emergency. i got soft inside her

[CrimsonPanther]

yeah i know it's lame.

short story: met a girl, first date i made kino and kissed. second date i stripped her to her panties and we did the dirty stuff without me sliding inside her. third date i spent the night at her place and i fcked she wanted it like crazy, basically begged me to put it in, but while i was inside her, the whole thing felt weird and i got soft.
she's this goodie 2 shoes choir girl, who haven't had a boner inside her for 3 years, and i think she was very self conscious about it, and now she feels she ruined it for me. the problem is i felt like a pedo inside her, she is 1.50 meters tall, real petite lolita type of girl (25 years old btw). i really like her, but i feel i can't really get it up with her. and she tried, she svcked it like there's no tomorrow, and it was ok but once i was inside her, my wiener kinda lost interest in the business. i am the kinda guy btw, that could not rape someone even if i'd want to because if i don't see her enjoying it, i lose my boner. maybe i felt her anxiety, and she kinda knows my reputation in the bed, because i am 100% sure an ex of mine told her, so she wanted to live up to my "expectations"

finally she gave me a handjob and called it a night, but man it was weird. luckily in that 15 minutes i was hard, i managed to give her an orgasm so it wasn't a total failure.

my question: do you have any methods to get it up when the weenie doesn't want to cooperate? usually i try the reverse cowgirl and that keeps me hard, but this time it didn't work.

any suggestions for this lame situation? (besides viagra, i don't even wanna think about it)

 

[Nn877]

Stop watching porn.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

Stop watching porn.

yes, this is an option, and i hope it will help. also no fap for a while. i have to get to the point where i am too horny to care. porn helped me to last for 1-3 hours, but i think there is a point where it's just too much. thx

also, i am laying off the plates for a while. may be i got too used to it.

 

[jurry]

Personally it often takes me awhile to get comfortable having sex with a girl at first and can be nerve racking and/or awkward.. However the issue you had seems specific to one girl, which seems to suggest you guys just dont have the sexual chemistry.

 

[zinc4]

The older it gets the tougher it gets...my penis is just nog what it used to be I usually end things by jerking myself off while making out with her..because I don't like *******s/handjobs and can't stay hard enough for sex after banging her once...leaves a lot to be desired by her I would supposed... but oh well.... I'm decent at oral sex at least I think...

 

[marmel75]

yeah i know it's lame.

short story: met a girl, first date i made kino and kissed. second date i stripped her to her panties and we did the dirty stuff without me sliding inside her. third date i spent the night at her place and i fcked she wanted it like crazy, basically begged me to put it in, but while i was inside her, the whole thing felt weird and i got soft.
she's this goodie 2 shoes choir girl, who haven't had a boner inside her for 3 years, and i think she was very self conscious about it, and now she feels she ruined it for me. the problem is i felt like a pedo inside her, she is 1.50 meters tall, real petite lolita type of girl (25 years old btw). i really like her, but i feel i can't really get it up with her. and she tried, she svcked it like there's no tomorrow, and it was ok but once i was inside her, my wiener kinda lost interest in the business. i am the kinda guy btw, that could not rape someone even if i'd want to because if i don't see her enjoying it, i lose my boner. maybe i felt her anxiety, and she kinda knows my reputation in the bed, because i am 100% sure an ex of mine told her, so she wanted to live up to my "expectations"

finally she gave me a handjob and called it a night, but man it was weird. luckily in that 15 minutes i was hard, i managed to give her an orgasm so it wasn't a total failure.

my question: do you have any methods to get it up when the weenie doesn't want to cooperate? usually i try the reverse cowgirl and that keeps me hard, but this time it didn't work.

any suggestions for this lame situation? (besides viagra, i don't even wanna think about it)

First don't make a big deal out of it. It happens to the best of us. With me, it usually happens if I am going extremely hard for a long period of time, as if my body is saying, sorry, we need that bloodflow to oxygenate your body, and this is taking a back seat, lol...

Easiest thing to do is just start kissing her passionately, lick and caress her breasts, neck and chest area, and then start fingering her and take her hand and put it on your c0ck...usually her moaning and getting all wet again gets me hard in no time flat...

Best part is, its like you are starting over again, so you can keep railing her for a long time before even feeling like you are going to blow...

 

[hudpes]

The mind gives you a boner or takes it away. Try to be there in the moment 100%, enjoy every second of it and don't let your thoughts wander every which way.

 

[Bingo-Player]

she's this goodie 2 shoes choir girl, who haven't had a boner inside her for 3 years, and i think she was very self conscious about it, and now she feels she ruined it for me. the problem is i felt like a pedo inside her

your way too intune with her emotions im surprised you even managed to get hard !!

forget about her concentrate on your pleasure, hers will soon follow

 

[CrimsonPanther]

your way too intune with her emotions im surprised you even managed to get hard !!

forget about her concentrate on your pleasure, hers will soon follow

the funny thing is i gave her an orgasm. and yes, you are right. i guess multiple stuff added up. i broke up with an old plate (almost LTR), and i really felt her emotionally in this one. she wants us to try again tonight. i'll try a different mindset, like the one i usually have with my plates. hoping for the best

 

[Bingo-Player]

well thats good going fairplay :rockon:

but seriously clear your mind get in the zone and take the mindset that your just using her body for your pure pleasure im sure she will be more than pleased with the outcome

 

[gravityeyelids]

There's nothing physically wrong. Like you said, it was your mind. Your mind controls your arousal COMPLETELY. I think part of it is that you need to get over the whole "pure virgin" thing (yes i'm aware she's not a virgin). She likes to get fvcked just as much as those blonde bimbo sloots do (and often the "nice" girls are even freakier).

In my experience, girls are more understanding of this type of issue than you think. The important part is to NOT make a big deal about it. Just make some joke like "i guess ole' Peter is a bit Peter'd out". Haha

If this is something that continues to happen with this girl, then you are not sexually compatible with this girl (and likely with other girls that are her type). For some reason our culture has taught us that guys need to be ready to bone any decent looking girl on command. It's more complicated than that. If she doesn't arouse you, then she doesn't arouse you. Stop worrying and just move on.

and if i'm reading this right...you fvcked her good for 15 minutes and gave her an orgasm before you went soft? If this is the case, then what are you worried about??! For a girl who hasn't been fvcked in 3 years, you banged her fine

 

[Zarky]

Find a part (or parts) of her that really turn you on. Focus on them. If you start focusing on yourself and your "performance," you'll get nervous and then your d*ck will droop. Once your mind starts hamstering, your d*ck will droop.

I've had a limp d*ck every once in awhile with pretty much every chick I've LTRed in the past decade, with the exception of one. That one girl had the most perfect tits I'd ever seen and every time I felt them I got a major boner that wouldn't go away. Those tits were so magnificent that I couldn't think about other things if I tried when they were in my face.

 

[jay07]

Honestly don't even like having sex as much unless I have a few beers in me. I'd rather do oral if I'm sober.mainly because it feels like a chore and I'm trying to get her off instead of me

but if your gonna penetrate prep by taking a few shots or beers. if she don't drink do it before she's there. you'll stay hard.

 

[Montague_Leach]

When the 'ol pecker isn't as firm and hard as it used to be, there is no shame in getting a little extra enhancement from a pill if you know what I mean. No use in going in with a soft noodle to be embarrassed leaving the lass unsatisfied. The pecker should be hard as a pickle, not limp as a noodle. See a doctor to get a good diagnoses for your problem. ED could be setting in at an early age that could affect the rest of your sexual performances. Find out from a professional what your problem is, then you can have peace of mind my friend.

 

[Zarky]

^^^^ The only problem I have with that (and I'm speaking to myself as well, 'cause I use 'em) is that young guys (ie., under 50) shouldn't use ED drugs as a crutch.

When you're limp, your body and mind are trying to tell you things. Maybe it's too much porn, maybe you're in a situation where you don't feel comfortable, maybe you're with a girl you're not that into, maybe your life situation is not what you want.... I think drugs can mask those issues and you'll go through life never having to confront them.

 

[Lotus Effect]

You are turning gay man!!

Give up on women and go to the hippest club in your town!

Next thing you know you'll be reading Cosmo and be worrying about your fashion etiquette...

Then your penis will turn into a vagina, and Baam...

You turned into a hairstylist from Brooklyn!

 

[speed dawg]

^^^^ The only problem I have with that (and I'm speaking to myself as well, 'cause I use 'em) is that young guys (ie., under 50) shouldn't use ED drugs as a crutch.

When you're limp, your body and mind are trying to tell you things. Maybe it's too much porn, maybe you're in a situation where you don't feel comfortable, maybe you're with a girl you're not that into, maybe your life situation is not what you want.... I think drugs can mask those issues and you'll go through life never having to confront them.

Pretty good post there by Snarky.....has h*ll frozen over?

 

[Fatal Jay]

Stop watching porn.

I wrote this same exact post, and got crucified for it on this board. These guys don't realize is that porn is the reason for all their erectile dysfunctions problems?

 

[Epimanes]

I agree on the "stop porn" advice. If your brain is all wired up for porn and all the variety that comes so fast with it (hahaha good pun there) its messing up your reward dopeamine system and you need way more stimulation than a normal woman can give/compete with most of the time, unless you find a freaky one.

Also... Never call your dyck a weiner again...that's fvckin gay.