I think it's possible to reframe even a marriage that's gone south, but the man has to reinvent himself 100% and do some serious mental jiu jitsu on his woman even to have a chance at making her respect him again (if she ever did). There was a great post on Roissy a couple of months ago about this. See here.Trader said:The question is, *why* do guys let their gfs walk over them? I agree part of it is due to being programmed by the Matrix: they think this is how relationships should work.
But sexuality is natural. You have what it takes to be a man naturally. Why is that sexuality (i.e. dominance, taking charge) is not finding a way to be naturally expressed in the relationship?
Someone insightful said that since men are basically neutered in their relationships, the only way they can *get off* is thru porn and watching sports. Those are the rare moments where they can feel like a man.
It IS sad when guys think they have to kowtow to their wives/gfs, or when they "joke" that she's in charge. It simply means these men are operating from a position of fear - fear of loss, fear of being single, etc.
Even in the seduction community, I think there is a massive gap in understanding the consistencies between what it takes to attract a woman and what it takes to keep her around and respecting you. This is one of the things addressed a lot in the MM threads, and with good reason. A lot of men have had that "a-ha" moment when they realized what it took to attract women (confidence, lack of desperation, sense of humor, etc.). Get them in a relationship, and it becomes clear that that sense of social dominance and "game" was the equivalent of a sheep wearing wolves' clothing.
Being a man is a 24/7 thing. It doesn't turn off at work, or when you're alone, or with your buddies. It certainly shouldn't stop when you've gotten serious with a woman.