I will say this.
I will preface this by saying I am crazy about my wife and love her very very much. she is still drop dead gorgeous and i have no desire or intention of cheating on her. I do not believe in soul mates but as far as staying with someone for the rest of my life, if that is going to happen she is dfinatly the one i would have the best chance with. if it doesn't work with her it's just not going to work for me lol because she fits me like a glove in all aspects of my life. she makes me laugh, she makes me happy, she doesn't bust my balls (most of the time at least) over stupid ****, she even does **** that i know she doesn't like doing beucase she knows i like doing it like going to college football games.
and note, my wife reads this forum i amv ery sure she will read this. we have ahd this talk before, i'm not saying anything we haven't already talked about.
now with that out the way, let's talk about cheating.,
the way i see it, you have 2 different classifications of cheating.
you have what i call long term cheating and short term cheating. It's important to make this ditinction beucase regardless of what woman says not all cheating is equal.
Long term cheating is say you work at... i don't know, apple, in the accounting part of the business. you go to wokr every day, there is a girl at work who has taken an interest in you. she is different from your wife, she knows you are marired ands till wants you. one thing leads to another and it gets sexual. she likes you and wants to keep seeing you, you keep seeing her going behind your wife's back
short term cheating is say, your wife is out of town to visit her parents and you had to stay back becuase you had something that could not be missed. you want tog et out the house you go to the pub you see a gilr there who is visiting from out of town, you hook up, you never call her again.
iMHO, long term cheating is something i could never do. the reason being is that, for me to get in into a long term cheating mode, i am basically living another life. honestly it's not even about the lying ican lie if it's in my best interest to do so and will lol. it's just.. if i am that unhappy in that marriage to continue to see this woman, then oblivious something in my own personal life is not right and i am not happy. in other words, i would not happen because i would not let my life get to that point in the first place. if i am that unhappy i am just going to leave my wife so she never has to worry about me carrying on an affair.
short term cheating, i'll be honest, i could see it happening. i travel a lot. sometimes without her. i'm not going to say i am never going to do something. But i can say that i have not really wanted to. i've had chances. But the will just is not there right now. i'm a very happy man, and i can go a few days without some poon. I will be 29 next sunday, now i am 39 and my wife is 44 and some 26 year old is hitting on me when i am out of town for something, i don't' know i can't predict the future and i'm not going to try. I just know that as of yet i really have not had the motive or will.
she thinks i have cheated on her before like that. not for any specific reason, just the matter that i do travel a lot and she thinks that i mgiht have or have hooked up with another girl while out. one of the reasons we click so well is because she is very pragmatic, more so than most women. she's not the type of woman that would get too pissy if i stuck oreo cookie in the milk one day as long as it was just that, one day, and as long as i did not keep going to the grocery store to keep buying more milk. she knows i love her very much. and oddly enough, that's really what takes the will out of it.
and honestly, if i am 44 and she is 49 and some 30 year old gym instructior gives her the business, i really don't think i would be all that up in arms. i really don't, because it's just sex. i know how she feels about me. she is totally devoted to me and her/our son. a guy finding her hot and fvcking her brains out once isn't going to change that. nor would some 22 year old leggy red head hitting on me and me plowing her for sport fvcking purposes when i am 38 years old is going to change the way i feel about my wife.
PS- no zerko i am not setting the stage for me cheating later in life. quite the opposite actually. i am a betting man and if i had to make a wager right now on if i would cheat on my wife i would take the under. but i can'te tell you how i am going to act when i am 39 or 49 beucase i have never been 39 or 49 and i am not so stuck on myself where i am so zealous to where i am going to tell you what i am not going to do 10 years from now. all i can tell you is where i have been and where i am and i have not cheated yet, and really have not had any interest to.. i got all my sport fvcking done before i met her and have no real desire to do such.. if she continues to be who she is now i would predict i won't cheat. but just that, predict.