You have communicated with them via (phone, emails, online, texts ,etc) now it’s time to see if there is any spark, or physical chemistry. The initial attraction has to be there in order to proceed.
If you met the person organically (they already seen you in person), first date primary objective would be to establish some sort of connection, rapport, further attraction based upon personality traits.
MISTAKES-try to avoid rushing things, allowing for things to move at their own speeds builds momentum more steadily than forcing it. Give fate a nudge from time to time but stay away from quickening the pace. Touching too early, especially intimate fondling triggers a defense shield.
Asking for a second date while still on the initial date or Texting immediately after the first date may not always be the correct procedure to follow. It screams needy, insecure, low self-confidence, wuss and women sense this. It’s like an instant power shift, she now knows you are way into her and women enjoy the chase. By begging for a second date you decrease the desire. They may want a second date with you, but make that decision another day.
SUPER-DATES: I’ve been guilty of these types of dates a time or two. This is where you take a simple meet & greet and attempt to turn it into an all nighter. Things are going well and instead of leaving on a high note, you prolong the date. The scenario is simple enough-you meet at a mutual agreed upon location, share some laughs, drinks, etc then you proceed to bounce somewhere else. You start with some conversation at the bar, then move onto shooting some pool, next you head to the miniature golf range, ice cream, a long drive and usually ending up at a make-out session in your car. Some even try to F-close or transition to a sleepover. All these activities, this early on tends to produce a false sense familiarity. Again when speeding things up, mistakes are often over-looked.
DO KEEP IN MIND-------A person can make out with you, appear to be into you and may even engage in sex with you on date one, but that doesn’t always mean they are willing to continue that on a second date. Some people just get all caught up in that lust moment (sexual state) and may have other options or obligations that require their attention. A repeat performance would seem logical but in reality may be difficult to secure. If you truly desire another date with this individual, make an attempt (email, text, phone call, etc) skip the obvious “last night was awesome, I had fun, etc”. Ask if they are ready for round two, but do wait a day or two BEFORE you make your inquiry. If you don’t get a response, or sense you are getting the run-a-round then it’s best to move onto another person. No need to send them a what gives email, voicemail….just move on. If they desire to be with you, they will let you know. Actions have always spoken louder than words.
NON-ESCALATION-keeps interactions light hearted, fun, simple by all means, but DO attempt to telegraph some interest beyond the FRIEND ZONE. That means touching or KINO, flirting, kissing, etc. Going beyond the typical interview questions and ever so gently nudging that envelope. Subtle persistence without going beyond her tolerance level is what you should strive for. Chics adore the attention and they know if they give in to temptation on date one, most guys will take full advantage of the opportunity. Always leave them wanting more!!!. If a second date transpires, building the sexual tension will pay off. FAILURE TO TRANSITION OUT OF FRIEND ZONE WILL LEAD TO HER SAYING "I just didnt feel any chemistry between us".
If you met the person organically (they already seen you in person), first date primary objective would be to establish some sort of connection, rapport, further attraction based upon personality traits.
MISTAKES-try to avoid rushing things, allowing for things to move at their own speeds builds momentum more steadily than forcing it. Give fate a nudge from time to time but stay away from quickening the pace. Touching too early, especially intimate fondling triggers a defense shield.
Asking for a second date while still on the initial date or Texting immediately after the first date may not always be the correct procedure to follow. It screams needy, insecure, low self-confidence, wuss and women sense this. It’s like an instant power shift, she now knows you are way into her and women enjoy the chase. By begging for a second date you decrease the desire. They may want a second date with you, but make that decision another day.
SUPER-DATES: I’ve been guilty of these types of dates a time or two. This is where you take a simple meet & greet and attempt to turn it into an all nighter. Things are going well and instead of leaving on a high note, you prolong the date. The scenario is simple enough-you meet at a mutual agreed upon location, share some laughs, drinks, etc then you proceed to bounce somewhere else. You start with some conversation at the bar, then move onto shooting some pool, next you head to the miniature golf range, ice cream, a long drive and usually ending up at a make-out session in your car. Some even try to F-close or transition to a sleepover. All these activities, this early on tends to produce a false sense familiarity. Again when speeding things up, mistakes are often over-looked.
DO KEEP IN MIND-------A person can make out with you, appear to be into you and may even engage in sex with you on date one, but that doesn’t always mean they are willing to continue that on a second date. Some people just get all caught up in that lust moment (sexual state) and may have other options or obligations that require their attention. A repeat performance would seem logical but in reality may be difficult to secure. If you truly desire another date with this individual, make an attempt (email, text, phone call, etc) skip the obvious “last night was awesome, I had fun, etc”. Ask if they are ready for round two, but do wait a day or two BEFORE you make your inquiry. If you don’t get a response, or sense you are getting the run-a-round then it’s best to move onto another person. No need to send them a what gives email, voicemail….just move on. If they desire to be with you, they will let you know. Actions have always spoken louder than words.
NON-ESCALATION-keeps interactions light hearted, fun, simple by all means, but DO attempt to telegraph some interest beyond the FRIEND ZONE. That means touching or KINO, flirting, kissing, etc. Going beyond the typical interview questions and ever so gently nudging that envelope. Subtle persistence without going beyond her tolerance level is what you should strive for. Chics adore the attention and they know if they give in to temptation on date one, most guys will take full advantage of the opportunity. Always leave them wanting more!!!. If a second date transpires, building the sexual tension will pay off. FAILURE TO TRANSITION OUT OF FRIEND ZONE WILL LEAD TO HER SAYING "I just didnt feel any chemistry between us".
