More or less a continuation of this post i made. But its a bit old and long to read all the way through.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=103783
Final update. Over the past 2 weeks with a girl in a LTR.
After making an effort to work things out. A month goes by and we talk about how we never go out together and only meet up after bars/clubs at 2am to sleep together and thats it. More of a FB relationship with hints of a past LTR.
Its not the same.
She goes through my phone one night while im sleeping noticing an ex gf called me. I want nothing to do with the x. My girl thinks im cheating on her. She even goes as far to phone the x. She dosent belive me when i say im going to the gym. She actually called me once while i was there, even drove there to see if i was working out. Becomes really insecure about us. Im not cheating im not even spinning plates. She acuses me and lashes out that im seeing someone else a few times. I reasure her im not.
We talk online and she doubts the relationship. Getting no where online i head to her house. Its 2-3am. We talk and when i get there shes fine. Emotion. Nothing but thats all shes feeling and thinking with. But i had an agenda. Im finally face to face and things pan out a little and she cries i get upset. I remeber asking her. Is this really what you want? You want it to end.
She responds "I guess so". Typically girl not a clear cut yes or no. So i kiss her on the cheek and say my goodbyes. Slamming the door on my way out. I drive home. I felt liberated i felt good. My exucution was flawless. I left the room while she was in tears.
Even though it was the end it still felt good. I go to bed to get up for a big day of starting fresh. But then i get a knock on my door at 5am. Its her... Shes at my doorstep in tears. Begging me to come back. Saying shes sorry she misses me shes been crying for hours. Im the only guy that really loved her etc etc blah blah blah. I felt like i had the upper hand i said i cant deal with her wanting to go to bars without me, girls nights out etc, its a meat market. She agress we should go out together. I had the power in this struggle.
Im a fool i let her in. She was so happy we made love all in the world felt right. Cuddled all day and made love all the next day. Due to my sleep schedule being all messed up from working nights for a year and still being on that schedule un employed. I wanna revert back to days. So i pull an all nighter the next day im exhausted. I try to go to bed early and right before bed were good, she ims me. Saying good night but has one question... Asking about the x again... why is she on myspace etc. More question im getting tired of it. I semi blew up saying she ruined my night because i stayed up all night and now here it is 2 hrs later talking to her about crap we already went through. So i stayed up all night and day with no sleep.
She says were only discussing not aruging etc so i say lets talk about it tmw im tired i need sleep she says ok love me goodnight.
Next day she dosent call nothing. We were gonna hang out she blows me off. Turns her phone off. Come to find out 3am she went out with her single girl friends. With there single guy friends and had fun etc etc. I cant tolerate this. I meet up with her at 4am. In a parking lot we talk for 2 hrs. We both mutually agree to end it. I cant have my gf in a commited relationship out at bars supplicating to male attention. There are a million places to go but bars. I was drug free for 22 years i should know. There is life outside of that scene. And its a singles scene why is she in it when in a commited relationship?
We end it and i hug her ready to leave. She dosent let go. I told her are you sure? I say, im not going to phone you, if you show up at my door i wont answer after this we cant be friends there is no us in the future, this is the end. I can never be with you again knowing you will be with another guy it will hurt too much. Then we talk more and agree to work on it go out together etc, spend more time together. But i can never blow up on her like i did.
Next day passes. We hang out. I make plans for us to do things. She feels distant. She didnt wanna do anything but go to my place and lay down. We end up fuking. But before hand she wants to wear a condom. Says shes getting new birthcontrol and she dosent wanna get pregnant etc. We never used a condom. She didnt push it. Just brought it up. Apparnetly it wasnt that important.
Near the end before i bust i think she didnt want me to anywhere but not in her i did anyways.
She passes out shortly after.. i begin to think..
when i was 18 i had gf that cheated on me. She didnt want me to bust in her anymore a week prior to us breaking up due to her fuking someone else. I once busted in her and she was furious. Come to find out the guy ended up stopping at her house 15mins after i left once. To have sex with her only to have another guys, HER BFS man juice up in her. She ended up losing us both.
Anyways my girl wakes up and i wanna go again. Shes ususally all for as many times as i can go. She complains she dosent wanna shes tired she wants to go home and sleep. Its only 11:30. She ends up taking alot of things she leaves here. I notice its odd. Shes cleaning house to an extent.
She goes home and is online for the next 4 hrs.. Im like "no sleep" she says she has a burst of energy and is shopping online. Dosent say a word to me. I ask, somethings up. She says "it dosent feel the same"... i say give it time we just broke up twice in a week we need work. You cant expect things to be perfect in a few days, give it a week let the dust settle and if still dosent feel the same we ll talk.
She has work the next day, dosent im me, nothing, no goodbye nothing. I im her a few times. She agress before work to come by the next day and drop some of my stuff off.
She never shows up the following day, thats today. Nothing. I called her phone. Its off. I went to a friends house to explain my story to tell him he has the same **** happen. Pretty similar and he can relate. It hurts. Now its 2am, I left her 2 voice mail messages nothing. She went out. No call no show agian. What in the fuk.. I wish i never opened that door. Im getting that gut feeling shes seeing someone else. But i would say in general she has a good history and a good reputation. She was with a guy in the military who went away for a year and she never cheated on him. All her friends and alot of people can attest that she was good in behavior.. at least in public. She would go home at night but not with anyone else.
Now what... im tired i dont wanna be an option. I feel sick to my stomach and like crap that i took her back. Is she cheating do i have cause for concern? Or is there a reason. Nevermind females dont use logic they only go with emotion. I dont know whats up but i cant sleep. Its eating at me. This one itis. But a week ago i felt fine its what i wanted. I took her back and now IM the one thats a mess. Shes out having fun while i sit here and post on this forum of my pain and misery. Do i let her get ahold of me to talk, do i blow up, do i jsut confront her? I would have more repspect for her if she told me there was someone else if there is... so i can move on faster. It would help.
The power play has switched its on her shoulders how do i get it back. At some point she may get ahold of me. But if i act like this im being un reasonable. But when shes insecure and cries and i dont pick up the phone immediatly im the a-hole.
2 of my friends suggested no giving a crap. Just bang her like shes a fbuddy but there is alot of emotion involved to just not care. Thats the problem i started to care. When i didnt care things were great once i started to care, we went downhill fast.
God im a mess...
i also just read this http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=83349
all 7 pages and i can relate... i took the red pill and i wanna throw up, dont think it helped my situation... thanks for reading it and i appreciate any relplies and advice
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=103783
Final update. Over the past 2 weeks with a girl in a LTR.
After making an effort to work things out. A month goes by and we talk about how we never go out together and only meet up after bars/clubs at 2am to sleep together and thats it. More of a FB relationship with hints of a past LTR.
Its not the same.
She goes through my phone one night while im sleeping noticing an ex gf called me. I want nothing to do with the x. My girl thinks im cheating on her. She even goes as far to phone the x. She dosent belive me when i say im going to the gym. She actually called me once while i was there, even drove there to see if i was working out. Becomes really insecure about us. Im not cheating im not even spinning plates. She acuses me and lashes out that im seeing someone else a few times. I reasure her im not.
We talk online and she doubts the relationship. Getting no where online i head to her house. Its 2-3am. We talk and when i get there shes fine. Emotion. Nothing but thats all shes feeling and thinking with. But i had an agenda. Im finally face to face and things pan out a little and she cries i get upset. I remeber asking her. Is this really what you want? You want it to end.
She responds "I guess so". Typically girl not a clear cut yes or no. So i kiss her on the cheek and say my goodbyes. Slamming the door on my way out. I drive home. I felt liberated i felt good. My exucution was flawless. I left the room while she was in tears.
Even though it was the end it still felt good. I go to bed to get up for a big day of starting fresh. But then i get a knock on my door at 5am. Its her... Shes at my doorstep in tears. Begging me to come back. Saying shes sorry she misses me shes been crying for hours. Im the only guy that really loved her etc etc blah blah blah. I felt like i had the upper hand i said i cant deal with her wanting to go to bars without me, girls nights out etc, its a meat market. She agress we should go out together. I had the power in this struggle.
Im a fool i let her in. She was so happy we made love all in the world felt right. Cuddled all day and made love all the next day. Due to my sleep schedule being all messed up from working nights for a year and still being on that schedule un employed. I wanna revert back to days. So i pull an all nighter the next day im exhausted. I try to go to bed early and right before bed were good, she ims me. Saying good night but has one question... Asking about the x again... why is she on myspace etc. More question im getting tired of it. I semi blew up saying she ruined my night because i stayed up all night and now here it is 2 hrs later talking to her about crap we already went through. So i stayed up all night and day with no sleep.
She says were only discussing not aruging etc so i say lets talk about it tmw im tired i need sleep she says ok love me goodnight.
Next day she dosent call nothing. We were gonna hang out she blows me off. Turns her phone off. Come to find out 3am she went out with her single girl friends. With there single guy friends and had fun etc etc. I cant tolerate this. I meet up with her at 4am. In a parking lot we talk for 2 hrs. We both mutually agree to end it. I cant have my gf in a commited relationship out at bars supplicating to male attention. There are a million places to go but bars. I was drug free for 22 years i should know. There is life outside of that scene. And its a singles scene why is she in it when in a commited relationship?
We end it and i hug her ready to leave. She dosent let go. I told her are you sure? I say, im not going to phone you, if you show up at my door i wont answer after this we cant be friends there is no us in the future, this is the end. I can never be with you again knowing you will be with another guy it will hurt too much. Then we talk more and agree to work on it go out together etc, spend more time together. But i can never blow up on her like i did.
Next day passes. We hang out. I make plans for us to do things. She feels distant. She didnt wanna do anything but go to my place and lay down. We end up fuking. But before hand she wants to wear a condom. Says shes getting new birthcontrol and she dosent wanna get pregnant etc. We never used a condom. She didnt push it. Just brought it up. Apparnetly it wasnt that important.
Near the end before i bust i think she didnt want me to anywhere but not in her i did anyways.
She passes out shortly after.. i begin to think..
when i was 18 i had gf that cheated on me. She didnt want me to bust in her anymore a week prior to us breaking up due to her fuking someone else. I once busted in her and she was furious. Come to find out the guy ended up stopping at her house 15mins after i left once. To have sex with her only to have another guys, HER BFS man juice up in her. She ended up losing us both.
Anyways my girl wakes up and i wanna go again. Shes ususally all for as many times as i can go. She complains she dosent wanna shes tired she wants to go home and sleep. Its only 11:30. She ends up taking alot of things she leaves here. I notice its odd. Shes cleaning house to an extent.
She goes home and is online for the next 4 hrs.. Im like "no sleep" she says she has a burst of energy and is shopping online. Dosent say a word to me. I ask, somethings up. She says "it dosent feel the same"... i say give it time we just broke up twice in a week we need work. You cant expect things to be perfect in a few days, give it a week let the dust settle and if still dosent feel the same we ll talk.
She has work the next day, dosent im me, nothing, no goodbye nothing. I im her a few times. She agress before work to come by the next day and drop some of my stuff off.
She never shows up the following day, thats today. Nothing. I called her phone. Its off. I went to a friends house to explain my story to tell him he has the same **** happen. Pretty similar and he can relate. It hurts. Now its 2am, I left her 2 voice mail messages nothing. She went out. No call no show agian. What in the fuk.. I wish i never opened that door. Im getting that gut feeling shes seeing someone else. But i would say in general she has a good history and a good reputation. She was with a guy in the military who went away for a year and she never cheated on him. All her friends and alot of people can attest that she was good in behavior.. at least in public. She would go home at night but not with anyone else.
Now what... im tired i dont wanna be an option. I feel sick to my stomach and like crap that i took her back. Is she cheating do i have cause for concern? Or is there a reason. Nevermind females dont use logic they only go with emotion. I dont know whats up but i cant sleep. Its eating at me. This one itis. But a week ago i felt fine its what i wanted. I took her back and now IM the one thats a mess. Shes out having fun while i sit here and post on this forum of my pain and misery. Do i let her get ahold of me to talk, do i blow up, do i jsut confront her? I would have more repspect for her if she told me there was someone else if there is... so i can move on faster. It would help.
The power play has switched its on her shoulders how do i get it back. At some point she may get ahold of me. But if i act like this im being un reasonable. But when shes insecure and cries and i dont pick up the phone immediatly im the a-hole.
2 of my friends suggested no giving a crap. Just bang her like shes a fbuddy but there is alot of emotion involved to just not care. Thats the problem i started to care. When i didnt care things were great once i started to care, we went downhill fast.
God im a mess...
i also just read this http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=83349
all 7 pages and i can relate... i took the red pill and i wanna throw up, dont think it helped my situation... thanks for reading it and i appreciate any relplies and advice
