It doesn’t matter if she is or isn’t Music-Czar. Truly. Not to me.A little off topic but if someone called my mother a wh0re I wouldn’t give a fvck and would just walk away because I know she isn’t one..
I think that’s why promiscuous women go ballistic when you call them a slvt when you get really pissed off.. it’s because deep down the truth really hurts.
This says it all......my decision rests on knowing if it did or didn't happen.Those are all nice pie in the sky type of advice, did you get that from a hallmark card?
Number one, what does he hope to learn? Yes, I let him f*ck me right in the a$$. Hmm boy, good stuff to have that image rolling around in your head. No recovering from that, no matter how much booze or therapy you goto. You're always going to have that image of her in your head as long as you are together.
Two, what is there to recover? Yep, she cheated, great, now let's fix this mess? Are you serious? What is there to fix? Even if you could "fix" it, how could you ever trust her. Sorry honey, this is going wrong. Oh, oh, she might cheat again. Gee, she's been late at work all this week, I wonder if anything is going on. I mean, I could continue, but why? You know he can't trust her anymore, he knows he can't trust her anymore and she knows he doesn't trust her anymore, what else is there to say?
Finally, how do you get past being second fiddle? Here you are, investing in the relationship. Going to work, spending time with her, if there are kids, being a great parent. Probably very little time for the relationship but somehow, someway, she found time to go out and get her a$$ pounded. Nope, no going back from being friend zoned from your own wife, significant other.
Busy working,i have a business, kids, lifting, etc. etc. I read the first replies day of posting and didn't find much of value......fast forward to today and finding some good posts.What happened to the OP of this thread? No response from him yet.
-Augustus-
WHATLOL, but you believe in "women's intuition" I bet?
Instinct is what has kept animals and people alive and able to pass on their genes.
Logic is an additional advantage used to assist in that process.
oh, a love letter.I completely understand your reasoning. This is faulty thinking in the world of women.
In order to make a good decision one would need enough information to actually make an assessment. Yeah I probably picked the wrong post for that reply.
There are men all over this forum who wished they had followed their instincts.
No one said dump your wife. Lol. I didn’t. I said trust your instincts. In fact I would advise against it. I didn’t realize that “Trust your instincts” meant kick your wife to the curb. That is so binary thinking. Why would you jump all the way to the wide extreme? That’s not being a Rational Male. That’s like something a woman would say. No offense intended but it really is rather feminine.
Trust your instincts means become a better man and protect yourself. You will NEVER have evidence. The getting her drunk idea is rather stupid. Women are never that stupid. So first off, you won’t know when she’s going if she does. It will be a blind side. She may even change up her approach so you are calmed down again when she springs it, if she’s going to.
She already has your assets. Thinking she doesn’t isn’t being a Rational Male.
“There is no upside to marriage.” Rollo Tomassi
In my opinion...she belongs under competition. She should have to compete now. She finally took her man as a lesser man. Without competition anxiety there is no solution. That doesn’t mean cheat. That means that she should know that she can and will be replaced at the drop of a hat.
But what do I know. I only have four children and two houses I built with my own hands. Yep. Don’t know Jack. Never been through any of that. (Eye roll)
Ranger, "no" you do not understand my reasoning.I completely understand your reasoning. This is faulty thinking in the world of women.
In order to make a good decision one would need enough information to actually make an assessment. Yeah I probably picked the wrong post for that reply.
There are men all over this forum who wished they had followed their instincts.
No one said dump your wife. Lol. I didn’t. I said trust your instincts. In fact I would advise against it. I didn’t realize that “Trust your instincts” meant kick your wife to the curb. That is so binary thinking. Why would you jump all the way to the wide extreme? That’s not being a Rational Male. That’s like something a woman would say. No offense intended but it really is rather feminine.
Trust your instincts means become a better man and protect yourself. You will NEVER have evidence. The getting her drunk idea is rather stupid. Women are never that stupid. So first off, you won’t know when she’s going if she does. It will be a blind side. She may even change up her approach so you are calmed down again when she springs it, if she’s going to.
She already has your assets. Thinking she doesn’t isn’t being a Rational Male.
“There is no upside to marriage.” Rollo Tomassi
In my opinion...she belongs under competition. She should have to compete now. She finally took her man as a lesser man. Without competition anxiety there is no solution. That doesn’t mean cheat. That means that she should know that she can and will be replaced at the drop of a hat.
But what do I know. I only have four children and two houses I built with my own hands. Yep. Don’t know Jack. Never been through any of that. (Eye roll)
Another love letter to me.If counseling "worked" for you, that's great. No matter how you slice it, that's extremely emasculating, bottom line. If you can take being emasculated from your own "wife" and continue down the road with her, good for you. I don't see many self respecting men taking being cucked from their own wives. You can get counseling for that but honestly, unless he's f*cking chicks left, right and center or beating the crap out of her, there's not much reason for her to be out f*cking other guys. It takes both sides to make a marriage work, can't simply shift to blaming him because she cheated, that's dumb.
Assets, yep, that's a reason to stay together while your "wife" is gulping down some other guy's c*ck. Good advice. Repeat the mistake? Good god no man, that's when you stay single and have fun instead of living in an artificial hell created for you by someone you are supposed to be able to trust. I've lived through cheating and no, not interested in trying to "fix" something like that.
To be clear, you have to have verifiable proof before you start accusing but if he does get it, time to move on. She forgot to pick up the dry cleaning? Fixable. She forgot to pick up milk after work? Fixable. She tells you on a bad day to go f*ck yourself? Fixable, as long as it not a frequent type of thing. She rides some other guy's c*ck? Dude, not fixable, no matter how much you'd like to advise him to do so, although I'm not sure why.
Another love letter to me.If counseling "worked" for you, that's great. No matter how you slice it, that's extremely emasculating, bottom line. If you can take being emasculated from your own "wife" and continue down the road with her, good for you. I don't see many self respecting men taking being cucked from their own wives. You can get counseling for that but honestly, unless he's f*cking chicks left, right and center or beating the crap out of her, there's not much reason for her to be out f*cking other guys. It takes both sides to make a marriage work, can't simply shift to blaming him because she cheated, that's dumb.
Assets, yep, that's a reason to stay together while your "wife" is gulping down some other guy's c*ck. Good advice. Repeat the mistake? Good god no man, that's when you stay single and have fun instead of living in an artificial hell created for you by someone you are supposed to be able to trust. I've lived through cheating and no, not interested in trying to "fix" something like that.
To be clear, you have to have verifiable proof before you start accusing but if he does get it, time to move on. She forgot to pick up the dry cleaning? Fixable. She forgot to pick up milk after work? Fixable. She tells you on a bad day to go f*ck yourself? Fixable, as long as it not a frequent type of thing. She rides some other guy's c*ck? Dude, not fixable, no matter how much you'd like to advise him to do so, although I'm not sure why.
If you actually want some advice, you need to give some information:Busy working,i have a business, kids, lifting, etc. etc. I read the first replies day of posting and didn't find much of value......fast forward to today and finding some good posts.
It’s funny how such a weak being, literally everything about them other than p$ssy power, can be so unaccepting and intolerant of that quality in a man.Because they don't have a nurturing instinct towards their male protector unless instilled by society. They actively detest weakness unless socialized. Meanwhile, male protective instinct is natural. Female neediness in waif format is literally attractive to men.
I think she was/is cheating due to behavioral changes- very guarded phone, occasionally i'd wake up middle of night and she be on phone, less sex than normal/less desire when we did, then when she started to work out/lose weight - I just woke up to the reality then...……….married a year, together 5+...…………..no kids, but each of us has kids from prior marriages...………….I made more in beginning and do now, but there was aperiod during business start up where she made more.If you actually want some advice, you need to give some information:
Why do you think she was cheating? How long married? Kids? Who makes more money?
-Augustus-
I'm with you bro but I ask the same question in reverse...what does a woman need from a man in 2018? They usually have decent education, job/career, own their own places, travel with their girlfriends...have plenty of orbiters and the pvssy power. No wonder they're intolerant of most guys and all feel like they should be with Chads.It’s funny how such a weak being, literally everything about them other than p$ssy power, can be so unaccepting and intolerant of that quality in a man.
I mean really think about the modern woman. What value does she have in 2018 other than her p$ssy?
Married only a year, so the financial impact should be minimal, no children together, so no child support or custody issues. The sex has dried up, pretty obvious that’s she’s cheating based on what you’ve said.I think she was/is cheating due to behavioral changes- very guarded phone, occasionally i'd wake up middle of night and she be on phone, less sex than normal/less desire when we did, then when she started to work out/lose weight - I just woke up to the reality then...……….married a year, together 5+...…………..no kids, but each of us has kids from prior marriages...………….I made more in beginning and do now, but there was aperiod during business start up where she made more.
Opinions varyWHAT
oh, a love letter.
Ranger, "no" you do not understand my reasoning.
Go back to building houses, * please. Stop writing love letters to me. Btw, op, excuse me, some people are easily hurt by strangers on forums.
Get some counseling & time of work. Peace. Best of luck, this is not the place to seek opinions.
Number one, the main point of my response was your comment about getting counseling, so please, go back and check your comment. Second, ok, if it makes you feel better, insert significant other to better understand it doesn't have to be someone's wife. Ok, your girlfriend is gulping down some other guy's c*ck. Does that make you feel better? Does that make you feel like counseling would work better? Geez, stop getting so hung up on a single word, think about things more in concepts and you'll begin to have a better understanding of the world.Another love letter to me.
I never said I was married. Nor to keep a cheating wife. Your "comprehensive" skills are admirable. Cheers. lol
Perphaps counseling is for people who are codependent and need help letting go -Number one, the main point of my response was your comment about getting counseling, so please, go back and check your comment. Second, ok, if it makes you feel better, insert significant other to better understand it doesn't have to be someone's wife. Ok, your girlfriend is gulping down some other guy's c*ck. Does that make you feel better? Does that make you feel like counseling would work better? Geez, stop getting so hung up on a single word, think about things more in concepts and you'll begin to have a better understanding of the world.