I'm really surprised by the type of advice being offered here.
You have to keep in mind that women are emotional creatures and when emotions and logic are in conflict, emotions will always win out. You guys are talking about contracts and whether he "owes" her anything or not; and that is just not the point. You guys are talking logic....
She likes him a lot and she is hurt. This is not about the $124 or about whether he owes her the money.
The true mark of a ladiesman is that he loves women and leaves them in a better position that when he found them. That means controlling the breakup situation so that women feel better about having known you and been with you. And that does involve setting aside what is logically "right" and doing what is emotionally right.
Leykis, she likes you a lot, she didn't do anything wrong here except express her feelings for you in a way that revealed her clingy/low self esteem self. So you booted her. No problem. But she is not a bad person and should not be punished for liking you more than you like her.
Your attempt at making her out to be a bad person are just petty ways for you to feel better about treating her like crap in this situation.
Originally posted by Leykis:
My responsibility! How about hers. If she had let the true needy, emotionally unstable self come out eairlier it would have saved me a ton of cash and time. I'm sorry, but I would never make plans 5 months in advance when I was seeing a chick for only a couple of months. Its this type of behavior that got her a$$ dumped!
This is just your way to alleviate your own guilt at treating her like sh*t and screwing her over in this tickets situation.
Also, if you were planning to attend these concerts and planning to have her pay for you (i.e. they were a gift from her to you as your claim) then doesn't that indicate that you guys were more serious than you are now letting on?
You guys had a serious relationship for 10 weeks, you left stuff at her place, you shared time together, and she started to care for you. It wasn't a one night stand, so why are you blaimming her and acting like she did something horrible to you where you now want your 10 weeks back?
Did she cheat on you? Did she steal from you? Did she give you an STD? Come on dude. She likes you way more than you like her and she planned an event 5 months into the future and got booted. What is so terrible about that?
Quite frankly, any successful ladiesman will have tons of women getting clingy and emotionally attached. It's all part of playing the game. Don't hate them and treat them like sh*t because of it.
That type of anger on your part indicates that you are probably not 100% sure of your decision to dump her and are perhaps trying to convince YOURSELF that she is a LSE b*tch who deserves to be booted.
Dude, you're 26, be a man and either buy back ALL the tickets and take another chic or buy back YOUR tickets and then either sell it or give it to one of your chick friends or attend the event yourself.
You don't HAVE to do it legally, but it is the right thing to do, and on the plus side, it would help ensure that in the eyes of her chick friends, you're a stand up guy and not some prick. So at least you look good in the eyes of her friends and don't ruin your reputation there. And who knows, the next girl you plow may be one of her pals.
Finally, for all you guys talking about contracts and whether he owes her anything, consider that if a guy purchases an engagement ring for a chick and she accepts, then there IS a contract. If they break up, then by law she has to return the ring to him.
Similarly, Leykis aggreed to attend the concerts WITH HER, so there was a "contract" for him to attend. If he now says he does not want to attend he broke the contract and should do something to compensate her. Obviously, this is not legally binding, but it's just some food for thought.
You don't owe her sh!t. She can still use the tickets.
