Yo Troops!
Good points ALL.
And to the original poster:
The answer is YES. It DOES get tiring. And I would say that if you are in ANY relationship where you are ROUTINELY having to force yourself to keep coming up with new ways to ENTERTAIN some chick------her interest level in you is not NATURALLY high enough.
OR, just as worse----she's just too INCOMPATIBLE to you.
I've been on many missions in the area of mutually agreed upon monogomay, and I have found that the women who had HIGH interest in me, were the ones that were impressed by me. But the ones who had HIGH interest in me AND were also more COMPATIBLE with me were MORE impressed by ME (who I actually am as a person)--------AND they stayed with me FAR longer.
The more into YOU the chick is, the LESS you have to do to maintain her interest. A chick that's INTO you will lay on the couch with you ALL weekend doing absolutely NOTHING and be happier than a homosexual in jail. But a woman that's NOT into you will REQUIRE that you do DAVID COPPERFIELD level magic tricks to KEEP her entertained while she's in your presence.
You see, soldiers, women often feign compatibility when they have sky-high interest in you. But once they get "used" to you, you'll find THEM becoming more disagreeable and bored over time.
This is the dark side of the Pick Up Artist, Smash and Grab, Hit it and Quit it mentality that is pervasive in much of our "enligtened" community both here, and in many other places. This is why very few men out here can only give other guys LTR advice only up to a certain point.
But this is NOT to slight their advice, because I believe it is valid. I only point this out to draw everyone's attention to the reality of the fact that the STRATEGIES and TACTICS of being a constant challenge, being a self-confident man, and being emotionally self-controlled is only HALF the battle, soldiers.
The OTHER half of the battle is ofen ignored, or TOTALLY overlooked by the vast majority of the men out here fighting this war between the sexes. The thing I speak of is "COMPATIBILITY".
The reason why most good relationships/marriages last can often be traced back to how compatible the two people are.
Worthwhile LTRs and marriages are prizes won by successfully connecting with the other person on as many levels as possible. A world-travelling supermodel can have as high an interest level in a rural, home-body, farmer type guy as she wants. But ULTIMATELY, unless that interest translates into a TRUE desire to embrace ENOUGH of the things that the OTHER person enjoys-----it's an incompatibility timebomb ticking. And when it explodes, the relationship usually is blown apart.
The more areas of agreement and like-mindedness that two people share, the more their lives become intertwined.
And the more INTERTWINED those two lives become, the LONGER those two lives stay connected.
And the longer those two lives stay connected, the HARDER it is for them to be pulled apart-----either by inside or OUTSIDE forces.
THIS is always the looming danger of emotionally investing into the life of another person. The risk of personal internal damage is GREAT. But along with this risk is also an even GREATER reward.
For IF you choose your women wisely in a long term relationship...
The Victory Unlimited Definition:
A woman who has high interest in you fueled moreso by HOLISTIC reasons as opposed to ONLY compartmentalized or superficial ones.
...then the rewards would far outweigh the risks. However, this holistic type of viewpoint in regards to hooking up with women is NOT the one that most guys take----especially those men that fall under the category of the bitter, the immature, the emotionally scarred, and/or the totally SELFISH. But freewill remains a WONDERFUL thing, and to each his own...
But still, THIS is the ultimate FAILURE that awaits most men who discover that they have sold their soul in the pursuit of a misguided cause. I speak here of those men who have chosen to focus the bulk of their mental, physical, and spiritual resources on figuring out how to please and control their interactions with women, as opposed to ALSO investing AT LEAST just as much of their energies into figuring out how to please and control THEMSELVES.
You see, NICE GUYS (unenlightened, misguided, but well-intentioned men) fail in the short run because they focus on substance rather than style. And PICK UP ARTISTS fail in the long run because they focus on style rather than substance.
The key to having a successful relationship with a woman is found in fully embracing a HOLISTIC approach, men. If you choose a woman whose high interest in you is due to her attraction to BOTH your STYLE and your SUBSTANCE, then that often elusive element to maintaining a woman's high interest level that's called "COMPATIBILITY" will have a better CHANCE to manifest itself during the course of the relationship.
March on.
