Everyone has the time for someone they like

[Sofomore]

Had an interesting revelation this morning that can span across all relationships: family, friends, LTRs.

Think long and hard about the people in your life that you genuinely like. You make time for them in your life even if you are busy with work.

Now if you think about someone that you don't really care for, you think "I don't have the time to hang out with them, I'm BUSY."
Chances are you have an hour or two during your week that you COULD hang out with them, it's just a lack of interest in doing so. If you really liked them you would make the time for them.

Here's an example of this in action:

A girl I hooked up with this weekend constantly texts me. It's honestly very annoying and I ignore the messages because I don't really like her anymore. She's needy and not all that interesting. I have the time to respond but I don't because she is low priorty and I don't LIKE her. She asked me, "you're not a texter huh?" I responded 5 hours later saying I have been busy and don't text much. Now, if she stimulated me with good conversations and exceptional looks, would I ignore her? No. She wouldn't be on the back burner because I would actually like her. I'd take 10 seconds out of my time to text her back.

If you are getting ignored by a woman, it's because she doesn't see you as a high priority in life. She may say she's busy, but we all make time for the people that we like.

In a LTR, if she starts being "busy" it's because she doesn't like you any more.

If your friends are "busy" it's because they don't like you any more.

We all have the time to hang out with someone we like. It's a matter of how willing are we to allow them into our lives. Don't be blind to the signs. Don't waste your time on people that don't actually like you.

Just some food for thought.

 

[Turuwal]

Yes 100 percent. There would be a hell of a lot less angst in the world if we just followed this simple rule.

 

[GotED?]

I wouldn't agree with this 100%, maybe 50% of the time (if you have been CHASING her after repeated rejections, then you are a fool to keep texting her!).

The fact is, there is NO HARD FAST RULES when it comes to women.

If you follow this 100%, you would not be a TRUE DJ because you would have failed at having ANY GAME at all against women.

A woman is not going to give it up to you easily in the beginning - most are going to play some degree of game on you (not replying to your text too quickly, making you chase and work for her a bit, etc).

In fact, being a real DJ is being able to repel and penetrate her B!tch shield in the beginning stages. Some women just don't want to get too close to a man because they fear getting hurt - it is not intentional. If you don't make it past that B!tch shield, she rather be left alone than to risk heart ache.

This is where experience with women really plays a huge part - being able to SEE HER ACTIONS in person, versus what she says in words. Then evaluate the entire picture of her desire for you, not any single point or part.

Be well.

Exodus

 

[Sofomore]

Very true. I am not trying to say that if someone is busy that you should next her right away. I also never said that this was a rule to go by, just an observation I noticed this morning.

I agree to pay attention to her actions. The medium is the message. If she acts busy or doesn't respond to texts, get the hint and find a girl that has high IL.

 

[JoeMarron]

Quality advice. Unfortunately many men will bang their head against a wall repeatedly and act based on their feelings instead of considering the woman's. "She's showing clear signs of disinterest but I'm going to keep chasing her because I like her."

 

[Turuwal]

The fact is, there is NO HARD FAST RULES when it comes to women.

If you follow this 100%, you would not be a TRUE DJ because you would have failed at having ANY GAME at all against women.

Oops yeah good point.

I'll rephrase. I'd say you should have sex with the women who want to have sex with you at your current level of game. At the same time you should be striving to lift your level of game so that you can have sex with the women who are just slightly out of your reach.

Repeat until you are having sex with the women you want to be having sex with.