I've been on this board for a year, and although it has been said many times over, nothing works like expereince. Dressing well really does improve your game.
When I first came to this board, about a year ago, my burn rate was pretty high, maybe one real date that panned out out of every five women I was interested in and approached (and one out of five of those did I get the second date). I am about above average in looks, and so I have always had to rely on my rapport to suceeed, and even when I was an AFC I did okay, meaning barely adequate. However, I never took too much great care in my appearance; I was clean, but I didn't stand out. In my 20's I could get away with this, but I began to notice diminishing returns as I got older (I'm 32).
One day I thought, "what if everyday I looked as though I was going out on a date". I decided to try an expereiment, even though I knew it would be awkward. I went out and bought some nice clothes. I am not rich, but I managed to pick out some good things for a reasonable amount of money, not overlooking what can be had at some of the nicer thrift stores. I decided that every pay day I would reward myself and pick out a few things here and there, buy brand new boxers to replace the tighty whities, and really work to change my look. Now I am known as someone who dresses well all of the time.
It has been a few months, and I am floored at the difference. For one, at work, more customers ask if I am the manager, and I get a real kick of of telling them that I am not. I get a completely different reaction from my superiors when I am dealing with them. At least three of my co-workers have "noticed" me, which has presented a whole new set of "problems"
Once more, I have gone from having to approach women and get their attention to having them initiate conversation about 50% of the time I notice them. This kind of thing seems to build on itself, because even though I am asking for less numbers, I am on more dates. I socialize in a pretty tight knit community, and so word seems to have gotten around, as now my girl-friends are starting to slyly inquire about my interest in women that are mutual aquaintences (social proof). All of this, of course, has improved my self confidence, and that has added an additional dimension; I don't feel like I have to close on every woman I talk to, and I am perfectly happy with just bantering with most of them and getting the occasional number when I know it's a sure bet.
All of this sounds really hokey, doesn't it? I never would have believed it had I not tried it myself. We do live in a world where we are judged on looks. If you are the best DJ in the world, and you are not looking the best that YOU can, then you are not as likly to meet the person that you will "click". with.
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"In the land of the blind, a one eyed man is king"
When I first came to this board, about a year ago, my burn rate was pretty high, maybe one real date that panned out out of every five women I was interested in and approached (and one out of five of those did I get the second date). I am about above average in looks, and so I have always had to rely on my rapport to suceeed, and even when I was an AFC I did okay, meaning barely adequate. However, I never took too much great care in my appearance; I was clean, but I didn't stand out. In my 20's I could get away with this, but I began to notice diminishing returns as I got older (I'm 32).
One day I thought, "what if everyday I looked as though I was going out on a date". I decided to try an expereiment, even though I knew it would be awkward. I went out and bought some nice clothes. I am not rich, but I managed to pick out some good things for a reasonable amount of money, not overlooking what can be had at some of the nicer thrift stores. I decided that every pay day I would reward myself and pick out a few things here and there, buy brand new boxers to replace the tighty whities, and really work to change my look. Now I am known as someone who dresses well all of the time.
It has been a few months, and I am floored at the difference. For one, at work, more customers ask if I am the manager, and I get a real kick of of telling them that I am not. I get a completely different reaction from my superiors when I am dealing with them. At least three of my co-workers have "noticed" me, which has presented a whole new set of "problems"
Once more, I have gone from having to approach women and get their attention to having them initiate conversation about 50% of the time I notice them. This kind of thing seems to build on itself, because even though I am asking for less numbers, I am on more dates. I socialize in a pretty tight knit community, and so word seems to have gotten around, as now my girl-friends are starting to slyly inquire about my interest in women that are mutual aquaintences (social proof). All of this, of course, has improved my self confidence, and that has added an additional dimension; I don't feel like I have to close on every woman I talk to, and I am perfectly happy with just bantering with most of them and getting the occasional number when I know it's a sure bet.
All of this sounds really hokey, doesn't it? I never would have believed it had I not tried it myself. We do live in a world where we are judged on looks. If you are the best DJ in the world, and you are not looking the best that YOU can, then you are not as likly to meet the person that you will "click". with.
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"In the land of the blind, a one eyed man is king"
