pyros
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Hi.
I dumped my ex gf because she hid something pretty big from her past. Well, to be exact, she told me about it buy in a way that it looked way way smaller. I loved her but I rationalised that if she hid something so important...she was no good for me; besides we had some other problems that..well, I dumped her eventhough I did not really want to because I had strong feelings for her.
The thing is, its been a year since then, and we've kept the contact (because she wanted to), having sex from time to time etc. All this time she's wanted us to be a couple again.
BUT during this time some other stuff has appeared. I've discovered some other things she also hid from me.
The weirdest one is that when I met her she was 22 and she told me that she just had sex with her previous boyfriend. Ok I thought.
BUT after knowing her for more than three years, dumping her because she hid this other thing etc, we've talkd and now, what she told me about her sexual past is a different story now:
she had big boobs when I met her, but she had huge boobs before, so she went to a surgeon to get them smaller when she was 20. She's always been embarrassed because of her huge boobs. When she met her previous bf she still had these huge boobs, so she was not confortable without clothes on covering them. She said that she had some problems with her ex because of this , but he understood.
She now told me that because of this, she only did hand jobs to her ex bf, no oral, no intercourse. She said that sex was not very important to her and she also had this problem with being comfortable with her boobs. Never showed them to her ex or anything.
She was with this guy for almost 3 years till she dumped him.
BUT one year before she met me, she met this other guy with whom she had intercourse with. She hid this to me, but what makes me mad is that after I discovered this, I wanted to know about it but she started to cry and said that she hid this because this guy 'kind of forced her', and that she just wanted to forget about it.
Then, after a couple of arguments...some weeks passed and she said that she was gonna explain this story to me (because I insisted) but I should not ask her any questions or details. She told me this story that does not make much sense:
She met this guy when she was a teenager because they went to the same school but he was older. When she was 21, one year before she met me and one year after she dumped her ex (with whom she just had hand sex), she bumped into this guy again because they had some friends in common.
All these friends went to party sometimes and one day her and this guy kissed.
(I asked: but how many times did you hang out with this guy before you had intercourse?
her: well, we did not hang out just the two of us, I did not date him...I think..we just went to party all together and there we made out a few times.)
Then one day this guy took me to his house. When we were driving I said to him that I was a virgin.
(I asked: but did you want to bang him when you were heading to his house?
her: no)
When we got to his house...you know...that happened.
me: but is it that you wanted to sleep with him but after it you regret it now?
her: no, I did not want to.
me: he forced you...?
her: well, I dont know...I said to him that I wanted him to stop but he kept saying 'just a bit more...just a bit...' and he kept kissing me.
me: but did he hit you? yelled at you? forced you with his arms or something to put his **** in you?
her: I dont know... I was just ...paralysed. He kept kissing me...and I kept saying I did not want to.
me: but I mean, if you did not want to bang him, when he got his **** out and got a condom what the heck did you think? he was using a condom, wasnt he?
her: well, sometimes you cannot see...
me: what??
her: I dont know...But I was with my t-shirt and my underpants on all the time you know.
is this rape?
me: rape...? he did not hit you...I dont know.
her: it hurted me and when he finally stopped since I released a lot of blood his bed was with a big red spot. After that day he wanted to see me again but I did not want to so I had to chang my cell phone's number.
Thats it.
Then I wanted to ask her some questions but she did not want to answer them and started to cry again. I tried to talk about this several times later but she did not want to.
I have to say that she's the most stubborn person I've met.
What do you think about this guys?
what 'rape' is she talking about? I think she just had sex too fast with this guy, and when they were starting to bang, she regreted it and she wanted to stop it, but she did not actually do anything, just waited till he finished, but since she does not want to look like a slut she won't tell me the whole story.
Thanks.
I dumped my ex gf because she hid something pretty big from her past. Well, to be exact, she told me about it buy in a way that it looked way way smaller. I loved her but I rationalised that if she hid something so important...she was no good for me; besides we had some other problems that..well, I dumped her eventhough I did not really want to because I had strong feelings for her.
The thing is, its been a year since then, and we've kept the contact (because she wanted to), having sex from time to time etc. All this time she's wanted us to be a couple again.
BUT during this time some other stuff has appeared. I've discovered some other things she also hid from me.
The weirdest one is that when I met her she was 22 and she told me that she just had sex with her previous boyfriend. Ok I thought.
BUT after knowing her for more than three years, dumping her because she hid this other thing etc, we've talkd and now, what she told me about her sexual past is a different story now:
she had big boobs when I met her, but she had huge boobs before, so she went to a surgeon to get them smaller when she was 20. She's always been embarrassed because of her huge boobs. When she met her previous bf she still had these huge boobs, so she was not confortable without clothes on covering them. She said that she had some problems with her ex because of this , but he understood.
She now told me that because of this, she only did hand jobs to her ex bf, no oral, no intercourse. She said that sex was not very important to her and she also had this problem with being comfortable with her boobs. Never showed them to her ex or anything.
She was with this guy for almost 3 years till she dumped him.
BUT one year before she met me, she met this other guy with whom she had intercourse with. She hid this to me, but what makes me mad is that after I discovered this, I wanted to know about it but she started to cry and said that she hid this because this guy 'kind of forced her', and that she just wanted to forget about it.
Then, after a couple of arguments...some weeks passed and she said that she was gonna explain this story to me (because I insisted) but I should not ask her any questions or details. She told me this story that does not make much sense:
She met this guy when she was a teenager because they went to the same school but he was older. When she was 21, one year before she met me and one year after she dumped her ex (with whom she just had hand sex), she bumped into this guy again because they had some friends in common.
All these friends went to party sometimes and one day her and this guy kissed.
(I asked: but how many times did you hang out with this guy before you had intercourse?
her: well, we did not hang out just the two of us, I did not date him...I think..we just went to party all together and there we made out a few times.)
Then one day this guy took me to his house. When we were driving I said to him that I was a virgin.
(I asked: but did you want to bang him when you were heading to his house?
her: no)
When we got to his house...you know...that happened.
me: but is it that you wanted to sleep with him but after it you regret it now?
her: no, I did not want to.
me: he forced you...?
her: well, I dont know...I said to him that I wanted him to stop but he kept saying 'just a bit more...just a bit...' and he kept kissing me.
me: but did he hit you? yelled at you? forced you with his arms or something to put his **** in you?
her: I dont know... I was just ...paralysed. He kept kissing me...and I kept saying I did not want to.
me: but I mean, if you did not want to bang him, when he got his **** out and got a condom what the heck did you think? he was using a condom, wasnt he?
her: well, sometimes you cannot see...
me: what??
her: I dont know...But I was with my t-shirt and my underpants on all the time you know.
is this rape?
me: rape...? he did not hit you...I dont know.
her: it hurted me and when he finally stopped since I released a lot of blood his bed was with a big red spot. After that day he wanted to see me again but I did not want to so I had to chang my cell phone's number.
Thats it.
Then I wanted to ask her some questions but she did not want to answer them and started to cry again. I tried to talk about this several times later but she did not want to.
I have to say that she's the most stubborn person I've met.
What do you think about this guys?
what 'rape' is she talking about? I think she just had sex too fast with this guy, and when they were starting to bang, she regreted it and she wanted to stop it, but she did not actually do anything, just waited till he finished, but since she does not want to look like a slut she won't tell me the whole story.
Thanks.
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