Do you really see dating as a "game"?

[Splendidostring]

Hi guys,

I've been thinking about it for a couple of days. Thinking about how dating can be a "game" for some people. I also realized I really don't see dating as a game.
For me, dating is about connecting with someone. Like I said in my other post, I need some chemistry. Of course I have fun seducing girls, but my real optic is to find girl(s) I can REALLY feel myself around. Sure, there will be test and other stuff, but I choose to believe it's possible to find one or more girls I can love. Hell, there's BILLIONS of girls in the world, I know I can find at least one that can really dig me and vice-versa .

What do you think?

 

[Luke Skywalker]

I view it the same way. Fundamentally, I'm looking for a connection to share with someone and have that rush that you get when you feel excited about seeing someone that could go anywhere.

However, it seems I play games with myself (i.e. trying to deal with nerves, conflicting or even contradictory intentions (i.e. wanting to connect sexually, vs. moral/religious values), etc....) than to even think about dating as a game, but to each their own.

 

[BustedKnucks]

Dating is 100% a game. Sometimes, even if you really like a girl, and she genuinely likes you, you have to play this game in order to fulfill certain expectations before a relationship even has a chance to develop. It's stupid, but that's romance in America. My boss's daughter today was complaining that she'd never been out on a date. I told her that's because she isn't attracted to the type of guy that would ask her on a date. Women of our generation are all floozies. They want to be charmed off their feet by confidence and swagger, not roses and a candle-lit dinners.

 

[Casually]

Dating *is* a game in the sense that it has certain rules, and that you can adopt certain strategies that will improve your success, a la game theory. It's not so much a "game" in the sense of "I'm just doing this for fun without any emotional commitment", although it can certainly be played that way.

 

[Following_of_Me]

It depends on my mood. Sometimes I feel like chillin, then dating is just a part of life that comes and goes as I please, if I see a girl I'm interested in, I'll see what happens. But other times I'm bored, and when I'm bored I'll just look for a challenge, and then life in general becomes a game. On more than a few occasions I've challenged friends to get girls, or simply challenged myself by sayin "Alright, I'm bored...where's there a woman, I need a good hunt." in which case, yes, it is definitely a game.

 

[Four_Aces]

It's a game until it gets serious. Then comes the kids, the house, soccer practice, and stretch marks from the C-Section.

 

[Paintballguy]

It's a game until it gets serious. Then comes the kids, the house, soccer practice, and stretch marks from the C-Section.

Don't forget the hallway sex. When you and your spouse pass each other in the hallway, you both say "**** you".

 

[Splendidostring]

Hola guys

Hehe "Following of me". I can relate to what you're saying. Sometimes you meet a girl you really enjoy being with and then it seems natural. But sometimes, there's nothing in stock and as you said when you get bored, you're gonna seek some pleasure.

 

[rushing dude 123]

i hate to say it but i saw it like a hunt lol, i would never ever do a one night stand its to easy, even when i can, i like a hunt so i do the whole dating thing because i find it way much enjoyable and when i do get a girl wanting to do it i leave it (unless i got some serious connection). Its like when fencing u disarm there sword and ur just about to stab them but u decide to walk away, but just knowing u could is enough.

And now i am at a stage where i only hunt things worth my time, i don't hunt small frys, i only go for the big catches lol girls u actually connect to. It ****s my mind up though, because once i have something i don't want it anymore because the whole chase is gone lol. But i am freshning up my mind set is bit better now, but once u get to into the game side of things its hard to get out. But i will take both sides on board and decide whats the best route to take. I feel i should hold back now and not rush things.....lol, but rather just take each step slow so u can enjoy the scenery much more, but have the edge because u still have knowledge of the game.