Originally posted by arutha
DAmnit I'm soo pissed off with myself, gotta vent some steam... It went well, we had fun, her leg was againt mine when we sat together, but then when I dropped her home I didn't have the courage to do anything...
We looked into each others eyes, she had a huge smile, I should have kissed her but I have no ****ing idea why I couldn't...
Won't see her until next week now.. Is that a really baad thing? Will she think I don't really like her or something? It kinda felt liike it shoulda happened but goddamnit I didn't.
What you wrote here my friend is what happened to me exactly a year ago... i couldnt pull myself either to kiss her... and i figured out the reason why and it has to do with what biker_gixxer said about the way you carry yourself...
NOW Arutha! Do yourself a favor and drive this concept into your mind...
THERE'S NEVER A PERFECT TIME... JUST FCUKING GO FOR IT!
Also i want you stop analysing when the perfect time is....! OH YES and i bet when you dropped her off and she was smiling back you had butterflies floating around in your stomach, and your mind just went into shut down mode...
you know why?! it has to do with what you have been "dreaming" up about how you should kiss her!
Just can't find the right moment to kiss the girl I'm trying to get close to, or how to...
i said that to myself when i ddnt kiss that girl a year ago and it was because i was over analysing everything about her and the situation in which i should kiss her...
i then read an article here (i forgot who made it or the title was) but it also threw a powerful message to me as well.
YOU MUST HEED YOUR INSTINCTS!
INSTINCTS are powerful! They can tell you things that no ammount of analysation could and ever will! It is the gut feeling that says to you!
"YES! This is right... I'm going to do this NOW!!!"
and then you ACT!
You wouldve felt those instincts tell you to go and kiss the girl that time when you dropped her off @ her house! The fact that you analysed what you THINK you should do to set things up for the "Perfect" moment FCUKED U up so sideways it wasnt funny!
Trying for a bit more physical contact first, to get more comfortable around each other and all that.. We make light physical contact, normal casual stuff I suppose...
that sentence up there! SEe that one... I want you to read it and tell me what's wrong with what you did!?
Better yet how about i tell you!
YOU WERE TRYING FOR A BIT MORE PHYSICAL CONTACT!? Dont try, just do it as it comes naturally! And yes even this whole post you are Analysing what you two are doing!
The biggest flaw in this website i think is that it teaches people METHODOLOGY out of a book which people are intepreting it too literally! In the end, they become the analytical robots in which they get the cold-feet syndrome and then they beat themselves up about it! This brings me to my point about biker_gixxer! Dude im sure you dont analyse yourself or the girls when you talk to them, date them, etc. When you learn to shut that little nagging analysing bit of your fcuking brain and start heeding the instincts, (in this context - By this i mean that when you're trying to analyse something as natural as a relationship with formulas and what not, you will **** up because you yourself know that women and anyone for that matter are unpredictable and there's an infinte number of possibilities of reactions to certain events) you will have a better chance of not getting the cold-feet.
Bottom line is Arthus...
Don't think... Just feel with that primitive part of the mind! And just go for it man!
It's better to do it and have an unfortunant event happen rather than to never do it and regret it never happening.
Godspeed
-Nightspark
