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Senior Don Juan
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I've been around the block a few times, with plenty of successes and failures. Always trying to learn and ran into a situation a few months back that I'm still puzzled over how I should have handled it (I failed, ultimately).
Before continuing, keep in mind I'm not pursuing this woman at all anymore. I'd just like to hear suggesting on how to deal with this situation should I encounter it again. I'll try to give the cliff notes below...
Cold approached HB8 at my neighborhood pub. Built rapport, not enuf time to hit the comfort stage, but attraction was there. Number closed.
Set up two dates, which she flaked on. I moved on.
Down the line about 4-5 weeks, she approaches me at a club. We dance, make out, have a good time. She asks to see me again. I agree.
Next night, she's back at my neighborhood bar with a friend. My guess was this was not an accident, that she brought her friend there to check me out. I join them for a few drinks, bounce to my pad for a night cap, close with a make out by my car.
Now the tricky part....
I grab her, kiss her, she kissed back. Me: "We should hang out." Her: "Definitely. But I'm in school full time, have a full time job, and my kid keeps me busy. I'll get in touch with you when I have time."
I take this at face value, though I know (a) I probably shouldn't and (b) it's basically a no win situation. If I call, I'm needy and desperate. If I don't, she also won't call as she's got plenty of options.
Well, she, of course, doesn't call. I see her out about 3 weeks later and she's sending me flirty signals, but I'm with friends and an ex-gf that played designated driver (and who will bang me anytime) and I'm not about to drop my friends for this vixen. Any interest she had at that point then evaporated. No biggie... Move on.
But still the question: What do you do when a babe has shown interest, made out with you two days in a row, and then says basically, "Yes, let's do this again, but wait for me to call because of xyz."
What's the winning play here? Is there one?
In retrospect, I should have said something like, "Yeah, whatever girl, you'll hear from me soon, unless, of course, someone beats you too it."
Or something like that. Anyway, what would be a good response to keep in your pocket for such a scenario?
Before continuing, keep in mind I'm not pursuing this woman at all anymore. I'd just like to hear suggesting on how to deal with this situation should I encounter it again. I'll try to give the cliff notes below...
Cold approached HB8 at my neighborhood pub. Built rapport, not enuf time to hit the comfort stage, but attraction was there. Number closed.
Set up two dates, which she flaked on. I moved on.
Down the line about 4-5 weeks, she approaches me at a club. We dance, make out, have a good time. She asks to see me again. I agree.
Next night, she's back at my neighborhood bar with a friend. My guess was this was not an accident, that she brought her friend there to check me out. I join them for a few drinks, bounce to my pad for a night cap, close with a make out by my car.
Now the tricky part....
I grab her, kiss her, she kissed back. Me: "We should hang out." Her: "Definitely. But I'm in school full time, have a full time job, and my kid keeps me busy. I'll get in touch with you when I have time."
I take this at face value, though I know (a) I probably shouldn't and (b) it's basically a no win situation. If I call, I'm needy and desperate. If I don't, she also won't call as she's got plenty of options.
Well, she, of course, doesn't call. I see her out about 3 weeks later and she's sending me flirty signals, but I'm with friends and an ex-gf that played designated driver (and who will bang me anytime) and I'm not about to drop my friends for this vixen. Any interest she had at that point then evaporated. No biggie... Move on.
But still the question: What do you do when a babe has shown interest, made out with you two days in a row, and then says basically, "Yes, let's do this again, but wait for me to call because of xyz."
What's the winning play here? Is there one?
In retrospect, I should have said something like, "Yeah, whatever girl, you'll hear from me soon, unless, of course, someone beats you too it."
Or something like that. Anyway, what would be a good response to keep in your pocket for such a scenario?