned on and was ready to beat it since I wasn't allowed to join in that time. It was like live porn in front of me.
now tell us honestly, how many times have you sucked your buddy off?

(oh man im going to get bashed for asking that i can see it coming already)
 

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joekerr31 said:
now tell us honestly, how many times have you sucked your buddy off?
damm you caught me, now the cat's out of the bag.

actually I've got no problem with my sexuality. However we are still very carefull where we point our swords as I bet it would be very uncomfortable to say the least if they accidentally touched.

But speaking of being in front of another guy. We started off bangin girls in front of each other, the first time we tried a 3 some with 2 of us and a girl, we musta had stage fright cuz neither of us could get it up. It was pretty funny actually, the broad was taking turns sucking on us to try get us hard but neither could get hard.

Then finally she was blowin me, I was almost gettin hard, then she stopped and said "Frank its not gonna go in there soft", I totally lost it, busted out laughin and couldn't get it up after that.
 

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...and from high atop a darkened mountain range, the soldier known only as Victory Unlimited peers across the great divide at a particular batallion of men through his Nightvision Goggles.

And although he cannot see the men in the distance as clearly as he would like, what he IS able to communicate back to headquarters is THIS:

"The path that the men below appear to be walking looks as if it might be SLIPPERY, and from this distance, the surface upon which they're walking looks very much like it could best be described as...a SLOPE." :yes:
 

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joekerr31 said:
odds are if you kept this up with this couple it would only be a matter of time until they got you drunk and then he's move in saying "hey man, have you ever wondered what it would be like to get screwed by another guy?'
Yo troops!

Threesomes can be fun but only if you protect the barrel of your gun.

And if your rear flank is unguarded and your enemy battle hardened it won't take much for them to slip in unnoticed.

The Sosuave Army learns more and more battle tactics every day but so does our enemy so we must be vigilant and ever ready because though we are always outnumbered we will never be outgunned!

Peace...one day.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Dude not all men get jealous of their wives being fvcked by other men.
And those men are in the minority because evolution has selected against such stupid behavior. That's also why most men find such behavior disgusting: Nature has beaten into us just how important ensuring paternaty is.

Without that kind of safegard, our reason for existance: makin' babies, is not accomplished. Some may talk about social conditioning when it comes to being ok with someone else screwing your woman (another idea Nature has beaten into us: the possession of women), but the truth is that Mother Nature is holding a leash around each and every one of our necks -- we can either follow her or be dragged by her.

Recent research using DNA analysis answered this question about two years ago. Today’s human population is descended from twice as many women as men.

I think this difference is the single most underappreciated fact about gender. To get that kind of difference, you had to have something like, throughout the entire history of the human race, maybe 80% of women but only 40% of men reproduced.

Right now our field is having a lively debate about how much behavior can be explained by evolutionary theory. But if evolution explains anything at all, it explains things related to reproduction, because reproduction is at the heart of natural selection. Basically, the traits that were most effective for reproduction would be at the center of evolutionary psychology. It would be shocking if these vastly different reproductive odds for men and women failed to produce some personality differences.
http://www.psy.fsu.edu/~baumeistertice/goodaboutmen.htm
 

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Victory Unlimited said:
And although he cannot see the men in the distance as clearly as he would like, what he IS able to communicate back to headquarters is THIS:

"The path that the men below appear to be walking looks as if it might be SLIPPERY, and from this distance, the surface upon which they're walking looks very much like it could best be described as...a SLOPE." :yes:
Personally I'd rather live life on a SLIPPERY .... SLOPE than live life through someone elses eyes watching from a couple miles. Cuz I can tell you from first hand knowledge, I wouldn't trade all the gold in the world for the memories I've lived.
 
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