After reading everything I could dig up on this site about the way to handle an Ex situation... I still have a few questions pertaining to my own situation.
First just a little BG.
My soon to be Ex Wife of 6 years and I have two children together (2 and 4). We had a preliminary court hearing and I was awarded full-custody of my sons, the house, and the nicer car. She is also paying me child support.
During our Marriage I became a shadow of my former self. I gained 65 lbs, which I have already lost. I became non social with the weight gain, and basically sat on my fat ass. I was never abusive, mentally or physically. But, one day she just packed up and left without any warning.
I had about a month or 2 at the most of being the biggest AFC money could buy. That period has been over for about 4 months now. She has a new BF, but their relationship is a disaster in the making. We still have mutual friends that tell me much more than I even ask, which is little.
My question is this: With me accepting that the Marriage failing was do to me forgetting who I was, and then taking drastic steps at self improvement, should I still consider it a lost cause?
She was a wonderful wife, besides the obvious communication breakdown at the end.
I know she isn't "the one" and that I can find many more women out there that will not hold past issues against me. But, she is the mother of my sons, and I believe that they would have a much better life if we were to work it out.
Currently, I am basically on the 3rd week of NC, besides talk of the boys. Which seems to be driving her crazy, according to some of the non-sense texts and calls I receive. I refuse to put my life on hold in waiting for her.
I am continuing to improve myself in every area. I wouldn't refer to myself as a Master DJ by any means... But, I am very good with new candidates, where with her, everything is different. Do any of you have a similar experience? How did it work out for you, and how did you play it?
To living the good life!
Cheers!!!
First just a little BG.
My soon to be Ex Wife of 6 years and I have two children together (2 and 4). We had a preliminary court hearing and I was awarded full-custody of my sons, the house, and the nicer car. She is also paying me child support.
During our Marriage I became a shadow of my former self. I gained 65 lbs, which I have already lost. I became non social with the weight gain, and basically sat on my fat ass. I was never abusive, mentally or physically. But, one day she just packed up and left without any warning.
I had about a month or 2 at the most of being the biggest AFC money could buy. That period has been over for about 4 months now. She has a new BF, but their relationship is a disaster in the making. We still have mutual friends that tell me much more than I even ask, which is little.
My question is this: With me accepting that the Marriage failing was do to me forgetting who I was, and then taking drastic steps at self improvement, should I still consider it a lost cause?
She was a wonderful wife, besides the obvious communication breakdown at the end.
I know she isn't "the one" and that I can find many more women out there that will not hold past issues against me. But, she is the mother of my sons, and I believe that they would have a much better life if we were to work it out.
Currently, I am basically on the 3rd week of NC, besides talk of the boys. Which seems to be driving her crazy, according to some of the non-sense texts and calls I receive. I refuse to put my life on hold in waiting for her.
I am continuing to improve myself in every area. I wouldn't refer to myself as a Master DJ by any means... But, I am very good with new candidates, where with her, everything is different. Do any of you have a similar experience? How did it work out for you, and how did you play it?
To living the good life!
Cheers!!!