Master of the Universe
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DJs, we've worked on initiating and maintaining eye contact, greeting strangers, and starting up conversations with chicks... now it's time to put all our skills to use, and get us some phone number!
Purpose of this lesson: For this fourth week in the DJ Boot Camp, our goal is to overcome any fear of rejection, and build calluses against rejection. As such we are going into the field, and start collecting rejections from girls. By getting rejected, we will see that it's not the end of the world, and that in fact, it will make it easier to approach girls. Plus, we'll be getting phone numbers in the process!
Reading Material
On rejection by Paradox http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000686.html
Rejection is a natural part of becoming a DJ... but imagine if a basketball player called it quits, or whined and complained because he failed to make a basket... he'd be worthless. Rejection and failure are part of the game, accept them as stepping stones for becoming greater, instead of shackles that will forever keep you down.
Self Confidence by chicago#1 http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001294.html
How often do we do things that are more scary than asking a girl for her phone number, things which should put the fear of God in us, but just don't phase us at all. However, when we approach that cute girl and go for the number, we're ready to pee in our pants. Well, it's about time we see things in perspective!
It hasn't been that bad by BigBill http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000706.html
Take a look at how this guy started from nothing, to slowly building himself up, to the point where he got six phone numbers in one class setting! (make sure you read through this guy's second posting on the thread)
How to Handle Rejection From Women by terminator911 http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000519.html
Rejection is part of everyday life. In fact, everyone gets rejected several times a day, but we rarely notice it, unless we read too much into it. Here are some methods to look at rejection that will help you put things into perspective.
How to get the # and split by Pimpologist http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000614.html
Here's a quick, simple, and effective phone number close!
How to "Close the Sale" 95% of the time and get that date! by Master of the Universe http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001200.html
Here's the step-by-step procedure for getting a girl's phone number. Basically always assume that the girl will go out with you, and from there, follow the simple procedure and watch your rejection rate drop dramatically!
Exercises
All right guys, now the fun really begins!!!
We've worked on approaching girls, and initiating a conversation with them. Now it's time to put our skills to the test, and start reaping the rewards of our labors.
For this week's lesson, your mission is to go out, approach girls, and close for their phone number. However, instead of our focus being getting a certain number of phone numbers, our goal is to actually get a certain number of rejections. The reason is pretty simple... at this point, we are working on killing off our fear in asking a girl for her number.
So, for this week, we are to go out, approach girls, and go for a phone number close. We are to do this until we have been rejected a total of ten times. Believe me, the first one or two rejections might be a bit tough, but after that, it'll get easier and easier... not to mention more and more fun.
A couple of notes about this exercise...
1) Be in a playful mood when asking for her number. Don't be shy, don't be nervous. I know this sounds easier said than done, and yes, the first couple of times you probably will be shy and nervous. Heck, you'll probably be shivering, sweating, and shivering. Don't let that get to you, after a couple of number closes, you'll feel 1,000% more confident!
2) Try different closes. Experiment with different ways to get the phone numbers. You may want to try to ask her for her phone number on the pretext that the two of you can do whatever you were discussing, you can simply tell her "I have to get going, but give me your phone number, and I'll call you later," etc. The reading material above gets into detail on how to ask for the phone number... have fun with it!
3) Practice overcoming objections. Think about it, attractive women get approached all the time. In order for them to have a life at all, they develop automatic objections that they deliver to guys who ask them out. Don't let those objections get to you. In fact, as long as a girl isn't rude or even worse, apathetic, I'll try to overcome at least a few levels of objections in order to get her to give me her number.
For example, if she tells me "I have a boyfriend," I'll tell her "That's great, but I'm asking for your number, not his" or "Wow, that's wonderful.... when's the wedding?" She'll usually laugh and say that they're not planning on getting married yet. To which I reply, "Well, then it can't be THAT serious. Give me your phone number, and we'll have fun."
The point is, whatever objection she throws at you, see if you can overcome it. Believe me, it's a fantastic high when you get a girl throwing objections at you, and you slip and slide through each one! For me, at least, as long as she's smiling and enjoying the conversation, I love overcoming objections. Some girls do this to test guys, and see how you handle the situation... so come out of it on top!
4) Don't wait until the last day or two to go for your ten rejections... there's just not enough time. Instead, you might want to pace yourself, and make it a goal to go for two rejections per day until you reach your goal of ten.
Well DJs, let's go out an get rejected!!!
At the end of, or throughout, the week, keep us posted on how many phone numbers you've acquired in the process of collecting your ten rejections. Also, let's share some good laughs with each other, and tell us about the worst rejection you get. Trust me, there's no better way to get over a rejection than by laughing about it with others who can empathize with your experience.
All right DJs, let's rock!!!
Master of the Universe
[This message has been edited by Master of the Universe (edited 05-13-2002).]
Purpose of this lesson: For this fourth week in the DJ Boot Camp, our goal is to overcome any fear of rejection, and build calluses against rejection. As such we are going into the field, and start collecting rejections from girls. By getting rejected, we will see that it's not the end of the world, and that in fact, it will make it easier to approach girls. Plus, we'll be getting phone numbers in the process!
Reading Material
On rejection by Paradox http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000686.html
Rejection is a natural part of becoming a DJ... but imagine if a basketball player called it quits, or whined and complained because he failed to make a basket... he'd be worthless. Rejection and failure are part of the game, accept them as stepping stones for becoming greater, instead of shackles that will forever keep you down.
Self Confidence by chicago#1 http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001294.html
How often do we do things that are more scary than asking a girl for her phone number, things which should put the fear of God in us, but just don't phase us at all. However, when we approach that cute girl and go for the number, we're ready to pee in our pants. Well, it's about time we see things in perspective!
It hasn't been that bad by BigBill http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000706.html
Take a look at how this guy started from nothing, to slowly building himself up, to the point where he got six phone numbers in one class setting! (make sure you read through this guy's second posting on the thread)
How to Handle Rejection From Women by terminator911 http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000519.html
Rejection is part of everyday life. In fact, everyone gets rejected several times a day, but we rarely notice it, unless we read too much into it. Here are some methods to look at rejection that will help you put things into perspective.
How to get the # and split by Pimpologist http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000614.html
Here's a quick, simple, and effective phone number close!
How to "Close the Sale" 95% of the time and get that date! by Master of the Universe http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001200.html
Here's the step-by-step procedure for getting a girl's phone number. Basically always assume that the girl will go out with you, and from there, follow the simple procedure and watch your rejection rate drop dramatically!
Exercises
All right guys, now the fun really begins!!!
We've worked on approaching girls, and initiating a conversation with them. Now it's time to put our skills to the test, and start reaping the rewards of our labors.
For this week's lesson, your mission is to go out, approach girls, and close for their phone number. However, instead of our focus being getting a certain number of phone numbers, our goal is to actually get a certain number of rejections. The reason is pretty simple... at this point, we are working on killing off our fear in asking a girl for her number.
So, for this week, we are to go out, approach girls, and go for a phone number close. We are to do this until we have been rejected a total of ten times. Believe me, the first one or two rejections might be a bit tough, but after that, it'll get easier and easier... not to mention more and more fun.
A couple of notes about this exercise...
1) Be in a playful mood when asking for her number. Don't be shy, don't be nervous. I know this sounds easier said than done, and yes, the first couple of times you probably will be shy and nervous. Heck, you'll probably be shivering, sweating, and shivering. Don't let that get to you, after a couple of number closes, you'll feel 1,000% more confident!
2) Try different closes. Experiment with different ways to get the phone numbers. You may want to try to ask her for her phone number on the pretext that the two of you can do whatever you were discussing, you can simply tell her "I have to get going, but give me your phone number, and I'll call you later," etc. The reading material above gets into detail on how to ask for the phone number... have fun with it!
3) Practice overcoming objections. Think about it, attractive women get approached all the time. In order for them to have a life at all, they develop automatic objections that they deliver to guys who ask them out. Don't let those objections get to you. In fact, as long as a girl isn't rude or even worse, apathetic, I'll try to overcome at least a few levels of objections in order to get her to give me her number.
For example, if she tells me "I have a boyfriend," I'll tell her "That's great, but I'm asking for your number, not his" or "Wow, that's wonderful.... when's the wedding?" She'll usually laugh and say that they're not planning on getting married yet. To which I reply, "Well, then it can't be THAT serious. Give me your phone number, and we'll have fun."
The point is, whatever objection she throws at you, see if you can overcome it. Believe me, it's a fantastic high when you get a girl throwing objections at you, and you slip and slide through each one! For me, at least, as long as she's smiling and enjoying the conversation, I love overcoming objections. Some girls do this to test guys, and see how you handle the situation... so come out of it on top!
4) Don't wait until the last day or two to go for your ten rejections... there's just not enough time. Instead, you might want to pace yourself, and make it a goal to go for two rejections per day until you reach your goal of ten.
Well DJs, let's go out an get rejected!!!
At the end of, or throughout, the week, keep us posted on how many phone numbers you've acquired in the process of collecting your ten rejections. Also, let's share some good laughs with each other, and tell us about the worst rejection you get. Trust me, there's no better way to get over a rejection than by laughing about it with others who can empathize with your experience.
All right DJs, let's rock!!!
Master of the Universe
[This message has been edited by Master of the Universe (edited 05-13-2002).]
