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‘not bad’. Looks are the problem.
"Not bad" as in, I'm not a 10 (or even a 9), but I am above average.

I'm a 7.

7/10 isn't exactly problematic.

I had a friend in college who looked a lot like me. He had no trouble getting laid (and he wasn't a jock or anything). What separated him from me? He isn't on the spectrum.

The spectrum is seriously my single biggest hurdle.
 

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"Not bad" as in, I'm not a 10 (or even a 9), but I am above average.

I'm a 7.

7/10 isn't exactly problematic.

I had a friend in college who looked a lot like me. He had no trouble getting laid (and he wasn't a jock or anything). What separated him from me? He isn't on the spectrum.

The spectrum is seriously my single biggest hurdle.
‘not bad’ means your looks won’t hinder you. But it also means you can’t coast on your looks. You need game too.
 

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"Not bad" as in, I'm not a 10 (or even a 9), but I am above average.

I'm a 7.

7/10 isn't exactly problematic.

I had a friend in college who looked a lot like me. He had no trouble getting laid (and he wasn't a jock or anything). What separated him from me? He isn't on the spectrum.

The spectrum is seriously my single biggest hurdle.
I am a 3/10 (not sure about today with the limited weight loss). I have every rights to go based on looks. If it was not for religious/spiritual issues then I probably would.
 

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That guy help me with a scam with that fake Asian girl that was trying to lure me into some investment scheme so I'm going to go easy on him or I'm just not don't get too triggered by his posts. He is the "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" type of poster and thinks visiting escorts is counter-productive to self-improvement goals. However, you have a rare opportunity of making the case here that this is helpful or can complement any self-improvement program that helps you get better with women.

For example, if I were using escorts, maybe I'd make a goal for myself and say, that I'm going to approach 100 women and if I don't get laid by the end of the day and reach that 100th woman, then I'm going to visit an escort as a negative-reward for making the effort. See, that's how I think that could fit into a self-improvement schema. Maybe you might start out at a lower number, like approach 10 women before seeing another escort, etc....
You are obsessed with prostitution.

. ‘11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. 12 It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret’. Eph 5.

‘Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never!’. 1 Cor 6:15

Get off these prostitution threads. Nothing good comes from hookers.

I’m not trolling you. I really think you need to dump this whole ‘Escort’. thing. For your sake.
 

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You are obsessed with prostitution.

. ‘11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. 12 It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret’. Eph 5.

‘Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never!’. 1 Cor 6:15

Get off these prostitution threads. Nothing good comes from hookers.

I’m not trolling you. I really think you need to dump this whole ‘Escort’. thing. For your sake.
I have not visited any prostitute in a decade because of the reasons you mentioned. The memories of past visit is kept alive by threads like this along with the trauma, dread, and pure torment experienced aftwewards.
 
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ADHD is primarily characterized by symptoms of inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. It is diagnosed based on behavioral criteria that include persistent patterns of inattention and/or hyperactivity-impulsivity that interfere with functioning or development.

Autism Spectrum Disorder, on the other hand, involves challenges with social interaction, communication, and often includes restricted and repetitive behaviors. The symptoms of ASD are typically evident from early childhood and affect daily functioning.

Both are behavioral disorders.

ADHD simply means you're hyperactive, have a hard time focusing, etc.

I've never even heard of ADHD getting lumped in with the spectrum.
 

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Hi Corrector,
Back in the day,my team worked repartitioning and installing a Spa Bath in a knocking shop....From my observation,I find it incredulous that any of these Girls would knock back a customer....Disease,cleanliness,drunkenness sure but Colour Naah...Excepting that it is not entirely apocryphal that Dark Guys can have rather large appendages,it has been suggested this could partially be attributed to prior genetic engineering,be that as it may,some can do a lot of damage...These Girls don't risk what to them is their earner,their own little Gold mine.
 

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Hi Corrector,
Back in the day,my team worked repartitioning and installing a Spa Bath in a knocking shop....From my observation,I find it incredulous that any of these Girls would knock back a customer....Disease,cleanliness,drunkenness sure but Colour Naah...Excepting that it is not entirely apocryphal that Dark Guys can have rather large appendages,it has been suggested this could partially be attributed to prior genetic engineering,be that as it may,some can do a lot of damage...These Girls don't risk what to them is their earner,their own little Gold mine.
That is a poor excuse. A lady can specify that they don't want to deal with any size of d on their ads. I've seen ads where a lady would not allow greek if it's over 5 inches, etc.... so a lady can definitely see the junk and decide if she wants to proceed or not. White guys can have large appendages too, that's what you see allot of in porn anyway. The issue is there will always be White guys who are doing the same things or worst than how Black guys are behaving, but the WHOLE RACE is not judged on that person's behaviour, but they are dealt with individually. Once you start guilting the whole race then it's discrimination pure and simple. It's lazy screening behaviour at best (ie that is assuming they have no ill-will) and outright discrimination at worst. (ie note, I won't use racism any more when dealing with the subject of escorts but discrimination because non-Whites, including Blacks are all engaged in the same behaviour).
 

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I've never even heard of ADHD getting lumped in with the spectrum.
Well, then you heard it now. My son was found to have ADHD concentration cluster (so he's not hyperactive, but ADD) and when he went from primary to secondary school, his grades dropped and he couldn't adjust to school. A second diagnosis showed him to be in the spectrum, so now he goes to a Special Education school. He's also high IQ, so that all comes together.
According to Dutch psychiatrist, ADHD and Autism Spectrum are linked and often appear together.
 

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That is a poor excuse. A lady can specify that they don't want to deal with any size of d on their ads. I've seen ads where a lady would not allow greek if it's over 5 inches, etc.... so a lady can definitely see the junk and decide if she wants to proceed or not. White guys can have large appendages too, that's what you see allot of in porn anyway. The issue is there will always be White guys who are doing the same things or worst than how Black guys are behaving, but the WHOLE RACE is not judged on that person's behaviour, but they are dealt with individually. Once you start guilting the whole race then it's discrimination pure and simple. It's lazy screening behaviour at best (ie that is assuming they have no ill-will) and outright discrimination at worst. (ie note, I won't use racism any more when dealing with the subject of escorts but discrimination because non-Whites, including Blacks are all engaged in the same behaviour).
You're damn right, white men can have large sausages. I remember when I whipped mine out, this one escort said "What are you, white and black? I wasn't expecting you to be this big."

This is the same escort who cut a session short (before I climaxed). Her excuse for cutting the session short: I hurt her cervix.

As for the general topic of black men getting stereotyped as being dangerous by escorts, that's an unfortunate truth for black would-be clients. I have no doubt being skinny and white has helped me in terms of getting escorts to see me (and probably was why some of the women I met on hookup websites had no qualms about coming over when I was in college). I'm viewed as non-threatening.
 

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Well, then you heard it now. My son was found to have ADHD concentration cluster (so he's not hyperactive, but ADD) and when he went from primary to secondary school, his grades dropped and he couldn't adjust to school. A second diagnosis showed him to be in the spectrum, so now he goes to a Special Education school. He's also high IQ, so that all comes together.
According to Dutch psychiatrist, ADHD and Autism Spectrum are linked and often appear together.
It's no surprise they often appear together. I think I mentioned on a prior post I show signs of ADHD (even though I have no official ADHD diagnosis). I'm prone to daydreaming for example (one reason I don't drive)
 

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You're damn right, white men can have large sausages. I remember when I whipped mine out, this one escort said "What are you, white and black? I wasn't expecting you to be this big."

This is the same escort who cut a session short (before I climaxed). Her excuse for cutting the session short: I hurt her cervix.
Having a big penis is an asset in conventional dating. I'm not sure why you haven't hyped up your big penis in conventional dating. Tinder is a hookup app and a place where you could hype up your penis size. There are also fetish websites/apps where women are seeking men with big penises. A lot of married women who are married to men with smaller than average or average sized penises want to experience sex with a man with a larger than average penis.

I perceive that you have missed some opportunities with marketing your big penis in conventional dating.
 

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You're damn right, white men can have large sausages. I remember when I whipped mine out, this one escort said "What are you, white and black? I wasn't expecting you to be this big."
It's not like a prostitute would ever lie about penis sizes.

This is the same escort who cut a session short (before I climaxed). Her excuse for cutting the session short: I hurt her cervix.
Did you get a refund?
 

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You're damn right, white men can have large sausages. I remember when I whipped mine out, this one escort said "What are you, white and black? I wasn't expecting you to be this big."

This is the same escort who cut a session short (before I climaxed). Her excuse for cutting the session short: I hurt her cervix.

As for the general topic of black men getting stereotyped as being dangerous by escorts, that's an unfortunate truth for black would-be clients. I have no doubt being skinny and white has helped me in terms of getting escorts to see me (and probably was why some of the women I met on hookup websites had no qualms about coming over when I was in college). I'm viewed as non-threatening.
Yeah, see I wouldn't know how I would be looked at since I haven't visited any other escorts since 2014. There is a black co-worker in my office that seems to be a Tyrone that's getting the chicks (mainly East Indians working there), and another black co-worker that I see around women so it doesn't appear at least within my small bubble that I see that race makes any difference if a guy is some Tyrone/Tyrone-light with some sense of style.

In terms of visiting escorts, I don't know how a racist escort would respond with me as I'm mixed-race and I'm not sure if there no-blacks on the ad means visibly looking blacks or just any non-white that's not an Asian? I don't normally see no browns/middle-eastern, however, if I saw more racial categories/exclusions then I'd be more worried ((ie lets say my "alter-ego" in fantasy-land of theorizing as I don't visit escorts. (ie if an East Indian escort has no-blacks but is seeing Indian clients, then there is a good chance I'd pass that screening at the door)). It's a really confusing thing even for darker skinned Hispanics and even Southern European Whites who have a dark complexion. For example, even @MatureDJ was rejected at the door because he looked too "Middle Eastern", but re-visited the same prostitute later and then was accepted at a later time.

All I can say, as I've been amogged by Tyrone at the office, I sort of don't care that much about that issue as I figure that a negative stereotype that may not work with escorts, on the flip-side, might be an asset that helps you get civvies. Remember, escorts (ie again, I'm always speaking theoretically as I don't have any practical experience since Dec 5, 2014) are operating as a business with their body as an asset and they have to worry about wear-and-tear as other guys repeatedly smash them, while civvies, are doing things for fun. What wears-and-tears an escort would be a great-time for a civvie if you are doing the same thing. Escorts (usually), just want to collect the money, see you cvm quickly (ie who knows where their mind really is during the session) and move-on to the next client, etc.... whereas civvies would be sorely disappointed and consider it a horrific experience if you cvmmed too quickly (or at least before she Os). Almost like an inverted world between the escort/civvies.

You should listen to @SW15 advice and play up your asset. Then you are set for life and women will be paying you instead.
 

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Having a big penis is an asset in conventional dating. I'm not sure why you haven't hyped up your big penis in conventional dating. Tinder is a hookup app and a place where you could hype up your penis size. There are also fetish websites/apps where women are seeking men with big penises. A lot of married women who are married to men with smaller than average or average sized penises want to experience sex with a man with a larger than average penis.

I perceive that you have missed some opportunities with marketing your big penis in conventional dating.
I hadn't even thought of that. Marketing my size down there is worth trying.

The funny thing is, up until the escort made the comment, I never even thought of my sausage as being big (although I don't measure it). I knew it wasn't small, however.
 
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